Okay Im 14 and a girl. And well the past coulpe of weeks i enjoyed watching porn. I mean its nothing sick and it doesnt show penetraition its nothing hard core. Im a virgin and i mean im not a bad kid i get good grades and im not looking to have sex in tell im ready to take the risks. but I was wondering does that make me grosss and dirty because i watch porn? or is it ok? or i need some advice please be a little nice. I mean i dont watch it like every night but say 2 times a week?
thank you/
2007-07-27 18:56:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uh its not going to change me?
2007-07-27 19:01:04 · update #1
Sexual curiosity at this age is common, but I would stop watching the porn.
You are only human if you want to know how sex works and learning it at your age is very hard to do, almost impossible. There are a lot of issues tied in with sex that make it complicated, from religion to social. It is best to avoid the entire issue until you are older.
I can tell you not to have sex at your age, but you won't understand why. You need maturity and you don't have the maturity to understand how much maturity you need to understand all the ramifications of sex. Try explaining how TV works to a caveman.
If you understand that sex isn’t just for fun, but to create babies, then you need to understand how to avoid having babies when you don’t want them and the consequences of having babies when you don’t want them. Basically having a baby before you finish school will destroy your life, the baby’s life and the life of any other family members that you drag into it. Then you have the moral issues, only an adult has the right and the understanding to have sex and deal with the consequences, and many of them don’t do a very good job at it.
Sex is an act where the male inserts the fully erect penis into the female’s vagina to send sperm up the vagina where it can reach the female egg fertilize the egg, have that egg attach and so create a new life. That is the act itself and it can be done in many fashions. The reason is to make more humans. To insure this happens evolution makes sex seem like fun and enjoyable. When you have sex you will have a lot of fun, so that you will do it a lot and therefore create more human babies.
This ends the body and gene part of this essay. The moral and social issues are so dramatic and life changing that I can’t go into it here, not to mention the religious issues. Sex is not evil, it is natural and to have desires for sex is natural. You are young, but entering the time of your life when you are becoming sexually active and it is possible to have babies.
When we were cavemen and people reached old age at 30 having sex at your age wasn’t a bad idea. So the body got ready for it. But, now days society is so much more complicated that it like the difference between being a modern man and a caveman.
Do your best to push the issue aside for now. Try to do something else and don’t continue down your current path. You need to talk to your mother and tell her that you are curious about sex. This could start a major war in the house so be ready for it, but that can happen with any important issue, and sex is one of the most important.
You are curious and normal, but you are far from ready for sex.
2007-07-27 19:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dan S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 02:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Pilar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is long, sorry... but anyways, here I go. It starts with 2 times a week, then it's 3 times, 4 times... etc.
When I was your age, I'd been an addict for a little less than a year, and was already up to 2 or 3 times a day. A DAY! Back then, I thought it was cool... "Everyone's doing it." Then I got busted for it. The whole butt-chewing thing... the "You shouldn't be doing this..." the whole "Shame, shame" bit... you know the works.
By this time I was an addict. It was making me crazy. My grades were starting to suffer and I was looking at girls differently - I was looking at them as objects... experiment toys, if you will. And when I wasn't watching porn, I was thinking about it (which got kind of embarrassing at school)... and if I was completely separated from it, my moods changed and I became irritable.
When I was younger (and first starting off), there was nothing hardcore... just some boobies here and there. But as I got older, it got harder and harder core... until I was into looking at/watching orgies and whatnot. (Again, back then, I thought it was cool.) I was 17 when this happened...
Of course, at the time, I was also struggling to live a double-life as an "intellectual" Christian... but I wasn't Christian in my heart, because I watched fornication (sex outside of marriage) on the Internet. I realized my innocence had been corrupted, but it was an addiction... and looking at porn gave me a sort of "high".
Well, in that same year, I gave my life to Christ and became a devout Christian. I was still struggling with my addiction, but it started to dawdle a little bit... and now I see myself for what I was: young, ignorant, and corrupted. My childhood innocence was gone... seared away by brunettes with nice breasts and blondes being penetrated. Taken by the entertainment industry.
All I can say is, in conclusion, the choice is yours. It's your own innocence you're taking, it's your own moods you're altering, it's your own life you're warping...
[EDIT]: I didn't think it would change me either, but it did. It's just like all addictions - caffeine, tobacco, marijuana. They have adverse effects, and they change us - even when we think we're in complete control of them.
2007-07-27 19:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh.....no....well the way i think of it is if u watch porn while ur single then it doesnt matter if u watch porn 24/7.
But when ur in a relationship you shouldnt watch any at all (at least that's my opinion)....there is however a problem: say that u watch porn 24/7 and ur single..and all of a sudden u start going out with sumone...porn is an addiction. so just remember that once u want to end it, its not that easy.
hope it helps
2007-07-27 19:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by aruel100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's totally your choice. if you think it makes you dirty, then you should probably stop, because then you will feel dirty, etc.
and for the record, it will totally change you, whether you want it to or not. there is no stopping that. you've probably already been changed a little.
2007-07-27 19:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your just being human. Its natural to be curious.
2007-07-27 19:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by {{vP}} 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't watch it, keep your innocence for a while yet, it will change you trust me. its not love, just dirty filth
2007-07-27 18:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not sick at all! Don't worry, as long as you're not obsessed, it's perfectly normal! :)
2007-07-27 19:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people get curious . . . just don't make it a bad habit.
2007-07-27 19:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by tabi k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not. its natural to see it. so if anyone think negativly just dont listen to them.
2007-07-27 19:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Don Reyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋