It started when we go to our province, I see him standing in my relative's house.. first, I thought he is not my cousin but when our clan reunion started.. he really is my cousin. We didn't get close but I'm kinda flirting(slight) with him.. but now, we get closed because of text messaging and we know each other by "text" and previously we are close now.. Next year we will go there again and I will gonna see him again.. I am really excited and nervous.. I really don't know waht I will do and say when he is standing in front of me.. Is my feelings for my cousin right? If not, how should I treat him as cousin only??
2007-07-28 03:00:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not in love or anything just an infatuation or crush.. And he is my second cousin.. His grandma and my grandpa are siblings.. I really like him cause he is cute and nice to me and also very open to me.. he also shared to me about his girlfriend and how they broke up..!! hayy..
2007-07-28 22:39:03 · update #1
hmm.. I want to like him only as a cousin..!! how can I do it if i have feelings for him..? so so so confused... Please help.. I also like kuya.. that's why I want to get close to him..!
2007-08-02 01:38:06 · update #2
I need more answers..!! I really want to like him as a big brother.. We are not seeing each other because his place is very far like... If I will landtrip(bus) you will take 2-3 days to get there.. When I will ride boat you will get there 2-3 days also and when I will ride a plane it will only took 1 and 1/2 hour.. So it is very far.. But we communicate each other by using cellphone..
2007-08-02 18:50:15 · update #3
I love this topic because most people will say that is disgusting but I have a story for you about my favorite aunt and uncle who I love very much.
They met at a wedding when they were young adults and were instantly enchanted with each other... they found out a couple of hours later that they were cousins. Over time they had pretended to be friends but were deeply in love with each other, and they made the decision that their relationship was worth it, and that they just wouldn't have biological children. It was a shame the way my family disgraced them and shunned them for their decision. But they moved here near to us and took such good care of their nieces and nephews.....they were so in love. They ended up adopting my cousin whose parents had alcohol/drug problems. Just this year we watched with them as my cousin graduated ....and THEY were the parents...they had loved her and supported her financially. She calls them mom and dad and if they were not available to take her then who knows what could have happened. Its amazing how God works in mysterious ways like that.
p.s- i also find it funny that the people who shunned them in the past, now come to them for financial or emotional help.
2007-07-28 03:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by nawailohiloi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel like you are the only person who ever had a "crush" on their cousin. It's not considered socially correct to have sexual relations with a first cousin. There are many other layers of cousins and I'm not sure where the line is drawn. I wouldn't be a bit surprised that there are people who are married today who don't even know they are related in some distant way. You didn't say how old you are but I'm going to assume you are an adolescent. This is very common among young folks. I assure you, you are not abnormal in any way. Just realize that it is a normal feeling that you can't act on, and that you will get over it as long as you don't constantly think about it. You must protect yourself and your cousin and not embarrass your family. Just keep it to youself and know that it will go away sooner or later. You will meet a nice man someday and then, hopefully you will be in love with him and have a happy life.
2007-07-28 03:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by GunnyCee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. He HAS to be nice to you because you are his cousin. That is the first disadvantage because you will never know how he really acts or his true personality. This could just be puppy love, be nice to him, cut down on the flirting, and try to avoid him as much as possible without being too obvious. If within a month or so your feelings change for him, just move on and remain friends. If the feelings don't change then just keep your crush on the DL and don't let it go any farther. (He IS your cousin) Try writing down on a piece of paper all the reasons you should'nt like him, why it isn't a healthy relationship, and all the con's about if you were in a relationship with him, everyday. If you stop and think really hard, maybe you don't even like him, maybe you just think you like him because, well, you don't know what else to think. Instead of liking him, try admiring him as a role model, or a guide, like all your boyfriends should be able to out-shine him or, his nose size is the deadline for any boy that you date. You know what I'm saying?
Im sorry I cant think of anything else. I really hoped this helped you and best of luck!
xoxox MICHELLE
2007-07-28 03:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are younger than 20 you need to dismiss this idea as infatuation. You're not in love. If it is a very distant cousin, and it is a mutual and mature attraction between adults, then I don't see a problem, just don't have any kids.
2007-07-28 03:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that yoru feelings are WRONG persay, but action definately is. You can think that he is good looking and like him, but not anything past that. I have a cousin that is dead sexy, but the line is drawn at that he is just eye candy. There are like 8 billion ppl in the world, you can find somebody to love-- just not your cousin.
2007-07-28 03:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The feelings foe him is right but for the moment but you have to try all your best to feel for him cousin's feeling and not boyfriend's feelings. I know it's difficult but you can't marry your cousin or have sex with him.
2007-08-05 02:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could move to WV and keep your kissing cousin or keep telling yourself over and over again till your ok w/ the idea I'M NOT AN INBRED! I'M NOT AN INBRED!
its not ok to have a crush on your cousin!
2007-07-28 03:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for it even if it's your cousin. That doesn't matter. Your feelings aren't wrong. If you like your cousin then you should tell him.
2007-07-30 06:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
crush is a normal thing..
but getting deeper on that specially with a relative its not nice at all..
Dont put a mess on your family tree! :)
2007-07-28 21:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Leave it as a cousin thing.
2007-07-28 03:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by Ocean Soldier 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋