okay. ive had this friend for a little over 3 years. he was with someone at the time but we always have seem to have this connection. well about two months ago we started having sex. since then we talk to eachother every day see eachother at least 5 days a week. he says hes not ready for a relationship now but at the same time he contridicts him self by his actions. he takes care of me, he always calls, does every thing he says hes going to. i guess what im trying to ask is does he want more and is scared or is the friends with benifits situation just too comfortable and conveinant to let go of?
2007-07-28 01:24:27 · 6 answers · asked by sexxesami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would say he cares about u so thats why hes saying hes not ready for a relationship but its being selfish at the same time because by saying that he can go do what he wants because hes admitted to you he doesnt want a relationship. its a catch22 me and my best friend went through that for YEARS!! watched eachother date other people but everyone knew (or so they thought) that we were meant and we should get together and just get it over with. well here came the problem when i was ready he wasnt and when he ws finally ready i was tired of waiting. we're still friends and we still get that look in our eye when we lok at eachother but we know we both moved on and it cant work now. remain friends thats all i can say and then if at the same time you both are 100% ready to go then do it! but it doesnt work when ones saying their not ready...believe me he will be but its up to you to come back when hes ready.
2007-07-28 01:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by toolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friends with benifits situation is to comfortable for him to let go of.
I'm pretty much in the same boat as you right now; he acts like he'd be a great boyfriend, makes you feel amazing and at the same time you're doing things with him while he says he doesn't want a relationship. You're available and he sees the opportunity to jump on the wagon and take what you're offering.
It could work out, if you two continue to see each other he may just one day roll out the red carpet and say hey, let's date now, I'm ready. But then on the other hand he might not ever want to say that, and another girl will come along that he wants to date, and that'll just cause heartache.
2007-07-28 08:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by xoxkissmexkillmexox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok being a man i think i can aswer this question quite accurately. If your screwing him without being in a relationship with him then it is certainly a "Friend with Benefits" situation... not that there is anything wrong with it. There is an old saying, "Why buy the cow when your getting the milk for free". He doesn't need to be in a relationship with you because he is getting laid without having to be. I bet if you stopped sleeping with him he would stop talking to you altogether because you can't go back to being strictly friends now that you two have had sex. That never works in the long run!!
2007-07-28 08:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by redwing_nutso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What part of the relationship that the two of you have is he claiming he's not ready for? It sounds to me like you have become more than just friends and have now moved on to being a couple. Apparently he can take part in the relationship but is as yet, unwilling to acknowledge that to himself or you. If you are happy with, and in, the new relationship with him, and he is not seeing other girls or looking for another girlfriend, stay put. The best relationships are built on friendship first.
2007-07-28 09:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by cynjo59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let things unfold naturally, there is no way for us to know what his intentions are, especially if you don't, and you know him.
2007-07-28 08:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a little of both.
2007-07-28 08:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋