I wrote the ? "Does my boyfriend just want sex or does he like me" and i got great answers. i have another ?
It seems to me all he wants is sex (thanks to the answers to my other question) but when we went to his house i would try to think of other ideas rather than havin sex. I would say somthin like "lets go to the beach" then beg him for half hour, then when he finally gave in he'll say "well get up so we can go" (cause hed always have me sit on his lap so thats why id have to get up first) and then when id try to get up he'd hold on to me and wouldnt let me get up and id really try to get up too but hes way to strong for me and i cant move. then he'd say something like we have to do "somethin"(sex) before we could go
he does this in a joking way more or less but its kinda scary that he does that, and knowing i cant get away if he really did get mad or was drunk one time if i told him i didnt want to have sex that nite is scary
could his "harmless messing around" turn bad
2007-07-28 08:24:09 · 12 answers · asked by Ash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 15 and he is 16
just so you know all he ever wants to do is have sex, (we had sex 2 weeks after we started dating (if you can call it dating)
2007-07-28 08:37:24 · update #1
He's a jerk who doesn't respect you. He'll probably force himself on you if you keep this up. Stop seeing him and tell your dad why you stopped.
2007-07-28 08:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ashley....
Please read this very carefully and slowly. It is very important that you understand how serious your situation is. Whatever you do now, you must stop having sex with him. You are way too young to have sex at age 15. You could get pregnant and become a mother.....I don't think you want that. Remember, protection is not 100% and a condom can break at any time.
Also you need to fully realize that he is using you, every answer you've gotten so far from your questions, and you've asked alot of them, are all pointing to your "boyfriend" using you for sex. I wouldn't even call him your boyfriend. He is just simply taking advantage of you, and you really need to STOP seeing him. He realized that you have a crush on him and hes just being with you to get sex out of it.
Like you have said in your questions, ALL he wants is sex and after 2 weeks you gave in. You made a huge mistake because by doing that he really thinks you are easy so you really have to stop. There are just too many potential consequences that could ruin your life. Your situation is really not considered dating at all. All you do is go to his house and make out, have sex....well that is pretty much a booty call. He is treating you like a hooker, and the best part is, its FREE.
So please don't be so naive and be smart. I know you are very intelligent and you could make much better choices. Its good that you are having second thoughts and are coming to Yahoo Answers to ask for advice. so I really hope you are going to make the right choices as soon as possible.
A real relationship is supposed to have the couple know each other through friendship, dinner, movies, hanging out sessions, then after several months, and im talking about a long time of going on, THEN comes the sex. Some people don't even have sex until they are married, I understand that peer pressure and your friends at school and the people around you might have played into this factor but you really have to think what's best for yourself.
Please make the necessary correct decisions asap.
1. stop having sex with him (you could get in so much trouble, trouble with your parents, you might get pregnant, etc)
2. stop seeing him period, stop talking to him, stop being with him. (he has been using you ever from the start for sex, making out, etc, you should've been able to see that really easily)
3. A boyfriend is a guy that treats a girl with respect and dignity, not some guy who always wants sex and doesnt let you go from his lap. True, sex is great and any guy would love to have sex at anytime, but a relationship comes first and foremost and certainly your situation is NOT a relationship.
I hope you do the right things from now on and make the proper choices.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-31 01:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Moore55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that what I am about to say is harsh but if all he wants is sex, is that all you want? I don't think so - I think you want more (beach, movies, friends, etc) and you would like to share all of that with him. He doesn't want that he, by your own admission wants sex and then a bit later he wants sex and then shortly after that he wants...yup...sex.
The above is bad enough but he won't let you get up? No ma'am that is NEVER ok - you are free to move about as you please at ALL times. Could this escalate? 100% yes and date rape is far too common an event.
Please let him go and find a man who respects you.
2007-07-28 19:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be so blunt but it sounds like he's just using you. Don't use sex as a way to maintain a relationship, and tell him you don't want it to be the way it is right now. All guys are a project, but if he's too stubborn or can't conform to your wants, then he's not a guy to keep.
2007-07-28 15:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by bluebruno2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't harmless messing around. He is getting off on controlling you. This is a power struggle. You'd better get some help--a counselor, parent, someone and get out of this before he chains you down and there is no escape at all.
2007-07-28 15:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound so 'harmless' to me. He's trying to get control over you, in my opinion. I'd be extremely careful. The last man I trusted ended up putting a gun to my head. Not to try and scare you, but maybe you better get away from him while you can. Take care of yourself, dear.
2007-07-28 15:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to swing your opinion, think abot it, he dosen't want you to get off him, i think it would be better to leaave him, eventually he is going to get frustreated, and want more and more if u cut him off, see if there is anthign besides sex between u 2, if there isn't, leave him, f there is then play back with him, don't let him out of his chir, hold him down by his shoulders, he is only trying to prove he is dominate over u, take over or restore balalnce if u r going to stay with him, tell him how ou feel, if he dosen't like it, to bad for him, i would say leave hm.
2007-07-28 15:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by jt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex addict. =/ you should talk to him about that and tell him its making you uncomfortable......
it seems like thats all he's after, and thats not good at all.. it could turn bad.. depends how the person sees things.. but if all he wants is sex, you should look in other places..
2007-07-28 15:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Concerned 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can very easily turn bad. You shouldnt always let him be in control. I really dont think that this guy is right for u.
2007-07-28 15:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it could. How old are you and him? I would think that you would cool it with him if you start getting a little scaried.
2007-07-28 15:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by reinformer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋