My wife and God?

Question

I pray to God and I keep my heart and eyes and ears open to his command. I have a girlfriend who I love very much and she is good to me and also sometimes is very impatient with me; impatient to the point that our communication is shut down, almost anything I say whether expressing love, concern, or desire to do ANYTHING to help is annoying to her.
It seems that most people would not tolerate this and would break up, but I feel that God is asking me to stay with her and continue working it out with her. I want to do this, and I am committed.
What Bible passages are recommended?
How do I pray to hear God's word and receive guidance?

This woman I would like to be my wife...

I have not told her outright that I want her to be my wife because I am in college and feel that God is having me be strong through thick and thin. I feel that a proposal is necessary if I say I want to marry her. Marriage will come if the time is right.

She is afraid of commitment...

Answer 1

Here are three points that scripture makes as far as marriage is concerned.
1 - Do not be unequally yoked.
2 - Husbands, love your wives.
3 - Wives, respect your husbands.

Do this: Run for Christ as hard as you can. Look to your left and to your right. You may chose a wife from the women who are keeping up with your race - that will make you equally yoked, and you will have a woman to love... who will respect you.

Answer 2

I once had a simular problem. I had done the dating sceen for long enough to figure out that the relationships that I had been in always ended in my girlfriend or myself getting hurt. So I had decided it was marrage or nothing for me.
Knowing that the Word of God told me to pray in all things I decided the next time that I met a nice girl I would pray about it.
This is how I prayed, I layed down on my bed with my eyes closed and decided in my heart that I would folcus only on searching for God and with one thought in mind, is this the right girl for me? I also was not going to stop praying in this manner until God answered me.
I ended up staying in this prayer position for 4 hours before I became sore from not moving, cold and sweaty. I gave up and felt like a faliure, with God only reveiling one thing to me. I had seen a very large eye in my mind look at me, and it scared me because I knew that it saw right through my outer self and was searching me inside.
This is the really cool part of the answer now. It had gotten late by this time so I got ready to go to bed. The second I put my head on my pillow, I was in a vision of God which lasted for what seemed like a few minutes. God showed me meeting with the girl that I would marry, and she was like no other girl I had ever met. She was the deepest desires of my heart.
It has been over 12 years since I had this vision, but it has been my strength and song to help be get by without any girl friends. One day I will be with her and I will be blessed.
In short this is what I did:
- I was very determined.
- I prayed with my heart, soul, mind and body.
It is written to acknowledge the Lord in all things and he will direct your path.(God does not have to answer you anything, just know that he is in control when you pray about a matter) all you have to be is patient and have trust.
It is also written that you should give thanks in all things, so remember to be very thankful when you are praying.
If you want to find the scripture in the Bible that I layed out before you, go online to a Bible Concordance. punch in some of the key words, or part of the verse and presto, you will have all the passages you need.

Answer 3

First of all do not look for advice in scripture here.

Talk with HER to know what to do and if she's annoyed by everything then leave her be to get over it.

The only miracle here will be you guys learning how to actually communicate like humans with one another.

No wonder fundamentalist have higher divorce rates than Atheist. Instead of working things out they pray to God. This should let you know how much insight into people you have received so far.

You may have to break up before it's over. You can't love anyone into loving you.

♥Blessed Be♥
♥=∞

Answer 4

It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

Proverbs 21:9
King James Version


A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.

Proverbs 27:15
King James Version


But we can change that if she listen to the word of God

here are some websites

Answer 5

I'm sorry, I have no passages as your Bible is not mine.

But why would you torture yourself? A friend of mine is doing the same and she's stuck with a man that makes her feel less than human. It's not right and she deserves better--and so do you. Find someone that loves you, and that youcan talk to and be open with. A marriage with no communication will not last. Communication is the foundation of a good relationship.

Luck be with you.

Answer 6

Tell her of your feelings, especially that you wish to marry her. It could just be that something else is bothering her, and she is taking it out on you, but not out of meanness. You sound very loving to her. I commend you for staying to it. If she is angered easily, it is most likely she has an underlying problem. Instead of attempting to speak with her about it. Write her a letter, send it to her. Tell her just exactly how you feel in it. This is a start, and it has been noted to help.

Bright Blessings to you! :)

Answer 7

Well to be completely honest with you, when it comes to this, you won't hear God's word. He seems to leave these kind of issues alone and leaves you to work them out alone with your other half.
When my husband and I seperated, after going through some really really hard times, I then realized that he isn't listening and wasn't going to help with this. For a long time i prayed. I asked for any kind of help with just the simplest thing as patients. Nope didn't happen. You are just going to have to find it within your self to overcome this. You and her are going to have sit down and have many heart to hearts on this matter. Its up to the two of you to work this out. There will be NO help from above. NONE. Trust me. I know.

Answer 8

don't get caught up in her drama. Pray harder to God, but also take a good long look at how compatible you two are. I wish I could recommend a really good compatibility chart, but I don't know any. Don't go into anything blind.

Answer 9

Have you told her that you would like her to be your wife? Ask her what are you doing wrong that infuriates her so, and Good Luck.

Answer 10

As much as I am sure you are very sincere in your feelings about this woman--I'd question whether or not God is telling you someone who exhibits the very opposite of the behavior that God calls love---(love is patient, love is kind, love thinks not of itself) is really the person you're supposed to be married to a lifetime for--I suggest you read Proverbs 31 about what a real woman of God looks like--it is this kind of wife that Solomon's mother told him to seek.

Here is something I found greatly revealing about a majority of relationships today--the following is a list of characterists of a large segment of the population. Don't cause yourself a lifetime of grief--choosing a wife is too important of a decision. Ask those spiritually mature around you for Godly counsel and spend some time away from this person to gain a better perspective. It seems you are focusing on them instead of focusing on God.






A profile of a marriage:

1. The wife is disobedient to God and promotes wrong order in the family. He also has a light attitude toward sin. Considers sin and disobedience of God's laws as trivial.

2. Institutes premarital sex for self but bitterly condemns it for others. Sin is condoned and tolerated in the family if she can use it to maintain control.

3. Like to play the role of God, [i]controlling[/i] family and the church. He wants her to make the decisions, although he may later blame her for the results.

4. Takes away the husband's authority and works on the premise that the ends justifies the means. He permits this. (Every man deserves his woman.)

5. Tells (not advises or suggests) her husband what to do and when to do it. He puts up with this kind of treatment for fear of her anger.

6. Rebukes and contradicts her husband in front of others. Belittling his manliness she castrates him emotionally by cutting him down before others. This provokes the male to real anger and resentment.

7. Christian wives with this behavior fake submission, dutifully asking her husband's opinion about a matter. If he does not agree with her, she will continue nagging, determined to change his mind. He responds with anger and resentment.

8. Treats her husband as a little boy. He enjoys childish privileges and playing "Mommy's little boy," "Playboy," "Workaholic" or "Alcoholic."

9. Desires to be her husband's mother rather than his wife. He really wants a mother so he can remain a "Peter Pan," or a spoiled little boy.

10. Bedroom blackmail and sexual rationing are her most potent manipulation over her husband. He responds with anger, disgust and repulsion, which may produces impotence, defeat and frustration. He may retaliate by adulterous affairs or retreat into sleep, TV, newspapers, reading, sports, alcoholism or other activity outside of his home.

11. Becomes deaf to his problems and never considers she may have problems herself.

12. Likes to push her husband into better job positions or up the social ladder. If things do not go right in these plans, he pouts and sulk; is depressed, displeased, loses his appetite, displays childish self-will. He wants his Mommy to make everything right.

13. No matter what she does, her marriage is never satisfactory. Both partners become disappointed and frustrated. He is attracted to this type of woman because he sense she is hard and can take abuse. This gives him an excuse to commit adultery, get drunk, act irresponsibly and rationalize that she deserves it!

14. Controls the hospitality in the home. She likes a lovely, spotless home, but doesn’t like to share it, except to show off. She can make her husband’s friends very uncomfortable. The Bible indicates that the man is the host who does the inviting of guests and showing hospitality. He reacts by going “out” or to his friends’ houses where there is a more comfortable atmosphere.

15. Because of the desire to control and “mother” men, she is drawn to men who want her kind of love. She is hurt repeatedly because no matter how hard she tries to please him in an ungodly way, she is disappointed by his inability to give and receive love. The man wants love, but is really unable to give or receive love freely. This results in striving, divorce or unhappy living arrangements.

16. Her family is always in confusion, trying unsuccessfully to please or placate her. Family members are made to feel guilty for wanting to escape her destructive control. He is part of this plan as well as one of it’s victims, she is also a victim, often being very unhappy.

17. Her tongue castrates males, makes women worthless, and keeps children from growing up. He fears her acid tongue and uses her for his selfish purposes, but hates her for her cleverness.

18. Unable to display natural affection, she is merciless especially to the aged. Selfishly absorbed in his own interests, as he is not able to give or receive love in a godly manner.

19. Both are out of order for God’s plan for the family.

20. These behaviors are learned and acquired through the family of origin.