Last week I got asked out by this guy. He wanted to take me out for my b-day (which is today) and he called earlier today to tell me that he wasn't going to be able to take me out because his sister's car broke down, so he was going to have to take her around. He tries to help his sister and her family out the best way he can because he says that she is barely making ends meet, plus she's pregnant again, so whenever she needs him he tries to be there for her. Now on one hand, I can understand that, but also, for me, this was a major embarassement because I've told ppl all week that I had a date set for today and that I wasn't going to be available today. I guess you can say that I'm stuck and I don't know what to say or do when I see him Monday at work. Right now I'm dissapointed, but on the other hand I really don't know what to think or say cuz what he had to do with his sister may have been more important than taking me out. What should I do or say to him when I see him Monday?
2007-07-28 12:19:10 · 9 answers · asked by Mizz Dimplez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know first impressions means a lot and when you ask someone out you should keep your promise. I just don't want to tell him that I will go out on another date with him some other time and then get stood up again! I already have it made up in my min that I wasn't going to say anything to him Monday, but then I thought about it and realized that (being the type of person he is) he'll be all in my face Monday trying to explain, and I won't know what to say or do.....What should I DO??
2007-07-28 12:24:08 · update #1
I wouldn't take it too personally. I think you should just tell people what happened and on Monday you should ask how his sister was doing. I think that knowing that you understand about how much he really cares for his sister makes him feel more at ease rather than embarrassed to have backed out on you, especially on your birthday!
2007-07-28 12:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him how his sister is and if she got her car fixed. don't be mad these things happen. just ask if you can reschedule your date. just because it won't be for your b-day doesn't mean you can't act like it call your friends and try to get a party started. if they ask give them a few details about what happened. they'll probably think he's a saint for helping his pregnant sister instead of thinking he's a jerk for standing you up. just step back and realize that things happen. i'd rather have a guy that i know is willing to help a girl out than one who would stand by and let you fall
2007-07-28 19:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by crystal g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much. You need to know more about him before you may ascertain whether or not he is being truthful to you. Time will tell. At least he called, he is no obligation other than a phone call to reschedule or cancel.
Happy Birthday anyway, Jim
2007-07-28 19:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by jimsg718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pretend that everything is ok.you have to understand him. i know it isnt the same, but my sis is disabled so of course i have to provide taxi service and be with her the whole time, in case she needs something. but its worth it cause i love her more than anything in the world. even though we are 5 kids in the family, i also have to take it upon myself, and after all her life is a hell of a lot harder than mine, i cant imagine living in her shoes. so yes, i would definately give up a date for her. especially if i could ask him out another time!
you just gotta remember...what he could have with you- maybe it will last a while, but most likely not for ever...but what he has with his sister- thats for life.
2007-07-28 19:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Morya tal i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really like this guy, nothing is wrong with telling him that you were disappointed and was really looking forward to that date on your birthday but you understand the situation with his sister, however he still owes you that date.
2007-07-28 20:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by Firebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters, ask him if it went okay helping his sister out. Show some manners. If he wants to make it up to you, for missing your birthday, that would be cool.
2007-07-28 19:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be understanding and put yourself in his position,but also make sure he knows you felt hurt.be as normal as possible to him and reschedule the date
2007-07-28 19:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by mel and mel's mommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him,but don't be rude.Let him know how you feel,and maybe he can make it up to you.
2007-07-28 19:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by angel86 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be embaressed
2007-07-28 19:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋