Ok let me repost this..anyone's opinion will be greatly welcome!! =) I recently started seeing this guy who has now left for iraq this week. We were only able to hang out a few times before he left, but had a really great time and connection. He seemed to be really into me but he didn't call me b4 he left, just texted that he was sorry that he couldn't see me before he left because he was so busy. I have no idea if this guy is interested in continuing to talk to me when he gets over there...since he was kinda distant b4 he left. I know he must have had so much to do and on his mind. Now i am left wondering though...is it normal for a guy in the military to pull away like that or did he just lose interest?
2007-07-28 07:57:56 · 7 answers · asked by marsha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow Lori, kinda harsh....
2007-07-28 08:07:06 · update #1
He could have pulled away in order to mentally prepare himself for his trip. I'm sure he had a ton of things on his mind prior to leaving. I wouldn't give it too much thought or burden him with your insecurities. While he is away, focus on yourself and keep busy. Don't mope around wishing he were here. Go out and have some fun, take a class, do charity work. Relationships take time to evolve and develop and nothing happens over night. Good luck.
2007-07-28 08:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rogue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
*If you were going to war, unsure if you'd come back home alive, where would your mind be?
As a veteran myself, it takes a lot of prep work to get everything packed, and not just the personal gear either.
Try to get his unit information and/or email so you can write him while he is there, as a friend. He will really appreciate the incoming mail and also it will keep you in the forefront of his mind during his downtime until he returns to the U.S. This may help him to remain motivated.
Think about it, he cared enough to let you know by text messaging you that you mattered when he could have left w/o saying anything.
2007-07-28 15:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sybel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he doesn't want you to get hurt in the process because if you start dating someone in the military there isn't a guarantee that you're going to see him again until months or years later. If you had more time to get to know him I'm sure he would've took some time to call you for a brief moment but I guess its normal because they have to be distant because they were kind of trained that way based on what division in the army they're in.
2007-07-28 15:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by ashley k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a selfish question you are asking. Pull yourself together. The guy is risking his life for his country and you are asking an idiotic question like that. This isn't high school, grow up. Of course he likes you but he has other things on his mind right now, like a major war.
2007-07-28 15:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lori O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will most likely call you or email you when he gets over there. He will be missing home, but the question is....Do you want to put up with that? He didnt see you before he left which to me says hes moody. You might want to rethink if you want to put up with that....I lived in a military town last year and I saw so many of my friends get played and hurt.
2007-07-28 15:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's going to Iraq - you know that place where people are getting blown up daily. You are - and should be - least of his priorities; at least until he gets back safely.
2007-07-28 15:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He problably does have interest in you but didnt want to tell you since he was gonna leave to Iraq. And he problaly didnt want to see you before he left because maybe he thought aht if he saw you befor he left then it would be harder for him to leave (if he likes you)
2007-07-28 15:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋