so i've been dating this guy eric for 2 years im 17 now and hes 18. at the beginning he wasnt into drugs, but this past year he's been experimenting with all sorts of drugs, he use to just smoke pot but now hes doing everythinggg-coke,opiates, etc. he says hes just "experimenting" but i think he's really getting addicted. its scaring me and the drugs make him become a different person & he's not the loving guy i once loved. but i still love him enough to try to make him better. please help? what should i do?do i tell his parents?tell mine?
2007-07-28 08:38:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You made one bad mistake. You talked yourself into believing you could "make him better". You cannot change him.
Sometimes we have to show we love someone by letting them go.
You can tell him you care, but the drugs are not acceptable as a part of your life, and while he's taking drugs, he cannot be in your life.
That does NOT mean you can go out with him in between one drug use and the next. It means he HAS to be TOTALLY CLEAN to go out with you. Tell him he needs to go to rehab, and you'd be happy to support him when he chooses to do so.
Tell your parents why you are breaking up with him.
Tell his parents why you are breaking up with him.
If your families socialize, you can ask for a gathering to be set up and tell him with both sets of parents there.
Explain, you are letting him go till he's clean to show you love him, but now that he's on drugs, he's not the man you fell in love with.
2007-07-28 08:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you have to go through this... But he is seriously abusing you physically and emotionally. It's absolutely wrong. Call the police at school, ask a friend to give you a hand and maybe call for you. Ask your boyfriends family to help you, if they are really as supportive as they sound they can help you as well. After you are sure everything is under control, move out and into a place where you are sure you are protected. Dont get angry, it will eg him on. Show him simple forgiveness, the power of that is incredible.
2016-05-21 02:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also had a friend that used to be into drugs, coke ect..... and I told him up front that this **** has got to stop or I will leave you and never talk to you again! In the long run you can save yourself from getting hurt if your up front and honoust with him and yourself! You know as well as everyone that you dont deserve to be in that situation, nobody does! So be up front and honoust and dont be afraid to have someone there when your talking to him, in case the drug use is that bad and you think you might get hurt. And just for verification there's no such word as "EXPERIMENTING" when it comes to harsh drugs like that! You get hooked on the first snort of coke!
2007-07-28 08:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by laura b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES tell someone you trust and go up to your boyfriend and be all "it's either the drugs or me"..he shouldn't be doing the drugs. Drugs are bad they ruin lives......and sit down and talk with him about it and tell him how you feel and if he doesn't stop doing the drugs dump him...
2007-07-28 08:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him it's the drugs or you, if he picks the drugs and you still want to be with him (which, no offense, would be kinda pathetic) then go to his parents. if they can get him off drugs he might realize what he lost, a girlfriend who cared enough about him to try and help him, and he might come back to you.
2007-07-28 09:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by The Silver Lining 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i think you should leave him. Its going to get bad so you better get out before he does something wrong. or even worse start stealing for drugs and even kill ppl so let me know if i help you out and let me how you are doing ok bye
love baby_girl
2007-07-28 08:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, have a talk. If he keeps doing it, tell his parents, or yours, whoever you feel more comfortable talking to. This is not good, and if he continues it's gonna be a bad relationship; trust me. If he ignores all of this, dump him, I don't want you to get hurt.
2007-07-28 08:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cheaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get and stay away from him and hopefully he will work it out for himself . I think right now he does not know who he is and you should not be around him untill he gets some help and i do mean professional help and yes you should tell his parents and let them know that you are scared . good luck .
2007-07-28 08:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he going to be experiencing witha coffin and many broken hearts if he doesnt cut it out. tell him you miss who u used to be and dont want to lose him over sumthing stupid. u dont deserve it and neither does he! no 1 deserves to lose there life over drugs (unless they r like murderers or sumthin) hes also gonna experience prison if he dont stop your relationship is too precious to let it fall apart my mom did all those drugs when she was 13 and I sware to the lord himself she almost died thank god she didnt....good luck!
2007-07-28 08:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ABSOLUTELY NEED TO CONFRONT HIM OR HIS FAMILY. that is a serious problem. "experimenting" with those kind of drugs can lead to death even with one use. sorry to scare you but if you want to save him, and i mean as a boyfriend and possibly his life, you need to act fast. pretty much like getting off the computer and doing something now. please please dont wait. no should go thru what i did with one of my frriends....
2007-07-28 08:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by qwerty3454 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋