Me and my b/f have been dating for about 3 months now. All of a sudden, he's been wanting to have sex. Like every date we go to, all he thinks about it sex. We kiss and stuff. Then he feels me up. At first, I didn't let him, he got pissed and slapped me ... HARD. I didn't react. I was too shocked.(Although I did have the urge to slap him back). So the next time, I let him feel me up. I was way too scared. Like, he can be really sweet and stuff. It's just that when he's pissed, you really don't wanna be anywhere near him, unless you wanna get beat up.(Ya, I've got beaten up before). And I can't break up with him, cuz he's in a gang. (I never knew this though, just recently found out). So I just have to wait till he gets tired of me, right ? Anyways, I really don't know what to do. I'm so scared. And I can't tell my parents cuz i'm not allowed to date, according to them. But they don't know about him. They just think that we're really close friends. Please, help me. I'm so scared.
2007-07-28 12:46:56 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell your parents! They are your best friends. They can help you. Call the police. Place a restraining order on him. You call the police every time he tries to talk, hit, or send threats to you through other people. That guy will not even be able to send smoke signals to you without being in trouble with the law. If the guy doesn't take a hint, he will go to jail. Eventually, he will get weary of going to jail and leave you alone. That is what I did years ago to an abusive ex who use to hit me and tried to run me over with his car, amongst other things. I was 15 when I met him and he was 23 years old. My parents didn't approve, however I was sneaky like you and it only landed me in this situation. He was very violent with me and my love that I had for him turned into fear. It is never good to stay in an abusive relationship, it only gets worse. If you value your life, get out of that relationship fast. Tell your parents, and notify your school about the situation. They will help. Trust me, don't stay in this relationship any longer. My heart goes out to you. I will also pray for you. Be very careful.
2007-08-05 05:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out while you can. Slapped you girl, get out. It has only been 3 months and he is slapping you and beating you up. Things won't get better only worse. Don't go out with him anymore. I know it may hurt to tell you parents but believe you me parents and be very supportive and helpful in a situation such as this. If something were to happen to you they would be devasted. Don't give this guy another chance. You deserve better than this. Please get help though cause he doesn't sound like a good guy at all.
2007-08-05 12:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by jeva75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you should do seeing as how he is abusive and you really don't want him to do anything crazy is to just become too "busy" to even hang with him. Tell him you have to study, have chores, whatever. Make it get to a point where he gets sick of not being able to see you and maybe he'll dump you. You've only been going together for 3 months so it shouldn't be that hard to get rid of him. I don't want to tell you to do anything that could potentially get you hurt like call the police on him or anything so I guess first I would try to make him sick of you or bored, or tired of you. I mean he can't hit you, fondle you etc if you don't have time for him and don't meet with him. Just keep busy and become unavailable. Don't answer your phone, and if he calls your house tell your parents to tell him you are busy... Good luck girl... If all that doesn't work then you might need to just call the police or just tell him you can't go with him anymore..
2007-08-05 11:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dimples2168 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You NEED to get him out of your life fast, before something horrible happens to you. Fill your parents in on the situation (it seems scary now, but you and them both, will be glad you did).
And talk to the police...This guy should not be able to have such control over you!!
Also, it doesn't matter how sweet he might be one minute, the point is you can't trust him to be the next. You never know when his switch will flip, so to speak. You deserve far better than that!
I'll be praying for your safety and well being...
God bless you, sister.
2007-08-05 12:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by roo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your parents. I am positive that they will be happy that you told them what was really going on and will be concerned for your safety.
I'm not sure how old you are, but whatever age, you need to contact the police.
You need to get away from this guy, no one has the right to hit you or make you do anything sexual that you don't want to do. You need to lose all contact with him, if you have a cell phone, change your number, change your screen name, and if he knows where you live, you might possibly have to move.
But above all, tell your parents and the police.
2007-07-28 12:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should really tell Ur parents no matter what the circumstances are because Ur parents will b there for u no matter what..You should also get a retraining order on him because Domestic Violence is Big in the US so he would get charged..
I do have a question...
Has he ever threaten to kill you if u dump him or show u any weapons?..
2007-07-28 12:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥AmBuh Babii♥ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey u have to tell ur parents they may be mad at first but when they see that ur in danger and u r they will help u out of this mess u see my 15 yr old daughter was in the same place as u many years ago and now its to late i will live with the thought of her thinking she couldnt come to me for the rest of my life ur mom and dad will support u please dont wait
2007-08-04 23:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ribbon 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, PLEASE get away before I read about you dead. If you continue in this it will only get worse. I was hospitalized because I just "let it happen" I am LUCKY I didn't die, he cracked my skull with one punch. It took me 5 years to get out, but then I met the man I am married to now. If you can't tell your parents, what about your school, do you have a councilor? What about an older family member? Find someone to help you please please please. Don't let any "friend" hurt you physically. I am scared for you and honestly am begging you to tell your parents and try to get help. You never have to wait for someone to get tired of you. In my opinion he lost you at the first slap.
2007-08-05 10:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by suzieg 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of two girls.You need to get away from this guy.He has no respect for women.Gang or no gang .Tell your parents !
if he harms you in any way.They know where to go first.I am offering my help to you if your to afraid to tell your parents I would be willing to mediate for you .I hope you do the right thing sweety.
2007-08-05 10:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by speedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT!!!!
Sounds like a really bad situation that you need to talk to someone about before things get truly out of hand.
So if this is a repeat of a previous situation that you have found yourself in then you know what to do.
Good luck!
2007-08-05 07:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by libragurl66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋