i heard someone say today that some people spend their life getting over emotional baggage is that true for u?

Question

i think it is for me
the reason why i ask is that surely their is more to life than just that because if life was just to deal with baggage then we are unhappy
if we are unhappy why would people want to bother to procreate
if god made us this way then surely he would make sure that people were definately happy enough to want to have children
i hope you see what i mean
what do you think
i am an athiest so would be interested in all views into this subject
believe that their is absolutely no reason to bring children into the world their is nothing nice anymore i love children that my siblings have but the world is nasty
also as someone who was abused as a child i can not see why people want to bring children into the world just for them to get hurt then spend the rest of their lives trying to get over it

if you are a christian can you please explain to me why you would want children when you have been hurt as a child yourself

thank you for your answers

xxx


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Answer 1

As a victim of violence I know what you mean. It is hard to find a safe place to put those memories where they cannot hurt me anymore. Most days I can do that.

Having children is a personal decision. Do what YOU feel is best for you.

I have a son who is the light of my life.

Answer 2

Life is not intended to be a pursuit of removal of baggage. If we carry baggage, it's what we choose to do, regardless of whether we consider it to be our choice or not. Many of our circumstances are either our choice or the result of our choices. Bad and unwise choices lead to bad and unfortunate circumstances. I have a good bit of baggage I try to work through, but I try to take life in stride. I thought long and hard about having children. I've never dated much, never been married, and I'm 40 now and really question whether it's ever going to happen. But I'd like to have a child. I believe that life is worth living if you can live it well, and I'd like to raise a child and teach them everything about love that I've learned, and then see them flourish in it. I've said before that if I could die and my wife and children know that they were loved completely and absolutely, I'd be able to die a happy man. I say it still.

Answer 3

We certainly spend a great deal of our lives doing it. Whether we spend our entire lives doing it depends on how easily we learn.

I've always been a hard learner.