I got a spanking last week! Should i call the police?

Question

I'm a 16-year-old boy, and last week, i went to a party. My parents said i had to be home by 10pm, but i didn't get home until 2am, which is just 4 hours late, but my parents went ballistic! They siad they were worried sick about me! Now, i'd had about 2 beers at the party, ad i'd never drank before, so i was drunk, and then they realized i was drunk and they got even more furious. A few months ago i went to a party and i came home 5 hours past the curfew they set, and i'd been smoking at the party, so i got grounded for 2 months! But this time they said grounding obviously hadn't worked, so they were going to spank me! My dad got a paddle to spank me with (they used to spank me but hadn't in a few years) and made me lie face down on the couch! Then he held me down with one hand and spanked me about 25 times on the butt with the other! It hurt like hell! Then my mom said i was grounded for 2 months! I'm too old to listen to my parents& way to old to get spanked! Should i call the cops?

My parents did say no computer, but i shouldn't have to obey them, so i just sneak on in the middle of the night or when they're not around. I didn't get a chance to ask this question until a week after the spanking. I can't believe you guys aren't being more supportive of me when spanking is a form of sexual assault! My parents have no right to boss me around and tell me when i have to be home, and what i can and can't drink and that i can't smoke! All of you who think i shouldn't be drinking, why don't you move to afghanistan and join the taliban?

Can you believe this? Yesterday, my parents caught me using the computer when they said i couldn't, and they gave me another spanking! My dad made me bend over my bed, and he gave me 25 hard whacks on the butt with the paddle! And then he said my groundation was extended to 3 months!!! Do you think the police would do anything now, since i've been abused twice in such a short time? I can't believe my parents still haven't gotten the hint that i don't have to listen to them!

By the way, my friends and i are trying to figure out how to get me out of the house on saturday, one of my friends is throwing a party while his parents are out of town, and he said there's going to be plenty of alcohol there, so i'm gonna try to sneak out and go. Does anyone who's gotten away with something like this have any suggestions?

Answer 1

You ask what we think and then you go ballistic rejecting and criticizing us for saying what we think!!

You say you "got a spanking last week". For your "attitude" I think you should be getting a REAL spanking this week, a real attitude adjuster!! Not just another smacking of 25 licks, over your bed. Rather, 39 reach scorchers on your bare butt.

Yes, I know the hairbrush or belt can really hurt while getting it and can leave a sore butt as a reminder. I'm not saying they should harm nor injure you; But a REAL spanking that would teach you a "lesson" that you wouldn't soon forget.

You seem to be one very spoiled BRAT!! [I should know!!].

If you were willing to be "subject" to your parents then an occasional REAL spanking might be helpful. It seems you do accept your dad's paddlings, but you refuse to submit to your parents' authority.

You are a minor. Your parents are legally responsible for you. Sadly, they had stopped spanking you several years ago when it might have done some good. Now, if you will not be subject to them and obey the law of the land AND their rules, then, YES, the police should be called. YOUR PARENTS SHOULD CALL THE POLICE. They should tell the police you are incorrigible.


>By the way, my friends and i are trying to figure out
>how to get me out of the house on saturday, ...
>so i'm gonna try to sneak out and go.

Since you want to convey the message that you don't have to listen to or obey your parents anyway, why not JUST WALK OUT the door and, as you go, say to your parents: "I'll be back when I get here"? -- who knows, with a little bit of "luck" they might even change the locks while you are gone.

Answer 2

Yeah, it's only JUST 4 hours late. Well, you're parents said to be home by 10, thinking you would obey them and come home. But no... you went off and stayed at the party for 4 extra hours! Your parents should be worried sick because of you, since you were 4 hours late! What if something happened to you?! A few months ago, they only grounded you, thinking that you would learn your lesson, but yet, you went off to a party ending up to be 4 hours late, and drunk! Your parents had a right to punish you. I'm sorry that they had to punish you like that, and that you were spanked for a couple years, but think about it. YOU'RE living under YOUR parents' roof. They have a right to give you punishments, and you have to follow their rules. If you don't like it, fine. Then just move out. And even if you call the police, you have to explain why would your father spank you. Your parents raised you for 16 years, hoping you would be a great man someday, and this is how you repay them?! You go off drinking and smoking when you're not of legal age, and make these stupid desisions. They really must've been disappointed in you.

Answer 3

OK , no you shouldn't call the cops, but they are frustrated and do not know how to get through to you. This was the only thing they could think of!

Now to you- you are ONLY 16 and you need to listen to your parents. Legally, they are responsible for you.

Only 4 hours late?!? what the hell is that?!? And two beers?? Maybe your parents should call the cops on the parents who threw that party!

You need to figure out that the road your are on is going to land you in jail or into the wrong people who are gonna help you screw up your future(if you haven't already met them!)
You need to grow up and take some responsibility for your life!

Find a job that keeps you busy. find a social group, or a group that you can donate your time and help others. Something that would make you a better person then a smokin', drunk, selfish pain in the ***!

I know this is not want you want to hear, but your parents do not want to find you at the morgue either.

Answer 4

Your parents did the right thing to show you how important to keep the promises......maybe the way your father spanked you was not quite right, but come on, you have to understand that what they wanted to teach you and make you learn lesson from your experience.
Seems like you have got great parents. They DO care about you so much.
If you would like to call police, just do it but remember, you also have to tell the police what you did - smoking and drinking. It is not a win-win situation for both of you. If you think you are old enough, you have to take a responsibility what you say, what you do. You are still taken care by your parents.
If you cannot keep promises, then don't promise anything. You will see their point of view when you become a parent and you would appreciate how they raise you.

Answer 5

I think that if you call the cops on your parents, you will end up regretting it later. It will tear up your family. It's obvious you don't know the consequences to calling the cops. Your Dad will go to JAIL for Domestic Abuse, a bail bond will have to post money to get him out. Then he will have to go to court if there is any sentencing depending on the severity of your bruises. You will be taken away from your home, escorted in Social Services who will then put you in a Foster Home with people you don't even know, which will make you miserable, your not even sure if the Foster Home will treat you with respect, hurt you, abuse you, sexually abuse you, etc. You will live in regret, guilt & mental pain for a long time.

Over all, calling the cops is a BAD MOVE. Think about all the things you did. Having a 10pm curfew set for a 16 year old is RIGHT & BY LAW. Do you know that you could've been sent to Juvinile Hall if a cop caught you out past 10pm, especially being DRUNK?! You are underage, they would take you to Juvinile Hall & then look for the person who got you the alcohol & take them to JAIL. You were careless that evening & you took advantage of your freedom. You are 16, although you may NOT care, ALCOHOL FOR YOU IS OFF LIMITS & ILLEGAL. Your not even at a legal age to smoke either. With all these bad decisions you are making, I too wonder WHAT THE HECK HAVE YOU BEEN SMOKING?! to cause you to be this bad? Your still in High School, why don't you concentrate on passing High School. You live in your parents house, by rules, they set them & you should follow them, your lucky they let you go out till 10pm, other 16 year old are not allowed to go out PERIOD. You have your freedom, DON'T ABUSE IT. Don't get me wrong here, I do think your parents were wrong for "hitting", but I can see that they have tried to avoid that for a long time since you said they haven't spanked you in a long time. Grounding definitely is not disciplining you, plus, you pissed them off. You should have called & asked for a later curfew 2am instead of having a big head about it. I think that if you want your parents to treat you better, then you need to START ACTING BETTER, that means BEING MORE RESPONSIBLE & respectful to them. If they tell you to do something, you should do it. I think spanking you was all in the matter of being "fed up", because from what you describe YOU ARE AN OUT OF CONTROL TEENAGER. If beating you down is what it takes to get you in check, so be it. They have the right to descipline you, they cloth you, feed you & give you a place to live. REMEMBER THAT.

Answer 6

Obviously, you did not abide by your grounding. What other choice do your parents have but to give you a paddling?

What could you report to the police? That your parents gave you a deserved spanking?

Were you injured by the spanking? Was it undeserved? Assuming that both questions are answered "no," then your parents have not violated any laws.

My advice to you is to grow up. Obey your parents until you are on your own; even then, respect them and listen. You may be able to make your own decisions later but their experience may give you some good insight into the ways of living.

Answer 7

I have a 17 year old daughter who did the same thing several times over and as a parent you worry sick I resorted to the same thing and ever since then she has been much more responsible. So lets just say that you do this your parents go to jail you go to a foster home then what is next for you? is this what you want? Freedom do what you want when you want? you are living under their roof and you have to act responsible and not give your parents just a hard time because if they are discipline you they must really love you. I am sure you know this. and be honest with yourself what kind of punishment do you want because it does not matter that you were 5 min late or 5 hours late you disrespected your family. and if they are younger children in the house what are you teaching them? that it's Ok to go out and get drunk smoke do drugs is this the kind of life you want for yourself? you will be of age in about 2 years and then you can move out pay your own way through life then you can do what ever it is you want for now you must obey your parents. unless your heartless and want to see your parents in Jail the decision is yours.................. Think before you act. show them you can be trusted and Be RESPONSIBLE.

Answer 8

I'm glad that your parents stopped spanking you years ago, I'm sorry that your parents thought they felt it necessary to spank you again! I would say that if he punched you in the face or the gut and continued to do so, then absolutely call the police.

With that being said, you got a swat, that used to be given to kids in school when I was young. 25 may be excesive, I think your parents couldn't think of any other way to get your attention. I do hope that they will find another way!

From your question, I can see that they still didn't get you to understand your bad behavior. You made poor choices to drink and to smoke and made another poor choice of being disrespectful to your parents. Your parents have alot of "wisdom" to share with you and if you'd listen, truly listen, you may not make these same mistakes again. I understand the fear they had when you where late those times. You almost feel like you can't breath because your child is missing! Every fear comes to a parents mind, especially the thought that there child is dead.

At 16 I believe you should be alloted some freedom. But, that freedom is earned by making good choices and you didn't do that. You thought of yourself first and not how your actions would affect others, meaning your parents. You've proven that you can't be trusted. Try to earn their trust back and do the "man" thing and take responsibilty for your choices.

I hope that you find yourself and understand that you don't need smoking and drinking to get a high in life. Don't open yourself to these two things that are a none fact for destroying lives. MAKE BETTER CHOICES FOR YOURSELF and love the parents that love you so much that they only want good things for you.

I'm adding this message on Monday 7/30. After reading your additions to your question, I sooooo feel for your parents. If I where them, I'd call the police on you! Your behaving like a spiteful little bratt and yessss....you do have to listen to them until you move out. You are under their roof! On Saturday when you sneak out and then sneak back in drunk, I hope that they call the Police on you for under age drinking. I think you need a stay in Juvy if that is how you want to behave. Your a liar and a sneak and I wouldn't put up with that. God help your parents.!

Answer 9

Wow. I guess at 30-something, I've gotten very old! In my day, the teachers even spanked kids with wooden paddles (not just in elementary schools either - high school too!), and no one certainly thought anything about going to the police!!

Your parents are desperate to get you to see the light! You don't see it now - we've all been where you are, so don't think I'm criticizing you here. Pretty well everyone has at least one story about being a teenager, spreading their wings, and having parents who tried to hold them back. But, honestly, in 20 years from now, you'll realize they are not abusing you, they are loving you.

Answer 10

So you want to call the police to say "I was underage drinking and my parents did what parents should do and disciplined me so arrest them?" I would always tell my mom I would call child services on her but I deserved ever spanking I ever got.
If you think you are 16 so you are "too old to listen to my parents and way to old to get spanked" realize you are a 16 boy who thinks he knows it all but has a lot to learn. The fact you think underage smoking and drinking is okay means you still have a lot you need to learn.