We meet at a hotel to get ready. Then a limo comes to pick us us up to get pics and bring to church and reception. I notice it at 1000 at night and I have to start work at 7 am. So I ask the bride how am I supposed to get to the hotel to get my car to go home. She says idk. I said you brought me here. She said catch a cab down the street. I said you did not tell me to bring money. She says idk and walked away. I was pissed. Is she a ***** or what?
2007-07-27 17:42:47 · 28 answers · asked by owned by a siberian husky 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I also never been to a wedding before.
2007-07-27 17:52:33 · update #1
I would like to discontinue the relationship, but she is mu cuz, so what do i do?
2007-07-27 17:56:44 · update #2
well, on her wedding day, she was slightly busy. this is a matter that should have been asked PRIOR to the wedding. you should have asked asked the rehearsal how am i getting home.
btw, how did the other bridesmaids get home?
2007-07-27 17:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
As a member of the bridal party, you are suppose to arrange all transportation to get to and from the events.
You are suppose to arrange transportation back to the hotel.
When you are in the wedding, you drive to the location where everyone is meeting up. This being the hotel. You drive in the limo to the ceremony site and then to the reception. Anything after the reception is your own responsibility.
I've never been to a wedding where the bridal party goes in the limo at the end of the reception. They always drive back with other people.
This is not the bride and grooms problem. This was lack of planning on your part. Most people already know this and would never think a ride back to the hotel would be provided by the bride and groom. If you were unsure, why did you not ask?
And what about the other members of the bridal party? Did they have rides back?
2007-07-28 00:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a bridesmaid you should have been prepared to stay the entire reception since technically it is part of your duties to help clean up afterwards and make sure the gifts make it to the right location. If you weren't going to use the transportation provided at the end of the night you should have gotten your own. The bride is not responsible for having a car waiting and ready throughout the whole reception.
She probably should have done a little more to help you but she also has a right to enjoy her wedding. It was not very responsible of you to accept a bridesmaid position without knowing what was involved and not to bring any sort of money, checkbook, or debit card with you in case you needed something.
Why didn't you ask one of the other guests to give you a lift? It's understandable that you were irritated but she is not completely at fault here.
2007-07-28 01:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think!
You may have thought you were being invited to be a "bridesmate" as you put it -- but actually, you were being invited to be a bridesMAID -- in other words, someone to give whatever help and assistance the bride might need at any time during that day. You were there, supposedly, to help HER, not for her to nanny you.
It was YOUR job to get to the agreed meeting point and YOUR job to get away from the agreed finishing point. And usually there are plenty of young men among the groomsmen or guests keen to drive any moderately presentable bridesmaid back to her car, or home, or wherever.
If you were really stuck it shouldn't be the bride you tackled but the best man who would have made arrangements to sort out any intractable problem.
Treat it as a lesson learned. And next time, quite apart from making arrangements and from knowing how to get the unpredictable difficulties sorted out, make sure you remember to carry a $100 bill secreted around your person. Normal location if you've no purse and no pockets is in your bra. And if it's a braless dress, then under one of your breasts, secure between the your breast and the dress.
2007-07-28 15:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was an overlooked blunder on the brides part. After-all, she asked u to be in the bridal party and should have either arranged transportation back to the hotel or told u that u would be responsible for getting home. My mother ALWAYS told me not to go anywhere without cab fare money or at the very least, money to make a phone call home. I hope u always take that bit of advise. U were right in being "pissed,
but also wrong in not inquiring beforehand as to how u were getting back to ur car, knowing u had to leave early. I hope ur friendship is not ruined by this incident.
2007-07-28 01:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In a situation like this, it was not the bride's fault to make her at fault for your own ride. You should of thought about this prior. No matter if you been to a wedding or not, it is an automatic thinker of "If I drive here, how am I going to get back?". You should of known before hand if there was rides back to the hotel and what time since you had to be at work early. Since you didn't know, you should of assumed you should drive to the place or hitch a ride. It is not right to pin point the blame at the bride. When you are responsible for your own driving/ride etc.
It sounds like you found a way.
2007-07-28 01:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok how much could it cost to catch a cab??? you're telling us that u went without a purse, atm card, cell phone to call a friend??? Come on.... ok so maybe she wasnt completey consumed with your dire dilema on her wedding night, but u would honestly discontinue a friendship with someone that asked u to be a bridesmaid in her wedding because she didnt get u a ride back to the hotel???? Sounds a little extreme to me...
2007-07-30 19:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by legends_chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give her a break if it was the actual wedding and reception. I would simply have asked someone else you knew at the reception to drop you back at the hotel.
2007-07-28 00:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by mark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you were a brides maid then you should have known that you would have been riding in a limo, and you should have just taken off of work the next day. Why couldn't you have just gotten a ride from someone else?
2007-07-28 00:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by imbored311 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it was kinda harsh of her to not let you know before the wedding that you would have to find your own way back. But in her defense she probably had a lot on her mind then. Weddings are pretty busy after all.
2007-07-28 05:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not her responsibility to worry about how you get home from the wedding.. you should have worked that out yourself well before the day of the wedding.
2007-07-28 01:33:13 · answer #11 · answered by ravens_angel78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋