I am 16 and i've been dating him for three years, i still care very much about him, i just don't want to date him. I cannot just dump him, i cant. the reason is because, when he cannot get ahold of me he'll call me 10 times then my mom10 times then my 10yr old sister 5 times then any one else he can think of. he recently got my phone taken away because he did not obey my mother's wishes, and she and my father do not approve of him any longer. He is very emotional, and cries alot and, says that he wants to marry me. He is very sweet, but he is causing too much stress in my life. I can't handle it. I was recently banned from speaking to him on the phone because he called my father's house at 1:30 in the morning! It's crazy. I need to end this, but i care about him. Just want to focus on school and my family. He won't understand.
2007-07-28 08:49:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there's not "easy" way to do it. You just have to break up with him as gently as you can. He will be emotional and you'll feel hurt because he's hurting but you have to stay strong. He's not the strong one so you can't go back on your desicion, it will be hard but you have to do it for the both of you.
i went through something just like this... And i stayed in the relationship for a year because he was "emotional" but it got to the point where i was just going to fall apart because of the stress. You don't want to get to that point. You have to end it and STAY STRONG. don't go back on it. Its the only thing you can do. It will be best for the both of you. Your not right for each other and even though he may be very attatched to you, you have to know that its whats best for him and you.
A relationship like that will continue to get worse, I know from experience. So stay strong and keep in mind that in the long run, Your making the right desicion. He'll be extremely upset at first, but it won't last forever, all feelings pass eventually. It will be better for the both of you after they do. you can have your life back and he can find someone who's right for him.
Hope i helped ^_^
2007-07-28 08:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you fo break up with him do it person, no one deserves to be dumped after three years on the phone, through an E-mail, or through a friend. Just try and break it to him easy, and be honest with him and yourself. Tell him that you care about him and want to be friends still, but being in a relationship isn't want you want anymore. You're sixteen which is so young, you need to do what you want and date other people too to get new experiences and live.
2007-07-28 15:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 16 and have "dated" for 3 years who the h let you. This boy has some serious problems. Sounds like he is or has the potential to become a stalker. You don't owe him happiness at the expense of your own happiness. Have your parents talk to his parents. Enjoy your youth, life is enough of a challenge when your an adult.
2007-07-28 15:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by redhighheelsneakers_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... even if he does cause trouble, you shouldn't break up with him. A young relationship like this does cause stress, but that's something you have to take up between you and him. Just ask him to tone it down a little. And if he wont, threaten that you'll break apart. Just try to calm him down and all. Otherwise, just tell him it's too stressfull now and tell him it's over. Easy as that. It's hard, but you have to do it.
2007-07-28 15:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Samson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him right away and dont let it extend any longer than it is now, its best to get it out of your system
it sounds like hes very obssessive with you, which can lead down to the wrong path...tell him all this 30 calls a day and calling your famliy in the middle of the night is just ridiculous
2007-07-28 15:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad thing is may have to break down and actually tell him it is time to move on. If he is calling just to talk or whatever reason he is not listening to you and does he understand that he can be turned into police if he continues to call (called harassment). tell him point blank to back off or take a chance and lose you forever. God Speed and good luck
2007-07-28 15:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by brian C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, that he is getting your phone taken away and causing stress at your house and that you still care for him dearly but if he doesn't straighten up and let loose a little bit and stop calling so many times at all hours of the day that you are going to have to end it.. if it keeps up end it..
2007-07-28 15:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just break up with him. If he's causing such a problem, there's no point in prolonging a relationship thats doomed. It'll be better for him in the long run, cuz his behaviour isn't healthy. Let him down softly.
2007-07-28 15:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by crazy_young_folk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he seems a little too obssesive to me. Why dont you just ask him to give your space first? And to leave you alone for a little while? If he doesnt do this, then say, you are being too obsessive and it is making me uncomfortable. I think we should start seeing other people. SImple as that
2007-07-28 15:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up as fast as you can. This is not needy this is dependency. If you think this is bad keep dating him and you will want to hurt him badly. If are feeling overwhelmed and stressed out then this is not someone you want in your life.
2007-07-28 15:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋