i need serious advice...!!!?

Question

Im 16 and i live with my sister because there were problems at home. she is a recovering alcohalic and she has a 6 month old boy. I clean the house and take care of the baby almost every day while shes at work so i have the house ready, dinner cookes, and a happy baby by the time she gets home. but lately she hasnt gotton home til 3 am...and then last night not until 5:15!!!!!!!!!!!!! and im really mad cuz the people she hangs out with drink all the time...id like to move back in with my parents, but my nephew needs me and she needs me to take care of him when shes at work...what do i do/say???

i cant call child services. he is her 5th child and the only one they let her keep. the other ones were adopted out due to her previous drug usage.

my parents know and theyre trying to help me out but they dont know what to do.

Answer 1

wow. this situation is really familiar to me b/c my sis has two kids that my mom takes care of and it isn't fair b/c she'll go out and party while my mom takes care of her responsibilities. it sounds to my like your sister isn't doing very well in the real world with the drinking and since you're taking care of her child instead of her or the father. i think its time you set her strait and give her a reality check and go home. and thank your parents. regardless of what happened, you weren't raised be your aunt b/c your mom didn't have time for you.

Answer 2

Your sister needs a reality check. Is she incapable of taking care of her son?

I think she is taking full advantage of you in so many ways. You are only 16 and you need to have a life for yourself.

I realize that you had problems at home. Your parents need to get in touch with reality also.

Have you talked with your sister about the hours that she does not come home? You need to let her know that your nephew is not your responsibility. I know you love him and your sister, but, you are not helping her by enabling her to go out bar hopping or drinking. As long as you continue enabling her, she will take advantage. Her son needs her, not you. Your sister will always be an alcoholic. That is her life. She needs to understand the damage she is doing to herself, you and her son. The time will come when her son just might fall in her footsteps and that is not good. Ask her if she would want her son growing up, knowing that she was not there for him? In some way, she needs to be told this.

You know your sister better than anyone here. It will be up to you how to approach the situation.

The only advice I can give you is to try and help her to see the damage she has already caused. Let her know that if her habits continue, there is a good chance her son can be taken away from her. She would not be able to have him back until she has proven that she is capable of taking care of him on her own.

I wish you luck.

Answer 3

Time for some tough love here. Youre going to have to put your nephews well being first over your sisters. Talk to your parents and tell them things are getting worse but dont know what to do, before child services get involved and your nephew is taken from her. Your sister cant expect you to raise her son as youre only a kid yourself and this is a huge responsibility and no one can ever blame you for seeking help here. Talk to your parents and soon, there may be other legal things working against your sister. Good luck

Answer 4

You have some good advise here in 'answers'.
By telling her that you can't stay up until wee hours of the morning to wait up for her, she will understand you going back to live in your own home sweet home. (One more time, and you are out of there.) If she has no one to watch over the child, she won't do what she is doing.

If she had to answer to your parents, like if the child stayed over at your parents until she can pick him up, that way, your parents can tell when she gets home and can tell her off. It really isn't your place to, so you can't say anything, but they can.

You can clean over the weekend.

Sounds like she is a 're-discovered' alcoholic.

Answer 5

maybe by leaving it will make her realize she cant have her younger sister take care of her baby. it might just put the flame under butt to make her get stright that she needs... if you stay i dont think she will get the help she needs either. you can still be there for the baby but make her be the mom she can be.stop being mom ... you are young and should not have to take on something like that. this is the time for you to have fun find jsut who you are and use the little time you have to be a kid.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Sweetheart your 16 and her baby is not your responsiblity.You need to live your life first.You are only 16 and you're only young once. I think u should tell your mom or dad what is going on. Then go from there.Good luck

Answer 8

i for one am a recovering alcoholic of 15 yrs how long has your sister been in recovery is the first question short term sobriety is hard especially with a infant. the first thing you do is get yourself to a alanon meeting, a meeting for those who are related some how to a alcoholic or affected by the disease of alcoholism. you cant make your sister do anything she has to want to recover herself

Answer 9

Move back home but tell her in no uncertain terms if she is drinking again and if she mistreats that baby you WILL report her to child services and she will lose that baby.
If you keep helping her tho it will make it easier for her to keep drinking.

Answer 10

wow thats just sad. i think you need to talk to her. like why is she drinking. she has to correct her mistakes and drinking wont help her. this is her 5th child and tell her she needs to be responsible and she needs to think about things. say it nice too dont go to hard