Here is the story.
A short time ago, a person was killed as a direct result of unloading my companys product from a truck. The person made a fatal error in judgement while unstrapping the load and it fell on them. I know it isn't my fault or anything but I am the last person to have inspected load and strapped it in before it left. Now, after doing some research, I unfortunately found out who the person was , what they looked like and that they had a family and how much they were loved by so many friends and family. I'm just sick about it and can't get it out of my mind. I'm just asking for advice how to overcome this guilt?
And I also ask for prayers for their family....and prayers for me.
Thank you.
2007-07-28 12:36:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
fireboss, you don't even know the situation. And, it wasn't my companies truck. It was shipped on a comercial carrier and this person worked for the commercial carrier. The load was strapped as safe as possible. so, next time shut your ignorant mouth "sir"
2007-07-28 12:49:34 · update #1
Its normal to feel that way when it hits close to home
2007-07-28 12:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you feel that some neglect on your part contributed to your employee's death. Feelings of guilt is a normal grief reaction. It's important not to keep such feelings to yourself. Talking about how guilty you feel can provide a much needed release. Always remember that no matter how much feel for another person and his family, we cannot control his life. Ecclesiastes 9:11 says "time and unforeseen occurrence befall them all". No doubt if you could have foreseen the accident coming you would have surely intervened. But nobody has the ability to see the future.
Psalm 34:18 says, “Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” Prayer can be a great help. Psalm 55:22 tells us, "Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you.” Divine help does not eliminate the pain, but it can make it easier to bear. Talking out your feelings with a sympathetic friend can also help.
2007-07-28 20:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by Paul&Zandra C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel with guilt and all. But one thing
people never consider is that God decides when we die.
I tell this story alot, two soldiers who rescued Jessica Lynch,
( a very dangerous mission) came home alive and came
back to the states and died in car accidents. It was their
time and we have no control over it. The best you can do is
pray for the family and give your guilt to the Lord. Blessings to you. Remember the Lord gives and the Lord takes away.
2007-07-28 19:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's always good to talk about it. it's normal to feel bad over anyone's death. i honestly don't know what to say. when my nephew died i felt horrible for a long time because i feel like there was some way i could have prevented it. hindsight is always 20/20. just ask God for peace of mind and always pray for the family. my prayers are with you and the family.
be blessed.
2007-07-28 19:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayers are being said as I type.
I have no answers for you except to know that God knows how you feel, and He can comfort you through family and friends. If it will make you feel better to talk to a minister or a counselor, do it.
Blessings to you!
2007-07-28 19:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by batgirl2good 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know many guys who drive loads for different types of product companies. You know what their number one complaint is? Unsafe load packing. I think you do bear the responsibility and should feel bad. Do you know at least 4 people I know have had unsafe loads fall on them and injure them. Some not too bad to chest and head injuries.
You company owners have done so many cutbacks that employee safety has seemed to go out of the window. I'm not going to even get into all of the forced overtime that most companies put on drivers with no helpers to ride along. You can do better and get safer trucks for your drivers. Why ask for a clear conscience among strangers when you already know what you need to do.
2007-07-28 19:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by lou_lou 2 · 2⤊ 5⤋
this is sad , and I think anyone would feel as you do even if they werent directly responsible
I honestly dont know what to say , but maybe a gesture to their family would help ease your pain in some way
a card or something to let them know you are thinking of them
love to you xx
2007-07-28 19:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray and Ask the Holy Spirit to comfort you.
2007-07-28 19:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by Maurice H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many people are driven by guilt. They spend their entire lifes running from regrets and hiding their shame. Guilt-driven people are manipulated by memories. They allow their past to control their future. They pften unconsciously punish themselves by sabotaging their own success. We are products of our past, but we dont have to be prisoners of it.
2007-07-28 19:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by PRGfUSMC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need counseling. My sister ran into an old lady and killed her. It was not her fault but it took years to get over it. I cannot see why it is your fault, but I know it can be difficult.
2007-07-28 19:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
THE DEVIL IS PLAYING TRICKS WITH YOUR MIND TO MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT,HE WAS THE ONE WHO MADE THE MISTAKES WE CAN CANNOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OVER OTHER PEOPLES ACTIONS ALL WE CAN DO IS PRAY AND THATS EXACTLY WHAT I WILL DO FOR YOU AND THIS MANS FAMILY,BE STRONG,REBUKE THE ENEMY AND HE SHALL FLEE
2007-07-28 19:45:06 · answer #11 · answered by God Child 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋