i was molested by an uncle when i was a kid, it's been a nightmare relived over the years and now that?

Question

all the cousins are getting married, he's being invited to all the festivities! things are humiliating day by day-the cousins MAY or MAY NOT know about this evil done to me-their parents are well aware of this for sure-the pedophile has been invited and in touch by his siblings which has only supported his plea and position-i would like to email them all a matter of factly email stating what he has done to me-especially his inlaws that don't know and his 17 yr old daughter-my life has been hell on fire for years because of this animal-if i were to email him and the family, can my email be traced back to me? i would like to send it as if it were an outsider-if i were to use my pc at a wi-fi facility, can it be traced back to me? the reason i intend to do this anonymously is because i don't want anymore drama in my life-only serious responses!

Answer 1

Lisa firstly did you report this molestation at the time and was it taken seriously by those around you. If not do not even attempt to email your relatives particularly anonymously you could put yourself open to prosecution !!

You need support on this and if it wasn't reported you can do now if this is genuine and he did this to you he needs stopping because he probably has done it to some of the other children in your family as well.

No matter what you need help to clear this from you life in a good way it will always be there. Seek advice from your GP or a nurse at the Surgery if they have one available.

If this went to court and he was found guilty there is no way he should be anywhere near those children. Think about it and for your own good and any children that he is in contact with you need to take action but in a positive way. Do it all legally.

And you must choose to keep away from the family gatherings at this time it would not be right for you.

Answer 2

Lisa, I quote" my life has been hell on fire because of this animal "unquote. Animals need to be penned up.

Dont you think he may have already had a go at some of the other younger members of your family? Or kids away from the family ?

You need to talk to someone quickly.. a school nurse, or councellor, better still... the police. They will ask you questions with care and dignity too, they`ll give you a break when you need it.
An email will give you a bit of an outlet but not enough to save other members of the family or even the outside in the community.They have to be saved from this paedo.. thats what he is and what he is likely to stay.

these weddings are an ideal opportunity for him to get away with the crime because parents are going to think their kids are safe but you deep down, know that they arent safe at all.Kids are so vulnerable and dont realise its bad at first, especially if he pays them or blackmails them into keeping their little mouths shut.
Do the right thing and go to the police, you are stronger than you think you are.

Sending an email round the family will only put him on red alert and he gets a chance to alter his story.
save the kids..theres going to be plenty at family weddings.

Answer 3

I can understand that you want to make sure others are aware of his behaviour. After all, the cousins will eventually have children of their own. Remember though that any emails could theoretically be traced back to you.
I would suggest that you talk to social services or to the child protection unit or to your GP or try the NSPCC. Any of these services should be able to help and advise what to do next.
In addition, do not go to any of these family gatherings if he is going to be there. It will only upset you even more. Do something else on those days and don't just stay home though.

Answer 4

It really hurts when other family members know about this and choose to include the molester anyway. I think that before you do anything, you should get into therapy and get support. Skip the events he will be attending. If asked why, explain your reason. When you have had time to do some healing, I say confront him. For those in your family who believe you and support you, continue to have relationships with them. Those that don't and continue to associate with him, leave them behind. I wish you hope and healing. I know firsthand what you are going through.

Answer 5

I think anonymously denouncing the old man is about as low and disgraceful as you can get. If you really want to ruin his life and you can prove what you say, tell the police, and be accountable for your own words. If you can't prove what you say, be silent.

Answer 6

Hi hon.

the first think you might consider is some therapy. i was sexually abused as a child, and i developed post traumatic stress disorder, which affected my entire life.

taking care of YOU is what is best right now... and by getting revenge, stewing, worrying and exposing yourself to this Uncle in person, isn't going to help your recovery.

your best bet is to avoid situations where this man is present, right now.

and i think the best advice you will get, is from a therapist.

believe me, sexual abuse (or any abuse) leaves very deep, emotional scars, and for good reason.

you can also look up SURVIVING SEXUAL ABUSE on line, for information, and suggestions.

please take care. hugs

Answer 7

Phone the cops anonymously. From a pay phone

Answer 8

yes your e-mail can be tracked back to you, but even if you went to an internet cafe, they would still know it was you as you would have to reveal yourself to let them know this was true.

If I were you, I would have this animal arrested and sent to where he should be, in prison and then you should take pleasure in knowing he will be another mans B I T C H.

Then you can get yourself some professional help and try and continue with your life.

Answer 9

You WILL be traced, unless you use Yahoo mail or Hot mail, and use a false name and address etc.
Also use a proxy server, and NOT your own!
BUT
Sending malicious e-mails is a criminal offence!
If he DID do you harm, then REPORT HIM to the police!