Could my boyfriend's "harmless messing around" turn bad?

Question

I wrote the ? "Does my boyfriend just want sex or does he like me" and i got great answers. i have another ?
It seems to me all he wants is sex (thanks to the answers to my other question) but when we went to his house i would try to think of other ideas rather than havin sex. I would say somthin like "lets go to the beach" then beg him for half hour, then when he finally gave in he'll say "well get up so we can go" (cause hed always have me sit on his lap so thats why id have to get up first) and then when id try to get up he'd hold on to me and wouldnt let me get up and id really try to get up too but hes way to strong for me and i cant move. then he'd say something like we have to do "somethin"(sex) before we could go
he does this in a joking way more or less but its kinda scary that he does that, and knowing i cant get away if he really did get mad or was drunk one time if i told him i didnt want to have sex that nite is scary
could his "harmless messing around" turn bad

Answer 1

Ashley....

Please read this very carefully and slowly. It is very important that you understand how serious your situation is. Whatever you do now, you must stop having sex with him. You are way too young to have sex at age 15. You could get pregnant and become a mother.....I don't think you want that. Remember, protection is not 100% and a condom can break at any time.

Also you need to fully realize that he is using you, every answer you've gotten so far from your questions, and you've asked alot of them, are all pointing to your "boyfriend" using you for sex. I wouldn't even call him your boyfriend. He is just simply taking advantage of you, and you really need to STOP seeing him. He realized that you have a crush on him and hes just being with you to get sex out of it.

Like you have said in your questions, ALL he wants is sex and after 2 weeks you gave in. You made a huge mistake because by doing that he really thinks you are easy so you really have to stop. There are just too many potential consequences that could ruin your life. Your situation is really not considered dating at all. All you do is go to his house and make out, have sex....well that is pretty much a booty call. He is treating you like a hooker, and the best part is, its FREE.

So please don't be so naive and be smart. I know you are very intelligent and you could make much better choices. Its good that you are having second thoughts and are coming to Yahoo Answers to ask for advice. so I really hope you are going to make the right choices as soon as possible.

A real relationship is supposed to have the couple know each other through friendship, dinner, movies, hanging out sessions, then after several months, and im talking about a long time of going on, THEN comes the sex. Some people don't even have sex until they are married, I understand that peer pressure and your friends at school and the people around you might have played into this factor but you really have to think what's best for yourself.

Please make the necessary correct decisions asap.

1. stop having sex with him (you could get in so much trouble, trouble with your parents, you might get pregnant, etc)

2. stop seeing him period, stop talking to him, stop being with him. (he has been using you ever from the start for sex, making out, etc, you should've been able to see that really easily)

3. A boyfriend is a guy that treats a girl with respect and dignity, not some guy who always wants sex and doesnt let you go from his lap. True, sex is great and any guy would love to have sex at anytime, but a relationship comes first and foremost and certainly your situation is NOT a relationship.


I hope you do the right things from now on and make the proper choices.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

HI Ashley ~ It sounds like you know the answer to this question - your just dancing around it. My advice to you is to end the realtionship. You seem to know better and at this point you are allowing youself to be a victim when you don't have to be. Why would you put yourself in a position where it could turn violent? Do you have any self worth? If not - I suggest you think about your life up till now, think about your family and friends and all that you have busted your butt to gain up till now. In order to stand up for what you believe - you have to know what you believe. If your friend was in your same situation - what would you tell her - really think about that. If you have even the smallest amount of fear from anyone - you should continue placing yourself in their presence. Many, many people have ignored that instinct and have suffered severe even deadly results. Better to be safe then sorry!!!

Answer 3

These are controlling behaviors. They will almost certainly get worse over time. My sincere advice to you would be to get out of the relationship. You will be much happier with a boyfriend that treats you as an equal.

Answer 4

Yeah. You need to kick him out of your life and find someone who thinks with his head (a concept sadly lost on many of the young men nowadays).

I've been with my girl for 5 months and we've never once had sex.

Answer 5

yup. you got the typical "aggressive/jerk". he just wants sex. go date that fat guy that sits by himself at lunch. hes not gonna hold you down like that; more over i bet hed be more than happy to take a trip to the beach with you.

Answer 6

Yes. It sound like he has control issues. You should def. get out. It sounds like he could turn abusive if you tried to do something he didn't like. Someone who loves you shouldn't scare you. Get out now. Good luck, be careful!

Answer 7

definetly!!! he wants to control you and by holding you and not letting you up until you agree to what he wants that's exactly what hes doing. you need to leave him now before it gets worse. his kind typically turn abusive. get out now before its too late!!!

Answer 8

don't let you be his sex slave!! you can have your own opinion! tell him if he doesn't change his extremely sexual ways that you're going to find someone who actually wants to go out and do something!!

Answer 9

sounds like it has the potential to turn bad..and sounds like its all about sex.. doesn't sound like a good relationship to me at all.. especially if he " scares" you trust your instincts!!

Answer 10

Good God, girl! Don't go near this guy again. Run like hell. He isn't playing.