Why do my parents hate me?

Question

I get really good grades in school I help out around the house I respect them. But they seem to only care about my younger sister. When I do anything for them they Automatically think that my sister did it, and she never confesses that she did it she just lets them thinks that. And they dont believe me when i try to tell them. They forget my birthday, but they go on a cruise for my sisters. What do I do?

Answer 1

Oh my goodness, why dont you talk to your grandparents?? this terrible. and I do know of other parents who do this, they really dont see it either. Honey I care... you can come live with my son and daughter in law.. They would love to have you ... they have a 15 year daughter who would love a sister...... but seriously. talk to another relative... have them talk to your parents..... and show your parents this question you asked..... also show them the answers......... they might see themselves in it...... please email me and let me know you are ok and what happens.. .I care

Answer 2

First, know that your parents do love you . It is wrong of them to treat your sister better, different or with more attention than you, but they do love you ... you are their child.
Maybe it is possible you are exaggerating a little bit...or maybe it just appears that way to you. Or maybe she is their favorite, but they do love you regardless.
Just keep doing what you are doing and don't worry about telling them who is doing it or trying to get recognition for it...they will know who is doing all of the work in the end.
A lot of times it just seems like parents appear to do this sort of thing towards a sibling, but if you take a close look, I am sure you're not overlooked as much as you think you are. Perhaps you're just having a bad day and feeling sorry for yourself...that is okay and it is normal to do this occasionally, but not all of the time. Just don't let it take over your life (feeling this way). And try not to dislike your sister or your parents because of it.
If it continues and you really feel unloved or mistreated, then sit down, talk to them and let them know how you feel... and ask them to explain their feelings about it to you.

Answer 3

WHAT? how can your parents forget your Birthday??? I am a parent... I could Never forget my kid's birthdays!

I saw your question, & took a look because I have always had struggles with my parents for as long as I can remember. However, mine were a bit different & still are to this day.

You parents obviously play favorites. I'm not sure how to advise you, as I don't do this with my kids... I think if I were to receive a letter from one of them that stated how they felt (like what you described) I would take a look at myself in the mirror & owe you a huge apology! Try the letter... Sometimes, people don't realize they have hurt someone, unless you tell them. You have nothing to loose.

And I wish you the best!

Answer 4

I think it's time for U to get a mature person, to sit with U and talk it out.[with mom and dad]They have a jewel and don't see it .Don't stop being a great person to spite them. [Though they deserve it] You will be on your own before u know it, time dose fly. Your reputation as a great kid will proceed U. People notice things as they are, even if ur parents are blind to them.You will be welcome where ever u go .Don't wear ur self out worrying about it ,go make good paths to follow in life. Prayer helps us to endure hard times, and brings us blessings.[such as good loving friends]Take speaking courses at school so ur comfortable talking to people ,you'll be very popular. It will also help when u get jobs in the furture, or job interviews now. This might sound far reaching but, I could'nt make my Mom see me for my brother. So I made my own life with friends and their families. Check out ur relatives u may have some great people, to take up the slack from ur parents.Don't lose hope they may wake up, once someone gives them a nudge. I think I'd love to be a friend, to a nice person like u, and u can be sure I,m not the only one .Check out the answers and you'll see ur own worth. DO Not Get involved w/ anyone on the net,[only real people]. Christian LOVE and prayers 4u.

Answer 5

WOW- Look @ all the answers to ur question.....Favortism is NOT RIGHT! I am a PROUD PARENT of 3 children....This really hurts me 4 u......4GET UR BIRTHDAY, WHILE TAKING THE OTHER CHILD ON A CRUISE- UNBELIEVABLE! TALK TO THEM WHEN "THE PRINCESS" ISN'T AROUND, AND ASK THEM STRAIGHT UP WHAT THE PROBLEM IS...WRITE DOWN A LIST- BE PREPARED. IF THIS CONTINUES, TELL THEM THAT U CAN TAKE THIS NO LONGER AND MAKE A GAME PLAN TO LEAVE THIS UNFAIR ENVIRONMENT!! TAKE CARE & GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 6

Have you ever told them that's how you feel? Do you have other family members like grandparents or aunts and uncles that have observed your parents behaviour towards you and can speak to them? It's not uncommon for there to be a " Golden Child" in a family who can do no wrong in the parents eyes. If you can't speak to your parents about this, try to speak to your school counsellor and get some advice. All the best.

Answer 7

Since it seems like you are a good kid, I think you will really have to ask your parents to sit down with you for a talk. Then you will need to tell them what you just told all of us on Yahoo! Answers. From what you're saying, it sounds like you are some step-child and its just not clear from your explanation why parents would choose to ignore one child and lavish attention and material things on another. I hope you will find the strength to talk to your parents. If you feel you can't do that -- please write to them. It's important that they know what you are feeling. Believe it or not, they could be totally unaware that you are seeing things the way you do!

Answer 8

yo u can come live with me my parents will love to take care of you.SIKE but you need to sit them down and tell them how that makes you feel and if they don't care then just go and talk to someone that Will listen and they shouldn't push you away like they are.You know one day they are going to wake up and notice that they have a son there and that they weren't pay in any attention to you and they will feel bad trust me very bad and wut you do is turn your back on them because you don't treat any child different then another just keep your Head up and your make it threw it all

Answer 9

There could be several reasons.How much younger is your sister? Parents tend to help children who cannot take care of themselves. They look at your grades, they realize that you're very responsible and determine that you don't need their help. They are satisfied with you. On the other hand, they look at your younger sister whose grades may not be as good as yours, who's not as responsible as you are (proof is that she takes credit for your work) and therefore direct their attention to her. I'm sure they love you as much as they love your sister, only they don't show it. It's not nice, I agree, but please don't let it bother you. Remember, when parents don't pay much attention to a child, it means he/she is doing well. Congratulations on your good marks. Please continue your good work. Deep down, I'm sure your parents are very proud of you ... even if they don't show it.

Answer 10

i dont know your exact situation but hopefully i can shed some light for you. i have two sons,and as they were growing up, one was always good and one was always spirited. because the other was always good i never had to worry so i focused on the spirired child..i love both my sons the same but felt that i could depend on one to always do the right thing..im sure your parents love and appreciate you.