Boyfriend moving in with me at age 17/18?

Question

I'm 17 and I just graduated from high school (early) and I'm planning on attending a nearby community college this year. My boyfriend is almost 18, and is going to be a senior in high school this coming year. I am going to be living in a 2 bedroom home provided by my parents for free, and the other day we got to talking about him moving in. I know we're young, but we are very mature for our age and I don't see it being a bad idea. If anything happened to our relationship, he has a home with his parents to go back to anyways. Any thoughts or suggestions on this? Anyone been in a situation like this before?

Answer 1

Bad............................... When you go to college you need to be concentrating on your studies, not playing house. There is nothing wrong with him spending the night (once you are both 18) but really he should live at home and finish high school. (Just like you did). You guys shouldn't be in a rush to grow up. You are going to get a whole new set of friends when you go to college...

Answer 2

I would probably suggest to wait until he's out of high school to move in together, but I think it completely depends on the relationship you two have.
I was in the same situation as you are when I was your age. I also started college at an earlier age and moved in with my boyfriend (who is ten years older, much to my parent's dismay) when I was eighteen. To most people this was the stupidest idea imaginable, because they said I wouldn't focus on school and would get off track (not to mention the age difference). I can proudly say, however, that I am more than on track for my four-year Communications and Political Science degrees, and my boyfriend and I are now engaged! So although the majority of these situations don't work out, there are always exceptions. To be honest, no one knows you better than yourself, so if you feel like this is the right decision for you, it most likely is. And like you said, if it doesn't work out, it just doesn't, and that's how life goes sometimes. You sound like a smart girl, trust yourself! Good luck :)

Answer 3

Unfortunately, no matter how mature a person is for their age, these situations *usually* don't work out end the end. No matter how high up on the 'maturity level' you feel you & your boyfriend are, the fact is - you're only 17 & 18 years old. You're not emotionally prepared and ready for a step this huge - especially since he's still in high school. But, like you said, he'd have a place to back home to if it doesn't work out. If nothing else, it'll be a learning experience. If you decide to go through with it, make sure you both agree it's just a trial run and agree that if it doesn't work out, he'll move out but continue to date (unless you wanted to break up at that point.)

Answer 4

You already know it's a dumb idea - otherwise you would not have asked Y!A. So what do you want to know that you will accept?

If your minds are made up, then go ahead and don't waste our time.

But here's the answer anyway:]

1. BOTH OF YOU ARE TOO YOUNG
2. NEITHER OF YOU CAN EVEN SUPPORT YOUR OWN CELL PHONES
3. DO YOU EXPECT MOMMY AND DADDY TO PROVIDE FOOD AND CLOTHING ALSO?
4. SHACKING UP JUST FOR THE FUN OF IT IS NEVER A GOOD IDEA.

MY ADVICE: Go celibate until you are 21, continue to study and graduate from college, then revisit the idea.

Good Luck

Answer 5

I have always jumped the gun and moved in with a guy if it seemed like "a good idea." But I think you both have a lot on your plate with school. A serious relationship takes work- wspecially if you live together. Don't make any big moves right away (lesson learned). Maybe start school on your own first and then maybe work it in to where he gradually moves in. (i.e. gradually spends more time there, starts bringing his things into the home) If it gets hectic and you both need more space/time at least there wouldnt be so much work to retract.

Answer 6

I moved in with my partner when I was 16/17, and we're still together now... & I'm 22.

My partner wasn't my age, so I don't know what would have happened if he had been. He was a little older than I am.

I think you should follow your heart. You sound as if you're probably going to do it. You just have to make sure that you're ready to settle at a young age, because you don't want to get to your mid/late 20s, and feel like you grew up too early.

Answer 7

I was married at 17 to my highschool sweetheart. Unfortunately, we didn't know each other as well as we thought we did. It was very hard to get used to each other's living habits and to adjust to the situation. I would recommend waiting and taking the time to get to know each other better. (we were together three years and that wasn't long enough) You two are young enough to take your time, don't rush it and wait until you are both out of college and have time to grow up more. I was very mature too, but we still should have taken the time to figure out what direction were heading.

Answer 8

If your parents are getting the house for you, then I would go for it, as long as he understands, if there is a problem in the relationship that he should leave. You don't want anything,especially a guy, to get in the way of your college career! Good luck!

Answer 9

Your boyfriend are so luck, because I am 30 something without girlfriend, althouth I think I am a mature handsome guy.

Anyway, I holp that you could get sweet life with your boyfriend.

Answer 10

Yeah its not a good idea at least till he is out of high school. But youll learn one way or the other. Goodluck i hope it works out.