I asked a man on the bus to switch seats, since I feel more comfortable sitting on the right side & awkward on the left side. & he said, "Why?!" with an attitude, so I said, "You didn't have to be rude." & he said, "How was I being rude?" I said, "Nevermind." Then he got off the bus & was pointing & laughing @ me, & he told his friend that I'm crazy. & then, on the way back from WalMart, he was sitting on the left side, & the right side was empty, & so he saw me coming & hurried up & sat on the right side so I couldn't sit there, & he had this, "I dare you to tell me something" type of look on his face. That was the right side of the bus in the back seat & the bus was cold in the front. But I feel awkward sitting on the left side, since I have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. & then, he got off @ the stop after I got on. That was totally uncalled for if he KNEW he was about to get off the bus. So I finally got to sit there after he left when I was on my way home.
2007-07-28 09:31:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is NOT rude to ask someone to switch seats. He was a jerk. He has no reason to be so mean to you.
I HOPE:
He loses his hair.
His milk goes bad when he is in the mood for cereal.
His dog bites him.
His teeth fall out.
He becomes impotent.
He never can ever have ice cream again in his life.
His mother tells him he is ugly.
He isn't a nice man.
2007-07-28 09:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 6⤊ 6⤋
Sorry you had a bad experience on the bus. He wasn't being rude at first when he asked you "why" when you wanted to switch seats. However, his behavior became progressively rude as the experience went along.
You may have to "adjust" as best as possible when on public transportation. People tend to be very territorial when it comes to something like bus seats (I was here first kind of mentality).
Keep your temper in check and suck it up. It's a minor inconvenience and that guy turned out to be a big jerk. He may have had fun at your expense, but his behavior illustrated his juvenile attitude.
Try not to let it bother you. Even though you have OCD, take a deep breath and exhale. There are worse things that can happen to you than getting the seat you don't want.
2007-07-28 09:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Daisy 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-13 00:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by joleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but it *is* rude to ask someone to move from their seat to accommodate you. Plain and simple.
That, upon hearing his response, you told him he didn't have to be rude was a double strike against you. It is no wonder he did not want you to sit next to him when he saw you on the bus a second time.
Now, having said that, I have my own issues with being in public places. Specifically, I have an auditory problem and it is extremely difficult for me to filter out background noise, which is very annoying when trying to watch a movie in a theater. Over the years I have learned to approach people by
1) Saying, "excuse me."
2) Say, "I know this is an odd request, but....
3) Politely asking that they meet my need.
4) Humbly accepting the first outcome.
Guess what? 99% of the time people are happy to help! It is human nature to want to help others. My guess is that you approached th eman in the bus with a sense of entitlement as opposed to one of humilty.
2007-07-28 11:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by susanmaried 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
For an OCD-esque reason like this, yes, it is rude to ask someone to switch seats. Either take what is available or stand. And you were being rude for having started with the "you don't have to be rude" comment. If you were pregnant or physically disabled/injured, then his asking "Why" may have been rude. But, since you displayed no visible signs of needing one particular seat over another, his response was fine.
As others have pointed out, the world does not rotate around you. I see too much of this too often, when people are driving or shopping in stores or wherever. They feel "entitled" to special things or preferred treatment.
2007-07-28 09:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by 2007_Shelby_GT500 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
No, I don't personally think it is rude to ask someone to switch seats with you. It sounds like this guy was being a first class jerk!
I have been asked to switch seats quite a few times--and I have never had a problem with it. There are often good reasons people want to switch seats, such as someone not wanting the centre seat in the airplane because they are claustrophobic.
Don't let this rude guy bother you or ruin your day...
2007-07-28 09:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Maria 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Unless you have a physical limitation, you need to just take the next available seat on the bus. I am sorry you have OCD, there are lots of meds out there for that, but the world is not going to conform to your needs. So what if everyone had to conform to the needs of OCD patients? Then nothing would get done. People would be spending all day playing musical chairs on the bus. Then what about the depressed people? Nobody's allowed to laugh or play happy music? Then there's the schizophrenics. Do we need to listen to the voices in their heads too?
Part of living with a mental illness (or challenge, or disability or whatever you choose to call it) is adapting yourself to the world, not expecting the world to adapt to you. Yeah, the guy could have been a little nicer about it, but he also could have been a psycho who took just that opportunity to follow you to your destination, kidnap you, etc. Consider yourself lucky.
2007-07-28 09:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 5⤊ 5⤋
You may be the center of YOUR universe, but you're not the center of THE universe. Not everyone is going to cater to your quirks and you're just going to have to deal with it. While its not rude to ask, it is rude to throw a fit when someone turns down the request.
The only reason he was rude to you was to return the favor. I'm assuming you did the very dramatic *scoff* 'oh nevermind!' response to his question. Most people would be curious why they are being asked a favor; and ask 'why?', and most people would like to know how that curiousity could be mistaken as rudeness.
2007-07-28 09:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 4⤋
If you ask politely it shouldn't matter why you want his seat. It's not like you asked someone with children or a bunch of parcels to shove over.
2007-07-28 10:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your request was not rude, but it is rude to accuse people of being rude, even when it's true. And it is possible that what you heard as "attitude" was nothing more than surprise, which would have been natural enough.
But that certainly does not excuse the way he behaved afterwards, which was beyond rude.
2007-07-28 10:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋