I am getting married 8/31/07 and my bf really hasn't done anything he has family he needs to call out of state and he hasn't done any of that. What do y'all think?
2007-07-28 08:46:02 · 20 answers · asked by lynsey the librarian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
guys aren't good at things like this
2007-07-28 09:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by 2bit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. My beloved was no help, either. In fact, one of my brothers was a groomsman and he called me one day and said if my beloved didn't call soon and tell him what to wear, he was going to show up in a kimono and a top hat! I told him I thought that would look sort of cool, but I also read my guy the riot act and told him he had to take care of it. He did it, so no kimono. In the end, it was the one thing he did for the wedding other than hand the band their checks...the ones I made out.
Ultimately, about all you can do is try to impress upon him how important those calls are and how little time there is left.
Are these calls you can make if he doesn't? It may come to that.
And keep in mind, some guys just don't get the mechanics of getting married, but still do care about being married. If this isn't part of a larger pattern of ignoring important matters or your wishes, I wouldn't panic too much.
2007-07-28 16:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know fighting isn't worth it. Some guys just aren't into the planning of a wedding. They want to leave it up to their fiance because he probably feels that you are very capable of handling all of the little things and the big things. Don't fight. Be glad tht he lets you have the say in everything. Some guys want to have a say in everything and sometimes that causes tension and fights. Urge him to call his family, and stay by him as he makes the call. When that is done, leave him out of it. Just as long as he shows up at the alter.
2007-07-28 21:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a weekend to wrap up the loose ends. Tell him a week in advance so he won't be surprised. Make a list of all the loose ends and put it on the refrigerator so every time he goes in it he will see the list and be thinking about it. Hopefully you won't be spending the whole weekend doing what he considers the "boring stuff".
2007-07-28 16:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by dbethanid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm ..... getting married in five weeks and he's done NOTHING? Surely the guests have been invited? If out of state guests haven't been invited yet they're not going to be there anyway.
In point of fact, of course, it's the responsibility of the bride's father to sort out the whole thing.
2007-07-28 15:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting a real picture of what your married life will be like. Do you want to be in a position of nagging and being a 'mom' to him? Since it looks like that is what will happen around your home. I dont mean to be harsh but it seems to me this is too early to be unhappy with his behavior. Usually it happens a few years into the marriage. Re think?
2007-07-28 16:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty typical - not to worry. Just means he's a manly man, and as long as he picks the tuxes and the wedding ring, you'll be doing fine. Be grateful he's not fighting you over him wanting lavender pouffy bridesmaid dresses - then this would be a very different question!
2007-07-28 17:39:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to get married??? Is he expecting you to take care of everything? If he is then this is how he will be after marriage maybe even worse. Sit down and talk it out with him. Its not worth getting married if the chances of divorce are in the near horizon.
2007-07-28 15:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know i had the same problem with my fiancee till one day i told him i canceled the tuxedos and my dress was put in storage cause i am not marrying my self, and since i am the only one planning this wedding i will look like a fool marrying my self thanks for not being there for me and when u decide to help then we will continue with the most beautiful wedding u have seen . it took him less than 24 hours to get his butt in gear and help me with invitations and calling people and helping get flowers etc. we have been happily married for 10 yrs and getting ready to renew our vows this novemeber. dont worry it will work ...
2007-07-28 21:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's quite typical. Mose men aren't interested in the details. Sorry...my finace does "man jobs" for our wedding...he booked the reception site, picked the menu, got the dj, and lots of other things...he knows this is his wedding too and he knows I don't want to do all this stuff.
2007-07-28 17:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to tell him to call peoples to come to the wedding.
But most of the time the guy doesn't plan, because the brides parents are suppose to pay for the wedding
another reason would be is that he doesn't ruin this special day to you or him so if he lets you run your show and make it beautiful it'll end up in u getting some(S.E.X) if u make it beautiful
2007-07-28 17:19:25 · answer #11 · answered by J3nn@ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋