Im not marry yet and I dont have children but if one day I have would preffer to have a career and work and then be a stay home wife. Would this hurt the children in the long run?
2007-07-27 19:54:47 · 13 answers · asked by Donna 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It depends on the amount of time you spend with them. My mom always tried to get a job that would have the same hours as school so she could spend as much time with us as possible. We are very happy and always encouraging her to do whatever she wants.
2007-08-03 10:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I waited until my children were in school full time and also when I found a responsible baby sitting facility. However, I worked the rest of my life by choice. My children are grown and have children of their own and they have done the same thing. My children were all responsible for helping take care of the house while they were growing up and realized that nothing comes to them if the are idle. If that hurt my children, I do not see how. I never wanted to be a stay at home wife and it was never expected of me. My family was strong and still is today.
2007-08-03 03:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying home with the children or going to work after you've had your children is a has nothing to do with your decision to stay home or pursue a career.
Just because a mom is working doesn’t mean she has chosen her career over her kids, and just because a mom stays at home doesn’t mean she has abandoned her ambitions and dreams. The truth is many working moms wish they could make the change to stay at home, and many stay at home moms wish they could go to work. Some stay at home moms are depressed and how can a child be around a depressed mother and get attention and affection
2007-08-02 18:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, its done every day and the kids turn out fine. However, what it will do is exhaust you. Parenting is an energy sucking experience. Something has to give. If its not your job and its not your kids, it'll be your marriage.
Alot of women feel this way before they have children. Most women who can stay home with their kids do it because they really like to be in their kids company. Mine were a blast, I got to stay home the 1st six years and I loved being with them. Unfortunately their father didn't do alot to support us, and I had to go to work. They are grown now, but I remember our time together with very fond memories. We are still very very close.
2007-07-27 20:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not hurt your children as long as you keep this in mind: A child will not remember what items they recieved for there birthday or christmas usually but they will remember that you were there for there 4th grade recital, or gave them advise about a friend issue. making a lot of money will not make your family life happy being together as a family will. on the other hand being home all the time and not getting away will cause stress and resentment it takes a happy balance!!!!!!!1
2007-08-03 07:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way it would hurt your kids is if you become totally committed to the career or to anything that pushes them completely to the side. Balance is what you always need to keep in mind when you have kids , a husband ,a job ,anything in life .Make sure one doesn't overpower the other to where it becomes stressful or a strain on you because if YOU are not happy you want be truly good to or for anyone else.
2007-08-03 02:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. There are plenty of children with stay at home mom's who ended up messed up as well. (Sorry that as overly cynical).
And as long as you balance out work and home, and your partner contributes so you can create a safe and loving environment, I think anything is possible. Whether it's a conventional home or not.
2007-08-04 12:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by i_have_cheese_dreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing in a child's life is feeling secure and loved. You have to make the best decisions for your family to make that happen. There are trade offs, both good and bad, to working and to staying at home. Just make your decision when the time comes and let NO ONE make you feel bad about it.
2007-07-28 06:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Critter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you intend to spoil them and feel guilty because you are working, nothing wrong with having a career, but you need to find a balance, I know of one case where the parents are guilty because of this, keep buying the kids presents, instead of being parents, got now I just avoid them because of their spoilt kids.
2007-08-04 18:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by Little miss naughty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children will grow up knowing that you are happy. Children want to be in a nurturing environment. Whatever makes you happy will make a happy home.
2007-08-04 13:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by maestra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋