He always wants money back from me for dinner and I have to pay for myself a lot. I've been with him for 6 yrs what gives
2007-07-28 05:49:13 · 18 answers · asked by Britt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he hasn't changed after six years - then he won't change after SIXTY!!!
You have two choices - either put up with this (in exchange for any "good" traits he might have), or talk to him about it...
What kind of loser makes you pay for yourself THAT often - especially after being together for six YEARS!!
2007-07-28 05:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a desperate women, why are you settling for this behavior, after 6 yrs. you 2 should be pass this stage. That's a little to cheap for my taste, you could be going out to dinner with some find guy, that wouldn't mind paying. Tell yourself that you deserve more than this and you do. Let this person go he has no respect for you or the relationship.
2007-07-28 13:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Id ditch him to be honest. Unfortunately men do not change no matter how badly you want them to. The old fashioned way of getting and keeping the woman is pampering her. Now I know some of these guys are saying "well why do we always have to pay for anything" and all that bu I have a boyfriend who out of the kindness of his heart buys me stuff, now I am not your average girl, I dont like him buying me things, but he does it because he loves me and he wants me to be happy. I think that every once in a while, maybe fifty to sixty percent of the time, if he takes you out, he should pay. Girl you are worth at least one dinner. Now like the others brought up, he may be having money issues, which then it is understandable, but finding another job isnt hard. Maybe you two need to find different things to do as date ideas instead of dinner so this doesnt bug you as much. But trust me, wanting to be pampered or even just treated well is not out of the question. A way to look at you paying your own way is that you can handle yourself and that is what you are showing him. Good luck!
2007-07-28 12:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Holy crap. All you girls are GOLD DIGGERS. What ever happened to a 50/50 relationship? Why does the guy have to pay for everything when women in this day and age make just as much or even more than men?
Listen, there's more to life and love than gifts and being pampered. Obviously you love him (do you?) since you've been together for 6 years. If you guys ever get married, have you ever stopped to think that you guys will be sharing your finances? From then on when he pays for your dinner, you'll be paying for the dinner as well.
2007-07-28 12:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Raven 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trust me, someone like him won't change no matter how hard you try to change him, it is one of his traits. You should either accept it or move on for another man. How come that you stayed with him for such a long time and you had to deal with that. For me, it is a big issue that might occur in a man. I had a boy friend who was cheap as well and I could not stand him for a long time. It is not about money, it is about attitude and courtesy. I dont understand how your boy friend has the courage to stoop himself that much for money, he must be really cheap!
2007-07-28 12:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Laila 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm well he shouldn't always pay for you I mean you two have been going out for six years, but every so often he should. Now he shouldn't even be asking for the money back, if it's already paid for and done then leave it be. Now this whole thing with him being cheap maybe its because he needs his money to pay his bills. This is a tough one to think about, just think about if you two do get married your going to have to support each other, not just him supporting you, BOTH of YOU SUPPORTING YOUR MARRIAGES LIFE STYLE.
BD
P.S. Don't listen to Carmel apparently she's spoiled.
2007-07-29 03:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Black Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to find out why he is really cheap. He should go out and find a good job where he can make alot of money. You don't need to pay for dinner all the damn time.
2007-07-28 12:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by i_ride_spinners04 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats the problem, YOU CAN'T CHANGE ANYONE!!!!!!!
He is who he is, and you are who you are! If it's been 6 years, then thats it, this is the way it's gonna be!! If you want something different, then it's time to move on to someone who'll respect you more than this kook!! If you won't move on, then get out your pocket book and try to stay home more, that way you won't have to keep paying for things! You might as well be going out with friends instead, at least you'll be having a good time paying for yourself!
2007-07-28 12:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, there's no such thing as a cheap guy; they prefer "cautious" Second, maybe he doesn't have the best job right now and can't afford to buy you expensive things or pay for dinner at expensive restauraunts. Every guy out there wants to find someone who will help pay for the whole dating thing because its expensive. I know that girls are used to the whole thing where the guy is supposed to pay for everything, but could it hurt to chip in?
2007-07-28 12:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Darcy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you must like it or you wouldn't stay with him for 6 yrs. If it really bothers you, tell him about it or better still, get a new boyfriend with lots of money.
2007-07-28 12:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by P.A.M. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋