My bf dumped me when i am 7 mos preggo. he was a complete a**hole to me and sent me a horrrible e-mail saying he has another gf. his family does not know I am preggo. I am financially independent, but I feel completely betrayed by him, b/c he wanted this baby to. His family has money, they own a business where he works, although he never paid for anything while we were dating. Should I go after him for child support or what. I have a lawyer. Just wondering if anyone had real problems with this. Any success stories.
2007-07-27 23:48:32 · 12 answers · asked by pussnboots333 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First - I am sorry that you are going through this. It is a difficult thing to do with someone let alone by yourself. Second, yes you should position the court for child support. Not to cause problems but because it is the right thing for him to do when it is his child. His family has a right to know that there is a child on the way. I suggest that you tell his family but do it in an adult way. Be kind and courteous. If they then choose to have nothing to do with you or the baby, it is on them and not you. They will also be this child's family and they both (the child and family) have a right to know each other if they choose to.
2007-07-28 00:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by tlk0408 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go after him for child support because the baby is half his and you will need the money to support him. I also think that his family should know that they have a grand child.
It took two of you to make the baby and the baby will grow up and want to know his/her father and if he's not in the babies life it will be harder for the child to handle.
Just remember how ever mean he was to you, revenge isn't going to solve anything. You should do what you need to, get the child support and the acknowledgement from his family but don't make it about the issues between you and him.
He may regret the way he treated you in the future and he is always going to be the babies father and there is nothing you or he can do to change that.
A friend of mine was in a similar situation and she had the baby and got child support from the father eventually. Now he son visits his dad and his dads family once in a while and he and she keep in touch for their sons sake.
Hope that helps
2007-07-28 00:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Nitro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you save that horrible e-mail if so when you are ready to talk or correspond with his parents include it.Just inform them about the order of events mainly the facts without any emotions .Most likely if they raised their son to become a complete ashole they also are to blame so dont expect them to be on your side or the childs their only concern most likely is to make money and think about it how are you so sure they didnt know it might be that they ve know they are grandparents but as their son walked out they didnt want to be involved and that is also bad..but yes they do have a right to know your side of the story. You have a lawyer ....why you are not asking him ?Make sure he specializing in Familylaw so he can give you all the right answers but a good start would be a letter of him ,a 3rd party,about your situation dont forget that e-mail of their son......get all the money of them as you can get to compensate for lacking LOVE, i hope your lawyer has your best interests at heart as most of them only outthere for the money.Take care
2007-07-28 01:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys mutually decided to have a baby together, then I think you should ask him to make child support payments. Does he want to be a part of your baby's life? If so then GREAT! If not, then I think you should forget about him.
I also think you should let his family know that you're pregnant or they may never know that they have a grandchild.
I wish you the best!
2007-07-27 23:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by Je t'aime Paris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are certain that this guy IS the baby's father, take him to court for child support. Since he will probably deny it under the influence of his "other girlfriend", you may have to get the court to order a DNA paternity test to determine if he is the baby's father. If he is the father, it is only fair and right for him to pay support money for HIS (and your) child. Yes. Go for it!
2007-07-27 23:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to talk to him about supporting his child? I really think you need to involve his parents as they have a right to know they have a grandchild on the way and maybe they will support you financially and emotionally.
I managed to get my ex to agree to £200 a month for our 2 boys although it isnt a huge amount I feel at least he is contributing. Good luck
2007-07-27 23:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by juliewylie29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should go after him for child support and go round his business too and let his parents and family see what an a--hole they raised . Make him take responsibility for his child. and maybe his new g/f might get it in her head that he might do the same thing to her . good luck .
2007-07-27 23:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should go after him....... he made you suffer doing this to you, so it's only fair you should repay the compliment going after him for Child support.
For starters, bringing up a kid can be pretty damn expensive, no matter how much you earn, as this article on The Motley Fool shows: http://www.fool.com/personal-finance/general/2007/05/09/million-dollar-baby.aspx
2007-07-28 00:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes the dad of the baby, you have to force him to take responsibility
2007-07-27 23:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and sue him in court make sure he would pay for child support! make this ashole pay
2007-07-27 23:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋