I happened to walk in on my girl yet again, doing stuff. My question is why, when all she had to do was yodle my name. I would come running like an elegant figleaf man. Let's rule out, that I am not manly enough for her...what else, or why ?
2007-07-28 06:16:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Variety. It's just different.
Don't take offense. Everyone masturbates, whether they have a partner or not.
2007-07-28 06:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what it is that she gets out of masturbating that she doesn't get from you. Maybe with you she feels pressure to perform, while with masturbating, she can feel free to do whatever. Maybe it's easier for her to orgasm when she masturbates. Do you place any restraints on her in the bedroom (No oral sex, etc.) ? Maybe with sex, she feels self-conscious, but by herself she feels like there's nothing to be ashamed about. Tell her that you want her to feel comfortable with you, and sit her down and ask her specifically what she wants.. anything she wants -- then give it to her! Let her know that neither of you are going to leave the bedroom until she is fully satisfied. If all else fails, try going to a sex therapist. She might find it easier to reveal stuff to a therapist than to you, for fear of seeming "needy" for asking. Don't blame yourself or feel inadequeate for this. It could just be that y'all have more exploring to do together. Or she could just enjoy the benefits of sex as well as "alone time". Hope all goes well!
2007-07-28 13:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jamaican QT™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marred twice found both doing the same and your wright rulr out that other part, we both understand what we mean there. i DID GET MY SEC WIFE TO ADMIT TO ME THAT SHY DID IT TO THINk OF DOING IT WITH other women but when she was with me she could not take her mind off of me so that was why she would do that. I dont have a clue the girl Ive been dating for a year and a half know will just start in front of me if she fills the ned at this point i dont ask I just jump in
2007-07-28 13:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by ben b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it could be, and I know you won't like this...she hits something you can't....that you don't know to look for, you may be a fantastic lover but she may be satisfied with how she does it herself...it could be that she was left with a remaining urge, or that she was not satisfied as much as when she does it...it may not be a personal thing against you merely a past time she enjoys....I've mastubated immediately after sex with my ex boyfriend...doesn't mean I wasn't satisfied I was...I just had more in me and wanted to get it...the way I know works best, often women find out about what they like with themselves, what works for them,...let her "grow" in what does it for her...and if it bothers you further talk about is ask her why she is continuing this when she has you. if she's honest she'll tell you why.
2007-07-28 13:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by TPete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not you. Sometimes a girl just needs to pleasure herself alone. It is a totally differnt feeling then being with a partner. I am sure you understand, you probably do the same thing. Don't worry, its natural.
2007-07-28 13:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still masturbate even though you have a girlfriend?
We're not always in the mood for full-blown sex! It's nothing personal against you, we just sometimes fancy a bit of alone-time to have a quiet play to ourselves.
And Kelly is talking balls.
2007-07-28 13:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Spazzcat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
when you can't have an orgasm and you really want to. all the other stuff ppl write here is just excuses. if you had one or two orgasms with bfr and you know it will happen again, you don't masturbate. but it doesn't always happen... so you go manually to take the edge off
2007-07-28 13:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple - she likes a little personal time and enjoys her self pleasures. Not that you are inadequate or not cutting the mustard; simply that each of us does need some personal time no matter how good th erelationship they are in or the sex that comes with it.
2007-07-28 21:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people need more sex than others or maybe they werent satisified,
look at it this way you either ignore the situation, join in oe simply state wish i coul join in but i have other things to do right now but i will definatly catch up with you later.
2007-07-28 13:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just want to get off real quick without the drawn out , messy sex. Do you never masturbate ?
2007-07-28 13:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋