I am living with my parents now along with my 15 year old daughter. Its hard because my parents especially my mother get upset with me.
She got upset because I left some dishes in the sink and don't vacuum the upstairs how often she wants.
I have had a very bad life because I am divorced and do not have custody of my child.
Yet, my mother gets upset with me for little things probably because I am living in her house. She is also very sensitive and can not take anyone saying anything to her.
I know that I am at fault for doing things wrong so I apologized and said I would clean up more.
In the meantime, how do I deal with her? She says that I don't live like a guest here and gets upset with me. I really feel bad about myself when I talk to her and always have.
2007-07-28 05:17:31 · 7 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
again its so very difficult living with parents, their standard is not ;yours and visa/verse. Remember that little mind trick we spoke about? Saying it in your head!!!! You need not disrespect your Mother just say it in your head. In your room there is a bureau with a mirror?- or in your bath- out up a little note reminding yourself to vac and dust. By doing this your reminding yourself of first the chore at hand and NOT having your Mom complain at you. On the other hand realize that your parents are older and have probably not have traffic in their home IE: you and your daughter- be ever so grateful that they have and are there for you. Your parents expect certain things as you do from your child-- a bit of patience and understanding goes a long ways. Split the chores with your child and realize its never easy, that's on both sides.
2007-07-28 07:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you should stop feeling sorry for yourself ! alot of people have it a lot worse.You should concentrate on moving out you have to realize your parents have done their time of raising kids and have been enjoying their free time and now they have you living in their house all down and out and that is probably hard for her to deal with. So if I were you I would be gone as much as possible do a little extra cleaning around the house after all you are living with them you could show that you appreciate it and move out asap . Try doing something nice like making dinner and cleaning up afterwards or maybe buying her flowers to show your appreciation. Living with my parents again would be umbearable I couldnt deal with it (moms a clean freak and dads an alchoholic) Best of luck and concentrate on whats good not the bad if you look at the negative then everything around you will also be negative.
2007-07-28 12:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by freckleface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of the time parents seem to think that you are still a child. i am 22 years old and my mom does the same thing. when i moved out of her house, she still wanted to controll my life and tell me what to do. what i think you should do is sit your mom down one night and have a talk with her and let her know that you are an adult.
about the vauumin not as often as she wants you to, what i would do is just vaccuum it anyways. you have to remember that you are livin in her house again and you have to follower her rules. you may not like having to do it, but it will keep her off your back.
2007-07-28 12:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by mrfreaknasty909 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents sometimes dont realize that their children have grown up..i think its pretty normal that you always consider your child your baby..i am 55 years old and still have trouble dealing with my 36 year old daughter..i always feels shes my baby...about 16 years old..i dont know why....just realize that it happens to other parents,...and try not to treat your daughter as a child, realize her growth..someday you may have to take care of your parents and they still may treat you like a child...after all you are their child..i took care of my parents befor they died..and i was treated as a 12 year old!! JUST DONT LET IT GET YOU DOWN..!!and know that its probably a very common problem..good luck and keep a cool head!!
2007-07-28 12:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by nancy f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off people use sensitivity as a way of not having to deal with confrontation. If you have issues you want to air with her, do it anyway even if she does over react sensitively. You have a right to speak for yourself.
Just do the best you can and when your not good enough for her dont let it get to you.
2007-07-28 12:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Clean up. Your parents are doing you a favour and it's the least you can do.
2007-07-28 13:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah it kinda sucks good luck
2007-07-28 12:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by johneonykk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋