Ok, my boyfriend psces to Misawa/Japan in December, we don't want to marry before we are going out for a year, just because there are so many couples that get a divorce, because they mary to soon, and don't really know eachother....
We have been living together for over a year now, and still as happy as the first day. There is not even a question about me going with him. I was wondering if there is anyone who can help me figure out what I have to do to got over there, and have no problems. I got german and american citisenship. i don't know if that makes a difference or not. I would appreciate help sooo much!!!!!
2007-07-28 05:13:35 · 4 answers · asked by proud airforce wife 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I or we are not making up excuses. Its just that from the very beginning we started dating, we decided to wait 2 years to get married, because a lot of people change in that period of time, and if we are really meant to be together, we will still be happy after two years, and then get married. Just as a comment to "just me". There is so many people out there, especially military, that get married way to soon, and a lot of times for the wrong reasons. And they end up getting divorced after a couple years. And we just think its smart to wait that long to really get to know eachother. Because we want to have kids and raise them together. There are just to many kids with divorced parents, we both went through that experience too.... So yea. I felt kind of weird when I read that comment!
2007-07-28 07:24:56 · update #1
You'll need to contact the Japanese embassy's consular section to inquire about a visa. Here's their web site....
http://www.us.emb-japan.go.jp/english/html/travel_and_visa/travel_and_visa_index.htm
You need to contact them as soon as possible.
You need to understand that it's VERY unlikely that he's going to be given an allowance to live off base and you are VERY unlikely to get a visa that allows employment. That means all your living expenses will have to come out of his pocket. In Japan that isn't going to be cheap. If I were you I'd reconsider marriage.
I've been to Misawa. It's beautiful. They get a couple hundred inches of snow each year. Japanese homes and apartments do not have central heat. They use kerosene space heaters. Be sure to check out the Snow Monkeys and hot springs at Lake Towada National Park.
2007-07-28 05:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by Yak Rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you afford to follow Japanese immigration rules? EVERYTHING will be based on Japanese Law, NOT American law. You will have NO access to medical, no access to base, no access to housing. EVERYTHING will come out of your pocket. Japan is EXPENSIVE to live in. he will NOT get permission to live off base, he will NOT Get OHA to help pay for it, you will NOT be able to stay on base with him at all.
You will need to get a Japanese Visitor's Visa. they are not cheap, and they are not good indefinitely, I believe they are in 60 day chunks.. which means every sixty days you;d have to leave the country at least over night. Being an island nation, that means flying somewhere for the weekend. If you get into ANY trouble over there, the military will NOT intervene at all. you would be subject to Japanese laws.. and trust me, they are strict, and harsh, especially when it comes to traffic and alcohol related incidents. you will NOT be allowed to work while there.
This is A BAD IDEA. you are talking ten thousand dollars or more out of pocket. with absolutely ZERO support form the Military or the American government.
2007-07-28 08:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the embassy you have a lot of questions that only they can answer. On the other hand you will only be allowed to reside off base on your own. It will be just like moving to the next town with out him. But he can still visit and in a lot of cases reside off base. But again it will be at his own expense the Military will not let him have seperate rations pay or house cost pay. good luck
2007-07-28 05:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by ASmiles1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've lived together over a year you know each other well enough to get married. My view on that is that if you are together that long and are still making up excuses not to get married then you are not meant to be together.
Getting married is the easiest way, but don't get married if you don't really want to.
2007-07-28 07:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Just me 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋