My girlfriend always leaves curtains open while changing?

Question

she likes to leave them open because she says it lets the cold air come in. well everytime she walks into her room with a towel she forgets to close them. she lives in an apartment complex with many windows facing her window only a few feet apart. it turns out a guy in our school lives right across and i heard from a friend that someone he knows which is the guy's friend told him that he filmed her changing and showed him the tape. now first i thought this was not true but my friend said that his friend said that he saw the tape... and that she has really big saggy boobs nothing like what she looks like with clothes. My girlfriend does have big boobs but she ways small bras that make them look small and push them up... thats how she likes them to look. so i was wondering if you guys think its true that the video exists? do you think i should tell her? do you think he will post it on the internet? now i just want to say she has beautiful boobs their not saggy they just hang a bit

Answer 1

Take a picture of them ( boobs ) and put them on the internet then tell her the other guys did it

Answer 2

my husband also has the same concern, but not because I change in front of a window that is open, or the curtains not closed, but because he is concerned for my safety, especially if I am alone and he is away.

You can confront your girlfriend about this and mention the tape, and mayby she will get mad about it, or mayby she is an exhibitionist, and wants to show off her body secretly, thinking it is exciting. But if you are concened for her safety, then just mention the fact that besides the peeping Toms that are in every community, the world we live in is becomming such a hostile violent world, and undressing or being barely clad infront of a visible window is just asking for trouble.

Tell her of you concerns, and that you don't want to see her become a statistic. Look at the stories that are on the news this past week, the home invasions where families have been murdered, the females raped before being strangled, shot or murdered in some other gruesome method. There are lots of stories of young women just ending up missing., until their bodies show up in some ditch or highway off-ramp.
Talk to her seriously. If she says she is hot and wants that cold air on her while dressing , plug a fan or air conditioner in.
If you are more concerned about whether this " tape " exists or not, confront the guy and say you want to take a look to see what it looks like. If it is her, then I would have a good talk to your girlfriend. I don't know if he can post it on the internet or if you can stop him from doing so. If he does have this tape and she is the one on it, then tell her about it, and watch for her expression. If she is shocked, and upset, mayby it is the wake-up call she needs to stop walking around in the buff infront of the windows with the shades up. If she isn't upset or wants to see it, mayby you have a real problem on your hands. If she is an exhibitionist, you need to know now, mayby she needs to move to another building. If she lived in an upstairs building, she could walk around in the buff more with less people viewing her unless there are other floors on the same level. Face it, either she likes the exposure and thinks it is Kinky and a thrill, and some people like to risk being caught, ( just like having sex in public places, )
or she is very ignorant and living a dangerous path that can lead to something far worse than a quick peek. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well, I would tell her. She should know about because that should make her change her mind about closing her curtains. It's only smart. This isn't th 50's anymore when you can walk alone down the street @ 12 at night without being mugged and change in front of your window and be okay. I would tell her about the tape and I would tell her about how it's being passed around. If she doesn't do anything about it after that, then that's her problem, but at least try to reason with her.

Answer 4

confront the guy, and tell him "somone told me that......" and tell him to give you the tape and then destroy the tape. I dont know about telling your girlfriend, some would say she deserves to know, some would say its better that they dont know. Just try your hardest to make sure the tape dosent spread or get shown to any other guys. Also, if this becomes a real big problem, what the kid did was very illegal, get the cops involved.

Answer 5

Joey, you are going to have to make a choice....your girlfriend seems a bit naive....if you've talked to her and she's refusing the information, does this bother you enough to confront her with evidence? Does it bother you enough that you'd break off the relationship if she gets angry and demands to break it off herself?

It does sound like your friends also don't respect her or you enough to close their own drapes....but, guys are primarily sight driven, and women, even good women are pretty clueless about it to the point of indifference.

Answer 6

Whether the pervert will post the video on the internet or not is secondary. What is important is that you tell the truth to your Girlfriend. Rest is her choice.

Answer 7

Just tell your girl all about this. See if she can shift to another room. Ask her whether she wishes to sort out this problem. This is a simple problem between you and your girl. If you are afraid of finding a solution for this problem between two of you, how will you sort out bigger problems in life? Do not involve others in sorting out problems of this nature.

Answer 8

Okay, well i think you should tell your girlfriend and let her handle the situation. She can put him in jail if she wants, and then she'll remember to close the windows too

Answer 9

It's possible especial since you guys are in school. Students tend to be jerks like that. She had to of seen that coming though,

Answer 10

Yes tell her, confront the guys, and if she wants, go to court over it, if it leaks to the internet, it could ruin her life.