Im pregnant again and im in a rough marriage????

Question

My husband and i are having a lot of problems just seems like we can never get along anymore. we already have a 15 month daughter together, and im afraid of her suffering. i dont want her to be around us when we fight, but he usually freakin snaps right when she is around. he travels alot and is barely home, so i raise my lil one by myself. im so scared of raising two without the support of my husband and with our relationship being so rocky. im so confused, i dont know what i would do without him, yet some days im glad when he has left for work!! lately he has been home and it has just been an up hill battle, he thinks im lying about how miserable i am while being pregnant, wouldnt you if your pregnant and have those syptoms plus a period with all of those symptoms too, he just dont seem to understand!! anyone's advice would be great!!

Answer 1

What chance will you have on your own with two children. Get out while you can with your sanity still in tact. I'm not sure what your beliefs are about abortion or how far along you are but you may want to consider it. It will be bad enough if you are on your own with one (been there, done that) but two makes it almost impossible and you are signing yourself up for a life of misery with him. It must be very difficult. All the best to you. I hope you make the right choice and have a happy life.

Answer 2

My wife and I had the same problem. I work in the oil field and I am gone every 2 weeks and it seems everytime I used to come all we did is fight. I have 3 boys from tha ages of 10 to 1. My wife is a stay at home mom, which I know is a vey tough job to do. The problem was me and It took me a long time to realize that. So I would if I were you is try and talk to your husband and see if he wants to try and do couceling and if he doesn't maybe it just wasn't meant to be. The longer you stay in the relationship like this the more miserable you will be. I hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 3

Raising children as a single parent is never easy. But.
You must consider what effect all of this fighting is having on your babies.
It IS 100% unacceptable for you or your husband to be abusive in any way (physically,emotionally or verbally) - Most especially in front of your child.
If this is not a situation you are able to deal with alone you must seek out some help .
Look up the number of a local womens shelter, ask to speak to a councelor and, do not make any threats to your husband about doing so , or about leaving him.
If you are feeling threatened in any way make a call RIGHT NOW, !

Answer 4

It sounds like you are pretty much on your own already and maybe would be better that way if things don't change.I would suggest counseling if both are willing and you think the marriage is salvageable.If that doesn't work or if you both aren't completely committed to fixing the problem leave.It will be hard but what kind of mother can you be if you are stressed out and angry all the time.Not to mention what you are teaching your children.They will think that this type of relationship is healthy and normal.It will set a mold for their future relationships in life.

Answer 5

sorry to hear that your going through such a rough patch!
Have you tried sitting him down and talking to him about whats bothering you? or does that not work?
You could always suggest maybe going to marriage counselling and see how he takes to that??

I so wish men could get pregnant cos then they would see just how hard it is. I was an emotional wreck when i was pregnant. They dont seem to understand just how much it takes out of ya.

I so hope things get better for you. Could you maybe take a break from each other or suggest that he moves out for a little while? maybe then he will see what hes missing and come running back begging.

I know i dont know you and i dont understand what your going through but if you want to talk my yahoo addy is in my profile, im a good listener!!
Take care xxx

Answer 6

I think you two need to have some quality time together to talk about the new baby and the stress you two are feeling right now, and try to work them out, I totally agree with you men don't know how hard it is to be pregnant and it seems as it they are so unreasable and make things so hard and they don't tell us how they are really feeling, making it even worse. Whatever you do don't give up on your family everyone goes through this. Everyone.

Answer 7

Get some good marriage and family counseling.
We all have to learn how to manage relationships and there is no shame in getting help with the process.
Tell your husband that the marriage is to be worked on or abandoned as a bad job.
No need to drag your children through all that negativeness and then have them repeat it in their adult lives.

Answer 8

Take your daughter and necessary items and leave the guy now. You don't need that crap from him and he is unwilling to listen. Husbands are supposed to listen.
Counseling won't work in this situation. He seems like he won't. I know the type who won't bother. He won't listen to you, he won't listen to a professional.

There are programs around to help displaced homemakers/divorcing women with kids get back on their feet. Call them now.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Men think only with one half of their brains, women use both sides. So men dont have common sense and dont really get us, so we have to literally sit them down like kids and tell them over and over until it registers. I'm sorry about your situation. All I can say is pray and put God first.

Answer 10

Therapy separately and together. With one child already in it, and another on the way, and what sounds like no major issues (I mean like abuse, substance abuse etc), you owe it to your kids to make a REAL effort to fix this.