My b/f recently has been asking me stuff about my ex-b/f. he's asked in the past couple months at least half a dozen times if I see him anymore, and what he's doing and stuff like that. I've told him everytime that I haven't seen him since we broke up 3 years ago, and all I know is that he lives downstate away at college. In addition my b/f asks me about a guy friend of mine too. He's asked me if me and him have ever dated or had sex or ever had feelings for eachother. He found a picture of my friend on my phone, and decided to mess it up too. Is my b/f afraid I'm going to cheat on him or lose interest in him? I've told him many times that I really care about him and that I want a serious relationship with him. He seems reluctant to commit, but then he seems nervous about my ex and my guy friend I hang out with. He's been cheated on before. Does it sound like he might afraid of getting close b/c of fear of getting hurt again?
2007-07-27 22:45:39 · 8 answers · asked by in2you86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
alot of guys would like to know about their gf's past regardless of whether they have been cheated on or not , but it gets worse if they have been cheated on...make sure that he knows that u hate ur ex-bf and u dont want anything to do with him...and regarding ur bf , u can let them meet , this is if ur friend is a nice guy , if u think that by letting them meet willcause a problem then leave it...but it all depends on bothe of their personalitiesand the way ur bf accepts thingz , u can try to explain to him why this guy out of all guys is ur friend e.g. if he was there for u in hard times etc.
peace
2007-07-27 22:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by 6669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a man with issues. Either he doesn't trust himself to make a good choice this time (you)...or he's jealous and insecure...or he's controlling.
You get to pick. You're the one who's involve with him. Heck, could be he's all of the above.
Either way, you don't want a committed relationship with someone with this much baggage. He needs to work out his issues, or you need to find a new boyfriend. Trust me..as endearing as this may be at times (oh look how much he loves me), it will also get pretty old.
I don't know about you, but if I'm accused of cheating enough, I'll probably tell them I have, just so they go away.
2007-07-28 06:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure about himself. He wants to know that he is the one and the only one. I forsee this man being very controling as your relationship goes deeper. It will not be easy to help this man change. You should never tell another person your past relationships unless you have trust in each other and are confident with yourselves. I hope you see this before you get yourself into something you can't get out of.
2007-07-28 05:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sneebs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is insecure and jealous. The fact that he would take your personal belongings (like your phone) and go through it, and then vandalize an image of your friend, is just plain WRONG and suggests that he is capable of letting his jealousy and anger control his actions. This is a dangerous combination... the warning signs are there....
DUMP his sorry *** and tell him exactly why you are doing it!
2007-07-28 05:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by Curious George 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People that are paranoid about cheating, is usually because they have a guilty conscience about something that they are doing themselves!
2007-07-28 05:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by pitbull lover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably insecure, thinks he'll be cheated on.
2007-07-28 05:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by MotaroRIP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup. he doesnt trust u. either that or he just doesnt wanna be hurt again. this is normal sometimes. the picture is taking it too far tho.
2007-07-28 05:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by kidskater7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels insecure for some reason and I guess you might know why, if not ask him don't demand to know
2007-07-28 05:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by jay s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋