how could i stop hating my grandma?

Question

she always tells me wht to do.. she thinks she is my mom.. i hate thatt, how can i make her change how she thinks. she does not want me tto do anything..forexmple always complaining how i wear and wht i do , she does not want me to go out with my friends..
wht kingd of grandma is she? my mom gets annoyed that i treat her badely and beng rude.. plz help?

Answer 1

You can't change how SHE thinks, but you can change how YOU think. Parents and grandparents only want what's best for their children/grandchildren, and from the sounds of it your grandmother wants you to be a respectable person. That's not a bad thing, is it?

Try this: treat her nicely and show respect. Defer to her judgment and be polite. She might be compensating for the fact that you don't seem to respect her. If you show her that her opinion matters to you and that you respect her authority, things may go smoother. Parents and grandparents give more privileges and more courtesy to those who show them respect and manners.

In addition, you can tell her (POLITELY) that what you wear is an expression of your individuality, and that you'd appreciate if she could accept that, conversely, if she can accept you for who your are. As long as your parents don't object to your clothes as well, that should be enough.

As for going out with your friends, do your parents know them? Have you ever had them over for dinner or some such mundane thing? If not, she may be concerned that they are a bad influence or something. Have them over (1-2 at a time) for dinner and a movie at your house once or twice, let your parents and grandmother get to know them, and she will probably not object to you going out with them.

It takes time, but you have to convince her that you are a trustworthy, respectable person. Then, all the doors of opportunity swing wide open.

Answer 2

Don't be rude. It won't help. Talk to your parents about how you feel. My grandparents used to be controlling about some things. Their generation is old fashioned. I know about it. You are probably told to not to "dress like those young punks" or to "wear clothes that look respectable" or told " don't hang out with those hooligans" or something along these lines. Some things won't ever change others just take time. My grandparents have accepted small things. They don't care how i want my hair anymore, and have accepted that it doesn't matter what they say about my clothes they won't change. It is also a two-way street. You might try toning down your wardrobe when you go to see grandma. I am only speaking from personal experience. hope this helps.

Answer 3

You need to change your attitude, son. If my kids treated their grandma like that, I'd pop them into next year.

Your grandma deserves all the love and respect you can give her. If she complains, you listen, and offer suggestions. Why should I not go out with my friends? Maybe she just wants to meet them? Maybe you do need to straighten up a bit.

She's old fashioned, which is to be expected, and you will never change her mind, because she's been thinking that way since before you were a gleam in your papa's eye. Let her explain why she feels that way, and then ask her to listen to why you feel the way you do.

Maybe she doesn't want you to go out because she's old and lonely and misses you when you're gone.

She is your mom, she's your mom's mom. That's the ubermom. You're not being ugly to the congressman, you're dissing the president.
Do whatever she asks, and don't ask questions. If you think it's nuts, ask your mom first.

One last thing: do you love your mom? If you love your mom, the very best thing you can give to her is respect for herself, and respect for her mom. Be nice to gram, because you love your mom.

TX mom
debbie

Answer 4

how old is she 60 to 70 , parents back then had to do what they seen fit for the era parents were very strick in their ways. try to get along with her, she thinks she is doing right in her eyes. have a womam to woman talk with her. try to make her understand its not back then its 2007 and people are different today. good luck.....

Answer 5

Its natural for her to throw her opinion out,but if it makes you upset calmly tell her you need to do whats best for you and that you would like a little space...then suggest you and her do somthing she likes one night next week.That tells her you need privacy but still care about her thoughts.

Answer 6

everytime she says something like i hate ur outfit. say alrite i guees ill go change and change in to an outrageous outfit and act like oh but this is better rite?

Answer 7

You should not hate her, she is just being the typical granny.

Answer 8

first relax take a deep breath

second-forgive her-let Jesus work it out in her-holding a grudge will only eat out your heart

you can show her this so she understands what is going on=for you

and get age, make like your deaf, when she is insistant ask her if she will take you out to get you some better clothes-to upbeat store like Nothstrands--and get a girl to talk to you about what you would look best in for your age-let grandma listen-and you will end up with some fantastic clothes -and when grandma is around wear some of them.

if she wont buy you clothes -every time she brings it up say well you wont buy me any better

and be careful of your friends we become like them-do pick good ones princess

and i got the best friend in Jesus and others truely too by believing about Jesus=I prayed as Jesus says to pray in Revelation 3:19&20 Jesus I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and be my friend, save me, amen.
true Judaism is Messianic Judaism and believes in the predicted messiah

what is labeled by many today is other so called 'jewish' religion-that reject the Messiah and say anyone that believes in the Messiah isnt Jewish, yet if your an athiest Jewish person your still Jewish because you dont believe in the Messiah.

this happened after the destruction of the temple and two choices were left -to accept the Messiah for our blood atonement for sins as promised.

or to reject the Messiah and make a new religion with other ways to find atonement for sins-which rejects Moses and Isaiah and surely is anything but Jewish=

My opinion-and also because I now know Messiah Jesus as my savior from sin & best friend=
there was once a sacrificial system-In God's love he hates when we hurt our self (sin-even one lie), so much a lamb was required yearly on the day of atonement, till the Messiah came to fulfill it, and the temple was allowed to be destroyed as it was not needed since we have forgiveness of sins in Jesus.
He will be despised and rejected, and lay down his life to make atonement for our sins." Isaiah 52:13-53:12 predicted before Messiah came and the temple was lost leaving mankind with either Jesus atonement or no blood sacrifice for sins as commanded by God to Moses.

Without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness of sins

"The life of the flesh is in the blood, and I have given it upon the altar to make atonement for your souls." Leviticus 17 verse 11 (no matter what else was done-this war required by the high priest yearly on Yom Kippur-till Isaiah prophecy was fulfilled_
Why?
wow amazing -its clear as a bell and yet
some say=
well show me acurate historical documentation a man named jesus lived and according to the messianic prophecies he wasnt the mesiah

DELUSION SETS IN WHEN WE REJECT THE TRUTH-WOULD THIS ANSWERER LOOK AT A CALENDAR AND SEE THE DATE -IF HE CLAIMS JESUS DIDNT EXIST
AND THEN LOOK AT THE PERFECT PROPHECIES FULFILLED IN JESUS DYING FOR OUR SINS FROM JEWISH SCRIPTURES TOO
hello
THIS SHOW what happens and the result OF REJECTING THE PROPHECIES & WORDS AND HISTORY OF JESUS THIS Islamic ANSWERER Claimed=
Jesus did not die

Source(s):

Qur'an=blindness reigns in a religion to the most proved fact of history-even our calanders attest to AD after the death of Jesus.

Well first, He wasn't required to do anything. He just chose to. Back in that day, God used sacrifices as a way to repent for your sins. Like repenting by sacrificing a spotless, clean lamb. It's wool had to be without spot or blemish.
God knew that if He was to save us from the devil He had to use the "perfect sacrifice". He was the perfect sacrifice. He is without sin. He's never sinned. He's never done anything wrong. And He created us. He didn't have to take that punishment for us but He did because His love for us is SO unimaginably strong.

by loveGOD

LadySuri THE LAST PARAGRAPH IS A NEW PORTION IN ISAIAH 52 THE CHAPTERS WERE ADDED LATER AND THIS LEADS RIGHT INTO CHAPTER 53 the rest of the picture of the Messiah

Who do we as Jewish people reject? very clearly the Messiah=who do you reject= Hello

to the next answerer YES hell is where we go for rejecting Him -to weep forever Matthew 24:51

also no matter what others offered -the blood atonement was required in Judaism of an innocent -Isaiah said he would be God and the Messiah so he wasnt simply a man

ISAIAH 9:6 Unto us a child is born, a son is given, and he will be mighty God, the wonderful counselor, the everlasting father, and the prince of peace.

Its time to believe the truth, please PLEASE thank you

Well first, He wasn't required to do anything. He just chose to. Back in that day, God used sacrifices as a way to repent for your sins. Like repenting by sacrificing a spotless, clean lamb. It's wool had to be without spot or blemish.
God knew that if He was to save us from the devil He had to use the "perfect sacrifice". He was the perfect sacrifice. He is without sin. He's never sinned. He's never done anything wrong. And He created us. He didn't have to take that punishment for us but He did because His love for us is SO unimaginably strong.

and my Jewish people who read the perfect prophecies and say no blood atonement and Jesus isnt the Messiah.


may this help you with grandma from this persons perspective= David in His care

grandma has a way of living in the past -yet its not all bad, thank her for good advice and thank her if she gives you a piece of cake too, and your mom -show grandma you know how to be loving too=kill her bad emotions with your good ones of kindness and love