my dad wont trust me?

Question

my dad wont let me watch what i want on tv and i am 17 and am old enough to have to keep the house clean water the garden and soon have a job but i cant watch what i want on tv or go out after dark or go to an amusement park or store or the fair by myself i mean i am 17 i know hes being protective but come on i am almost an adult and he expects me to have a job next year is a little freedom to much to ask and i am not a tiny little person i am 5 foot 8 and look like i can kick the **** out of pretty much and one i am not a twig girl so am i being unreasonable

i am 5 foot eight and 250 pounds and a am generally a very big person i mean the fact that i have size 12 shoes a wrist about as thick as an average regular weight guy says something ( not fat just really thick )

i proved i am responsible i am on the honor roll and stay away from druggies and generally bad pepole and am fairly responsible

Answer 1

no ur not and u need to say exactly what u just put on yahoo answers to him. and you may say "well i tried that" but ask him "are you ever gonna let me grow up dad?" say " i mean look at all my friends they get a little more freedom""i am almost an adult and i know how to fight for myslef"" you taught me how to fight for myslef"

just throwing sum ideas out. lol

Answer 2

I agree, I think he being over protective. It's probably not that he doesn't trust you, he probably doesn't trust others. You need to be able to do more as a 17 year old, that's how you learn to be independent, make friends, etc. I know a girl that was raised that way, and she has caused her family a lot of problems. You talk about your weight, and I'm not criticizing, but maybe you weigh this much because of depression. I mean I would be depressed if I had to lead this kind of life at 17. You need to find another adult to talk with your Dad(Preacher,counselor, relative). Hon, I wish you all the best, this isn't right!

Answer 3

You are not even near being an adult. If you were you would realize that your physical size and strength do not allow any kind of protection unless you have been trained. A gun to the back of your head or a knife at your throat, or a drug in your drink and you are down for the count and hopefully all that happens to you is rape. There are worse things.

I have to agree with him on the tv stuff, unless you can prove to him that there is something worthwhile in the program you want to watch, 99% is pure mind drivil. Read a book.

There will come a day in the not too distant future where you will come and go as you please and live without your fathers protection. You will miss it. Thank him for giving a d*mn, those kids who get to do what they want, their parents couldn't care less or be bothered.

Your father trusts you, he just doesn't trust what's outside his door, and I don't blame him at all.

Answer 4

There's a couple ways to approach this. First, ask your Dad what it is he is concerned about? What is it he believes will happen, to you or with you if you watch TV or stay out late or whatever? Then ask if suddenly, on your 18th birthday, you'll suddenly have the maturity to do what he doesn't want you to do now? All dads are afraid their little girls are going to get pregnant, probably from some guy just like them at that age. So address this, ask if this is his concern. Then tell him if he has taught you proper values and a sense of responsibility, he should have confidence in you that you'll do the right thing. On the other hand, if he hasn't properly taught you, then turning 18 isn't going to teach you anything. This is one approach. Get him talking about his fears and the two of you address them. Other approach...jus wait until you're 18.

Answer 5

How can your dad be wrong for just plain ole loving you?You are not an adult yet.Besides you will always be his little girl.It doesn't matter how big you are.There are evil people out there.and a very sick world to go with it.Hang on 18 will be here soon enough.When you get a job your Independence will Begin.But,until then enjoy the loving arms of a protective dad,I wish mine was still here so I could talk to him.

Answer 6

Just keep remembering how lucky you are to have a parent who loves you enough, to care about your welfare even at 17. There are so many kids out there who would give the world to know that their parents cared about them so much. It's not as safe and as easy as a lot of you kids think it is. You all don't realise the dangers that are out there these days. That is why God has given us parents, to protect us for as long as they can from the evils of the world. Otherwise parents would not be necessary after the children were weaned from their mother's milk.

Answer 7

Just try tackling one problem at a time. If you bombard him with all of your wants you may not get any!
Use just a little pressure for a start, some parents just dig their heels in when you come at them with too much stuff.

Answer 8

He probably trusts you, he does'nt trust people!! but you really need to tell him that you need your freedom too, someday your going to be on your own in the real world your not always going to have your dad in front of you, so tell him.

Answer 9

just talk to him tell him that you need experience on your own and that you are old enough to take care of you! he loves you and thinks that your his little girl! he doesnt want to let you go

Answer 10

you father just doesn't want except that his little girl is growing up.try explaining this to your dad and tell him that you are not a baby any more