ok so there's this neighbor that i've known since kindergarten and i've always liked him, but nothin has ever gone on between us, like we've never dated or told eachother we liked one another. but evertime a new guy comes along i always seem to forget about him and think to myself, well i guess i never really liked him to begin with. but when me and that guy break up, i always begin to think about him again. and now theres a new guy besides the one i've liked (or think i've liked) my whole life, and hes really cute and nice, and i think i like him. but for some reason i feel really guilty if i date him, becuz theres always been something inside of me telling me that something will happen between me and my neighbor. and that if i date this guy and tell my neighbor im dating him then my neighbor wont think i like him, and may never ask me out then. i kno this is rlly confusing, but i just wanted to kno if i should move on from the guy i've known my whole life or go with the new one?
2007-07-28 08:25:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u have a crush on him, if u like ur neighbor then show him more interest, he will get ur attention.
2007-07-28 08:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what I've assimilated this is my answer : If you don't want to be on any losing end then how about you wait before you start dating the NEW guy.
People who occupy the back of your mind for such a long time , like the guy you know since kindergarten are worth getting to know whatever the cause maybe. So in my opinion you have to confront him, go out casually with him and clear your thoughts out. Whatever the result maybe ... good/bad, you will be at peace...and if that NEW guy is still waiting around for that date..then you've kinda managed to "have your cake and eat it too" ....
If you have already started dating this NEW guy then it would be better off for you to leave him out of the conversation entirely and then ask you OLD guy what he feels about you...in a way you are just safeguarding your interests...
I just hope my blabbering helped you out at least one bit , if not a lot ...
Cheers and have a nice day ..
2007-07-28 08:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by forgetfulmailer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart. You have known this guy your whole life. It seems you have liked him for just as long. Think about it, you probably know just about everything about him, and him about you. That is a great thing. It takes years and years to learn everything about someone that you are involved with. If you get together with your neighbor, think about the advantage you both will have by knowing each other so well. Communication will be easier. You know each others likes and dislikes. Sounds to me like the makings of a great life long romance.
2007-07-28 08:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think u may be using other guys to cover up or ignore ure tru feelings for the neighbor. It may just be curiosity that keeps pulling u back. but either way u need to pursue ure neighbor 1st that way if it doesnt work between u guys u wont feel guilty to move on. but be careful if u guys r good friends and if it doesnt work out it may damage the friendship. its like a catch 22 cuz if it does work out u guys will have a good relationship based on the fact that u guys were friends 1st.
good luck
2007-07-28 08:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by shes a dream come tru! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have known him your whole life, but has it sparked anything? if you have the more valuable relationship with your new guy, i would hang with him for a while, until maybe something happens with your neighbor. it may just be that he is totally into you but hides it, or all he wants to be is friends and has never thought about a relationship. what im saying is, for now, move on:) good luck!
2007-07-28 17:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by ashley101-zippedy doo dah! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i recently told a girl that iv'e loved for the last ten years ,that i still love her.it didn't go that smoothly,but i'm a new man,liberated if you will.just tell him,you don't have him now,so you can't lose anything if you tell him and it leads to nothing.On the other hand he could say that he's felt the exact same way about you.either way you are going to have a huge weight lifted from your shoulders just by telling him how you feel.In life the most difficult things to do,are usually the things with the biggest payoffs,and usually the right way to go.
2007-07-28 08:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by tally_fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try going out with the neighbor and see what happens!
you might have some chemistry there.. but you should also try the new guy.. you might have some there too.. who knows..
but i say give the neighbor a shot. ;)
2007-07-28 08:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by Concerned 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go with your gut i think if you hav ehad feelings for your neighbor for so long then you should take the chance because what is life without the risk.
2007-07-28 08:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by taylor p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're always going to wonder about the guy next door unless you give him a try, that is, unless you feel brotherly about him?
2007-07-28 08:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know this guy ur whole life n he never asked you out? go with the new one.
2007-07-28 08:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by yennay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋