Moving to the desert. What would you do?

Question

Hi,
Im 22, I am married with one child. Our family is moving to the middle of nowhere at the end of the year as hubby is going to be working as an engineer at an iron ore mine. The town is very small, only 5000 people most of whom are FIFO workers or residents made up of working dads and stay at home mums. I am going to be deadly bored in this town there is ONE shopping centre and we will be 5 hours from the beach and 3 hours from the closest nearby town. I do not know if I should use the 2 years (contract is 2 years) to have another child, work part time and take advantage of the higher earnings or do half a university course through correspondence. I figure if I had another child at least when we move back to our home I will have less child raising left to do and can focus on working sooner BUT the other options look good too. What would YOU do??

I love my child, I want to have 2 children and I want to raise them myself but I also want a better education and to do other things with my life too. Please don't judge me I was just thinking that since I would be in the middle of nowhere it would be a good opportunity to start bringing up a second child so that I can get them off to school and start on the next phase a bit faster. I love my daughter but I have a desire to be a mother AND more. I want to make use of my time as best I can so that I can acheive more. I have to can my business to move there and I am looking to fill the time wisely and efficiently. I am not a heartless *****, I just want to use every moment I can in this life.

And to the person telling me not to have another baby, the reason I want to have another baby is because I want another baby anyway, if I was staying in my home town I would want another baby. I wish people wouldn't take me the wrong way! I realise that raising children requires a lot of effort which is why I was considering it because it would keep me busy, what is wrong with having another child if I am intending to put all my effort into them while they are home with me? I am so confused about why you would think I am some kind of monster....

Answer 1

How about have another child

AND

Do a university course online???

That way you can stay home with your newborn baby and create a strong bond with him/her... and get some higher education for when you do move back!

Answer 2

I understand that you are looking toward a situation that stresses you out but, being bored is not a reason to have a baby. And if your attitude is that if you have a child during this time when you may have nothing better to do you will at least have less child raising left to do -- why do you want to have another child? Childraising is not something to be gotten out of the way. It is not an obligation (and it's sad if you think it is) and should not be done because you think you should. If you want another child, have another child when it seems like the best time for you to have another child. But don't use your boredom or your lack of anything better to do or your desire to get it out of the way as a reason to have a child. Go to school or get a job or volunteer of watch tv all day or read every book there is or watch soap operas but, don't have a baby.

Answer 3

2 objects of the same size cannot share the same space at the same time.When one parentg works and the other decides to go to work also, then the child is left with a "hole".The parents who watches the child is now gone and that hole has to be filled by something or someone.I knew a man who was a truck driver and his wife was in real estate sales.While their 17 yr old was sticking his head in a large paper bag with airplane glue, the 12 yr old was sniffing gasoline fumes.The dad was on the road most the time,she didnt get home until after 5 p.m. They had quite a few hours to kill,since their grandparents could not take care of them.Then there is the kid who had sex with his baby sitter at the tender age of 10.
THE MOST IMPORTANT JOB YOU will EVER do,is raising YOUR children to be decent human beings who will contribute to society.Hired help will not do the quality job YOU want and can do yourself.There will still be many good years after they start school you can work part time and once they are grown go full time.

Answer 4

5 thousand...? Man that sounds like a lot. I live in a town with about 2 or 3 thousand.

Trust me, moving from a city outside Detroit to a western town in Kentucky. there are LOT of things to do in a small town. You just have to look and start meeting people.

There are always things going on in small town . Like mine we have farmer markets every week end. and last night there was a band at the court square till midnight.

And with Churches in your new town you will have or could have a lot to do with them..and the school your child will be going to and/or daycare.

Keep looking you will find a lot to do in your new town.

Answer 5

i dont' think u should have a child just because you are bored or think it would be easier to do now. if u want the baby for other reasons than go for it, but i think the time might be used to better your life and take care of you. perhaps by working or taking courses at a school. or why not organize activities or even come up with a charity or simply a play group with the other women in your new area, many of them are probably bored too and might look forward to something new to do. good luck to you

Answer 6

To be honest with you, I wouldn't move.

You are going to be stuck at home in the middle of nowhere with a bored child. You shouldn't have to put up with this for 2 years just for the sake of money.

Stay where you are happy, there is more to life than money.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Have a child if you want a child.

Find a hobby if you are concerned about boredom.

Answer 9

If you'll be staying home, have another baby!

Answer 10

Knowing myself as I do, overacheiver that I am, I'd probably try to do them ALL.