am i too young?

Question

i just turned 16 and my boyfriend and i have been going out for 2 months and 2 weeks. hes a really great guy, really faithful, attractive, and my parents love him. hes really good to me and he was my first kiss...

but 3 weeks ago we had sex and again 2 nights ago. the first time we didt use protection because it was a spur of the moment thing but the second time we used a condom, i am going on birth controll very soon hopefully

we are going to be dating for a while, we're both crazy about eachtoehr and i knew that someday we were going to have sex just not so soon. am i too young in your oppinion? my mother/dad dosnt know and of course would NEVER approve, i come forma strong christian home.

Answer 1

Yes, I think you are too young. Sex shouldn't be a spur of the moment thing. If you want to have sex, you should always, ALWAYS use protection. First off, I don't know how you are going to pay for birth control when you would still live under your parents' roof. If you come from a Christian home, perhaps you should listen to the values that your parents raised you with. You are very, very young. Sex means that you have the chance to have a child. You are not ready for a kid. I am older than you are, and I am not ready to have a kid right now. I don't have the time NOR the money to do that. Don't make choices that you have to hide from your parents. Keep the relationship with your parents open and honest. You will be glad you did. Wait until you are married. It is very, very much worth the wait. It is the way that God intended. He made you with a plan in mind. Keep in mind that he's got big idea for your life, you only have to trust him.

Answer 2

Girl...your crazy. 2 months and 2 weeks. That is like saying, I am 7 and 1/2 yrs old going on 8 soon. 2 months is nothing. You should wait. You said he is faithful. A relationship for a year or two is just starting to be faithful. How are you going to get birthcontrol? You need to be 18 to see your doctor by yourself.

Regardless of birth control or your parents involvement...make him wear a condom. EVERY TIME !!!!

This is your only protection. Now that you have had sex, I assume that you will continue because sex is fun and it feels good. That is only natural. But, please protect yourself. I know that you say he is really good to you and he was your first kiss, and you are going to be dating for awhile, but in reality......your relationship with him will most likely end at some point in time. you are very young and you will have the chance to meet a ton of guys before you meet Mr. Right. Good Luck to you, and be smart.

Answer 3

16 is the age of consent when it comes to sex. and people are going to tell you a lot of different things and some are going to be hard to deal with. I'm going to try to keep my personal beliefs out of this.

Sex is a very emotional thing and can really mess with you if you aren't ready for it. it's not so much an age thing as it is a mental thing. If you felt you were ready and you are doing ok now then that's that. if you are freaking out a little bit about it afterwards (which sorta seems the case) then maybe you weren't ready for it just yet.

think about it. think about your feelings and if you are ok with everything and if you are comfortable with yourself and what you did. that's how you'll know. above all, no matter what you decide, please remember to always ALWAYS use PROTECTION when you have sex. EVEN IF YOU ARE ON THE PILL. because nothing is 100% so it's better safe than sorry.

Answer 4

Yes, I believe you are too young to have sex. You already have done it. It is hard to stop what you know pleases you. It is good to know someone as friends first for a long time before you go into further deeper part of the relationship. There are reasons you don't know that is why your parents disapprove. You may think your relationship is going well, but things can happen and your heart can be broken. I hope for your sake that this is a lasting relationship.

There are many people out there who think they have the one for them and for whatever reason, it doesn't work out. It is safer to get to know someone really well first. That way you know it is a Strong relationship.

Answer 5

I would say you're too young. You're only 16 and still have another two or three years before you graduate high school, then college. What if you got pregnant now? How would you continue on with your education? Would your boyfriend support you? What would your parents do? It's alot to think about. If you boyfriend really loves you, he'll do what's best for you and for him, which is to wait. If y'all do continue to date and one day get married, then they're will be plenty of time for this. Either way, you've still got a long life ahead of you-so make smart decisions.

Answer 6

Well, I myself am a christian and 16 years old. I had my first kiss a long time ago, but I'm still a virgin. I have thought about it, but because I have gotten really involved in my church I realize that there is really no reason. I think the Bible calls it sexual immortality and I don't think it should be done. Read 1 Corinthians chapters 6-10, somewhere in there it talks about marriage and sex... it gave me an odd impression. I don't think it should be done, but read those verses and think about it.

Answer 7

As long as you act responsible with all of any potential outcomes from having sex, you may be mature enough to handle it. Always use protections, and schedule Gyno appointments regualy to keep up with your body, and inform your doctor that you are sexually active, so that he or she can check regually for HPV and viruses. Always remember that sex brings along things that can be problem causing, condoms do not always protect 100 % from pregnancy and birth control does not protect you from potential diseases.
Regardless if your parents approve or not, you made your bed, just be prepared to lie in it if they find out. (mom's usually can tell by they way, its like a 6th sense)

Answer 8

I had my child at 17 and I love her to death. But having sex at an early age can be rough especially if things don't work out or if you end up pregnant. The first question you should ask yourself is "Am I emotionally and physically ready for this type of realtionship?" Honestly, I would wait. Lyfe Jennings said it best in his song S.E.X.

Answer 9

It is kind of late to be asking that question, but yes you are too young. One thing that kids need to realize is that having sex will either make you end up with a baby that you can't take care of or you probably will end up with a disease that can kill you. If this boy really cares for you, he will be willing to wait and you should tell him that you think that you are too young and that you want to wait. And stop, don't do it again until you are old enough to support yourself and be able to support a child if you get pregnant. But the best thing is to wait till you get married. And don't get married until you are grown up.

Answer 10

Well what you have to ask yourself is are you guys having sex "to make love to each other" or is it that you guys are just doing for plain pleassure. Because if it is for pleassure I'ma just let you know that you guys are just hurting yourselfs. If it is for love than that is something you guys can built and later on use to prolly spend your entire life together. I come from a Catholic family so I know what you must be going through.