my girlfriend is reluctant to go down there, she has a few timd but it was't that good. How do i tell her how

Answer 1

Well, make sure you're clean down there, it normally helps. When she does go down on you, just tell her what to do... slowly... don't bombard her with what she's doing wrong... just tell her how you like it

Answer 2

Well, as a female who has experienced this myself, I would say the best way is to start a little at a time. If you are talking about her technique, I would say maybe once just try to guide her head a little (but not like in a porno!), and then maybe next time just tell her to go a little faster, or her lips a little tighter. The key is to not make her feel like you are critiquing (and insulting!) her all at once. Don't expect her to become amazing all at once. The more comfortable she is with it, and the more you try to show her how you like it, the better it will be. Now, if you are talking about why she doesn't like to do it in general, that might be a bit trickier. If she is young (like high school age), she may not feel comfortable straight out talking to you about it. But if she is, ask her if there is a specific reason she doesn't like it. The reasons that come to mind for me (or at least when I was a teen :) ) was that one, it made my mouth sore after doing it for just a little, two, a person's personal, well, odor may take some getting used to, and three (and most important), she is afraid of swallowing! If she has never tasted it, she is probably going to be afraid that you are suddenly going to finish and she will have no warning. Then she will either choke or spit it out and it will be embarrassing for you both. I think that the way teenage boys are protrayed is that they want that so bad, the instant you put your mouth on him, he is gonna explode. So maybe she is afraid of that. I hope that helps (and sorry if too descriptive).

Answer 3

Well, make sure you are very clean there. Odor and bad taste are a turn off.
Assure her you will not finish in her mouth if that is what she is concerned about. Let her get used to it first.
Have her dribble chocolate syrup or honey over it and clean it off! It is a fun way to become acquainted with oral and will hopefully feel good for you.
And do NOT hold her head so she cannot move away- not until she has more confidence.

Here's a web site you can share with her that gives some good tips and pointers:
http://sexuality.about.com

And remember, some ladies just don't like it or have bad gag reflexes so it is difficult. I hope she can find other ways to please you if this doesn't work. Good luck!

Answer 4

A girl wants to be good at what she's doing sexually if you give her some good feedback then she'll feel more confident and comfortable but be sensitive about how you tell her dont embarrass her. If your close enough with each other to do something like that ya'll should be able to have an open convo about it.

Answer 5

Communicate with her. Talk about fantasies. Maybe watch a porno together! Seriously, if you don't communicate, you will never have satifying sex. The same goes for her. I am sometimes hesitant to "go down there" because I guess I am a little selfish, meaning I get nothing out of it, except a mouthful of you know what. If your conversation is about what you like AND what she likes, then maybe you can both get satisfied.

Answer 6

If she means something to you, then why are you afraid to just tell her that you didn't like it and teach her how she should do it to your pleasing. It's not hard to just tell the truth and if you consider her your girlfriend then yall should be open to both of yall being true to each other, and having open conversations about your relationship and sex life!!!!!! So you play a part in it by not speaking up about it, just teach her how you like it and that might spark up more intensity in the bedroom in a good way!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

You don't. Don't pressure her to do anything. If it's going to happen, it has to happen on her own terms and in her own time. It is harder for some girls than it is for others, either due to discomfort with the idea of what she is doing or simply because of the taste.

Hint: eat alot of fruit. It will make it taste a bit better.

Answer 8

well, maybe she has her reasons, and if it wasn't that good when she did, then maybe she wasn't in to it, or she was uncomfortable. i know when I'm not in the mood to do it, i don't do a good job either. just be patient with her, dont pressure her. try making her feel relaxed. and dude, coming from a woman, dont tell her that when she does do it that its not that good! trust me. besides, nothing personal this goes for all guys. you all should be lucky and thankfull when your girl does that for you. also if she was a pro, then she is a ho. good luck.

Answer 9

Don't tell her anything. If she feels pressured to do it, she probably won't. And if she does, it'll only be to shut you up, and that won't feel any good. Allow her to come into that state of comfort by herself. When she's ready to do it, she'll do it. And trust that if she willingly does it, it'll feel alot better than if she were pressured.

Answer 10

Tell her you appreciate her for doing it. When she is down there let her know what feels good and what doesn't. I mean hell how is she suppossed to know unless you tell her in some way.