Between a guy who you loved dearly and he loved you just as much, treated you right and adored you but probably wouldn't be successful in career and not make much money, in fact be downright poor...or
A guy who you didn't love but liked ok, successful career, lots of money, maybe didnt treat you as you would like to be treated...
what would you choose?
2007-07-28 06:22:34 · 31 answers · asked by azrielle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not anything in my life, just a convo that came up at work and I was wondering what others thought too lol
2007-07-28 06:31:39 · update #1
go for the love. its a bigger reward in the long run. and things can always change. good luck
2007-07-28 06:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by cashew 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's really a no-brainer. The serious answer is the 1st guy. You love him/he loves you - he treats you v. well and you can make a good life together. Is life really just about money?
If you went with the 2nd guy and he abused you, would you want to stay with him? No! Then you shouldn't choose him.
Do the right thing for yourself - you can always achieve success in career, financial affairs and other matters if you have a good partnership. But choosing someone merely because of money & standing will bring you lots of heartache and unhappiness.
And life is all about happiness and love - not money!
2007-07-28 13:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by shepardj2005 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The First One.
2007-07-28 13:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a male, so I'm going to say choose the first guy, but this is a classic problem. You want a good life for your children (if you plan to have them) and your first choice would probably be a good father but not as secure financially as your second choice.
However the decision for me looks like this:
A. There is a possibility that the first guy might make more money.
B. There is no possibility the second guy will love you more or be a better person.
Since the first guy at least gets you happiness I would lean in that direction. Happiness means more than money. (see link below)
2007-07-28 13:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by neoliminal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am not a materiallistic person and i think EVERYONE should know that nothing in this whole universe that you buy or pay for can ever make you happy it probably will make u happy but for a short amount of time so i would definetly be poor with a true love becaused only love can make you eternally happy plus the second guy sounds like a total materialistic jerk!!!
2007-07-28 13:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definately the first one. Love is always needed and so if you have love then does it really matter about money? I mean yeah, you need money to survive in this would but aren't you better off with love?
2007-07-28 18:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I'd hope I had the self-confidence and drive to sort the finances out myself. If you're capable of getting a good enough job yourself, you don't really need to worry as much about his job. Plus, I doubt you'd be happy knowing you turned down that emotional happiness.
But you'd wanna make sure you weren't making a hasty decision, and that you'd known both guys for quite a while.
2007-07-28 13:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If all that matters is how many bedrooms in the house, how much the drapes and the car and the kids cost, then pick guy number two
Guy number one will keep you happier longer.
When it comes right down to it, marrying for money is pretty sad on a day-to-day basis.
2007-07-28 13:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would stay with whoever i had the previous commitment to unless they had done something to change my feelings towards them as..
Life is always changing and temptation can come only to easyily but when i make the right choice it may feel Strange and confusing but in the end its gratifying knowing i did the right thing.
2007-07-28 13:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love is more inportant than money. go for the guy who treats you right loved you and who you loved. with the other guy it might not work out or someone could have an affair.
2007-07-28 13:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Ashlee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Money's never been a big thing with me...enough to live on, have a roof over my head and such, I'd be fine. I mean, if it was necessary (and even if it wasn't) I'd help with the bills. I'm not the kind of girl who likes to just sit around at home and play house.
2007-07-28 13:27:44 · answer #11 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋