ok heres the deal
i got this 15 year old gf and im 19 years old and we have been together for 7 months and we want a long term relationship cuz we both have feeling for each other(plz dont comment about that were to yough cuz we have been lectured about this one million times and i personaly dotn care about age age is just a number and we both mature enough belive me)
i love her and we have had our ups and downs we are happy allmost every day we are togetehr ever6y day posible we hanbd out we tell each other i love you but what can i do to keep the relationship alive and get over bad times ?any advice plz No lecture if ur gonna elcture me cuz im youngh your no mroe matrue then me cuz age is a number i reapeat number no lectures!!!!!
2007-07-27 20:35:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some imature put soem lectures i said no lectures damnit u bunch of diots if u have the nerve to lecture me tehn ur the imature ones not me beeing a pest is a sign of imaturity the two peopel who comente stupid things shoudl just shove their coment up tehir *** hahahaha
2007-07-27 20:49:23 · update #1
well its kinda hard to answer the question the main thing your saying is to not lecture you but if i have it right you want to spice things up go on a picnic,horse back riding ,race track ,play pool,there's not much you can do due to her being so young but there's nothing wrong with being with her and you guys being so young so stop saying it you make it sound guilty but just do that id say do something romantic for her like play little search games with notes and clues it sounds cheesy but u guys will have fun and the fact that you took the time out to do it shell just melt doesn't matter how old she is i know she will and i wish you guys the best of luck i love being young and in love its the best I'm a Lil jealous ......good luck
2007-07-27 20:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by khissmyputtytat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that relationships, long term speaking, don't last purely on love. Two people can love each other, but simply can't exist together. It happens. Humans are complicated beings. If you are thinking long term, as in when the both of you finish your education, then you have several things to think about, because there are many things that will come at the two of you down the road that will cause many more "ups and downs".
I am not saying that your relationship won't last. Hell, who knows. In this day and age, nothing except death and taxes is certain.
What I am saying is that you need to take a peak down the road to see how things might be...let's say, five years from now...
Education...you know, as well as I do, that without a decent one, you will probably not a get a decent job. Then you will have serious MONEY issues. Trust me, money is the number one thing that couples fight about.
Housing...without this decent job, you will not be able to afford a decent home. This will cause arguments as well, because NOBODY wants to live with their parents.
Children...don't kid yourself. No birth control is 100% effective. Once you introduce kiddies into the picture, you will have yourself a whole new area to stress about.
I am not trying to talk you out of the relationship. I don't even know how far you intend to take this relationship. What I am saying is that dating is a WORLD away from being married, so you really should not compare the two.
I say take the relationship one day at a time. Enjoy dating. There is no harm in that. Enjoy having the time together that you have now, and stop worrying about everything else.
If you can't communicate to each other and get through the bad times while you are just dating, then I promise you will never be able to do it as a married couple. Work on your relationship skills -- learn to talk. More importantly, make sure that you learn to LISTEN to each other. Be ready to compromise. Know that you can't always have YOUR way.
Good luck.
2007-07-28 03:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK dude here goes, you are both at close to the same maturity level cause fems mature faster than we do. Keeping that in mind you are both still evolving into adults which means your likes and dislikes are going to change drastically over the next few years. You may not even like each other in another six months, who knows. The key to keeping things going is don't fight. This is true for any age, most fights couples get into are over petty things that won't mean anything next week. Also shower her with gifts. I don't mean go buy her something every day. Give her something that has meaning in your relationship. If it has a special meaning for the two that is all that is important. Now I must say this are you having sexual relations with this girl? I don't care how much she loves you, at 15 her parents can slap you with rape charges and it won't matter what she says. Some states have some very severe penalty's no matter what the circumstance of the case. If you are found guilty there may be mandatory sentencing guidelines that the judge has to follow. You are playing with a loaded gun junior, best of luck to you.
2007-07-28 03:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by Big_Dog_Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not just a number, and your immaturity is obviously well developed. Get a girl your own age, or at least of legal age.
2007-07-28 03:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by dweebken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to be mature you need to be open to criticism.....avoiding other people's opinion is ignorance...
In my opinion I can say that even though people think they are ready it is better to be patient.......regardless of maturity and age....
Marriage doesn't garuntee a good relationship.....
In marriage you need a number of things:
patience
matuirty
stable jobs
commitment
sacrifice
maturity
loyalty
honesty
goals
respect
.....
These are some things to consider.....
2007-07-28 03:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't get a girl your own age you have to rob the cradle.
2007-07-28 03:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋