i broke up with her because i found out that she had a past , she hid it from me , even though i had asked her am i wrong ?
2007-07-28 00:51:03 · 12 answers · asked by dashinguy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also let me add that she did tell me about a 2 guys and thn she didnt tell me bout this one so i dont know ???
2007-07-28 00:57:35 · update #1
her reaction is that she shouldnt have hidden it and she wants to get back and we both have decided to be friends and plus we have been togethr for only a couple of months , so i decided before it gets more serious(it is srz now as well) i should end it
2007-07-28 01:01:15 · update #2
thnx for all your help guys , we have decided to be friends forever from now and lead life our ways but thnx a tonne all of you
2007-07-29 01:10:59 · update #3
maybe she hid her past from you because she was afraid that she might lose you..if you love her you could always give her a second chance..
2007-07-28 00:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by isabella1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think breaking up the relationship is not a wise thing on ur part. we all hv a past and it is well said "let bygones be bygones". today what matters is that u both love each other. Also, i do not deny that ur feelings are wrong at this point of time as she hid it inspite of ur asking , as i truly believe that transparency is the next most important thing in a healthy relationship. But u must give her a second chance and let her know how much u love her and trust her. I am sure it can be new start for u both. Good luck!!
2007-07-28 01:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by palfinder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that just depends. Some women hide their past to avoid this situation. If you had known about her past she was possibly afraid you would end it immediately and she really liked you and did not want that to happen. She very well may have hidden it from you because she cared and didn't want you to worry about the past when the present and future are much more important. The fact is we all have a past and we have all done things in our past that we aren't proud of. If you genuinely care about her then yes i would say you were wrong and should try to make it right with her, however if you have doubts about her or her feelings or if you aren't able to get past her past then you did the right thing because nothing will kill a relationship faster than jealousy over the past.
2007-07-28 00:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by wcole_sae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear asker!
I'm a girl so I know girl's feeling better than you do, I know it hurt you when you found out your beloved had hidden her past from you,and I do feel you,dear, but I want you to think about her reason ,she has done wrong,but why? have you even thought about it? so let me to tell you something , it can be a sign of a very strong love, I mean she loves you alot,and she doesn't like to lose you, it's why she hid hid her past, maybe she had a very painful past,you know love defet is too painful,I say this cos I have exprienced it, so you'd better to talk to het and prove to her you understand her,and that you appreciate her true love for you, this way you will help her to enhance her love for you,and you both will enjoy it, but if you leave her alone,she might get depressed and you will get depressed ,too, so my dear try to think well, don't make haste,you know what ? a true love costs alot,and you can not reach it easily, you should be able to ignore many things, your beloved's wrongsfor example, if you can not forgive your partner you wont succeed in your love life, if you forgive others it will put you in a very good mood, don't forget you might never find another girl who loves you as much as this girl loves you, I'm sure you love her ,too,so pls don't hesitate ,
go to her and let her know you still love her, I hope I could help you with my advices, I like to hear from you after you are back to her, I wish the best for you two, if you have any other question,you can write me directly to
aloyalgirl_82@yahoo.com
don't forget she needs you! good luck dear!
2007-07-28 01:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by tah_om9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a past maybe you dont that is why it is effecting you if you truly love her her past shouldn't come in your way if she also loves you maybe she would get back with you. Or maybe you guys should met up and talk openly about everything what you guys did in the past it will help you guys because nothing will be hidden from each other. GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-28 01:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sharjil Albert Clement 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one has a past thats just part of life if you realy like this girl and only broke up then maybe you should think about possibly trying to get back together as it's in her past and maybe she's changed as everyone does nobody stays the same!
2007-07-28 00:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by KittyKat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only person to answer that question is you... you have to answer to yourself whether it means to you a great deal what she's been doing before you two met or became a couple... she didn't say anything because maybe she cared too much for you, maybe she didn't want to hurt you, maybe she was looking for the right person and when she found you she was too ashamed to tell you about the past or maybe she was too scared... so if you have any doubts about your decision or if you still feel something for her... think it all over... there might have been million reasons why she didn't want to tell you about her past... good luck :)
2007-07-28 01:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by smart_girl_pl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong. You are entitled to how you feel, but everyone has a past both good and bad. If you judge people on their past you may be judged for yours and who knows what you have hiding in your closet. Her past has nothing to do with you. You were her present and potentially her future and you screwed that up.
2007-07-28 00:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might have been a bit harsh to have broken up with her. If she didn't want to tell you her past you have to respect that she wants to keep it to herself. If you still love her, I think you should apologize and get back together with her.
2007-07-28 00:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by Corrida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her past probably hurts her and she wants to forget about it. I think that it was harsh, but were you nice about it? What was her reaction?
2007-07-28 00:58:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋