at least since I am not in the wedding party but can I expect to be included in the wedding party with my husband? I mean come on...i am going to be sitting alone right? geesh...
no, i dont want to be a brides maid, those dresses are ridiculous and this wedding is going to be to big, to long for me to be that uncomfortable. I just dont want to be excluded is all.
2007-07-27 15:58:34 · 19 answers · asked by Jessy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
wow...talk about stank attitudes here people...I had a quiet ceremony ok nothing over the top like these guys are doing I just wanted to find out what the ettiquette is. also, HELLO people, i am married and know that its all about the bride. i was just never so ANAL and never wanted a "traditional" wedding to exclude others and want to have all eyes on me so I didnt know what to expect. This is called YAHOO! Answers where people ASK questions to get info, not to get attacked by people they do not know. You all got problems.
2007-07-28 08:17:01 · update #1
When my brother in law was married last October, my husband was a grooms man and I sat alone...didn't really bother me. I was in the family pictures though... just as they were in ours ( they were married 9 months after us... so we included her as family). Hope this helps.
2007-07-28 16:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The photographer usually takes pictures of the bride's family and the groom's family after the service. They make a nice momento for the bride and groom to keep. I'm sure you'll be asked to be in some of the photos.
You'll probably have to sit with family members or friends at the wedding and reception. The entire wedding party is usually seated together. But after dinner is over, everyone moves around and sits where they want.
2007-07-27 16:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Darlene mouse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically, you are not part of the wedding party. You should wear something nice that would not clash with what your son/husband are wearing, nor with the bridesmaids. Then, if you are asked to be in a picture, you will look nice. If not, you can always dress up your husband and son and do family photos some other time. The wedding day is all about the bride and groom. If you are that uncomfortable sitting by yourself during the wedding, plan ahead who you want to sit with - or look for someone else who seems to be at the wedding unaccompanied. Surely it is not a major sacrifice to sit by yourself for an hour or two when no-one is looking at you anyway.
It seems highly unlikely that they would expect your husband and son to sit apart from you at the reception. Most often, I have seen tables marked "wedding party", not seat by seat. It would be very appropriate for your husband to ask -now- if his wife will be seated with him during the reception. (He should, of course, offer to pay for your meal if they had only intended to pay for the wedding party's.) More than likely, the bride and groom have not even thought about all that. If they are set on having only those who are actually IN the wedding sitting at certain tables, then again plan to sit with another parent or relative who may be sitting by themselves. When my nephew got married, none of us (me, husband, or 2 kids) were IN the wedding party. However, we were asked to come to the rehearsal dinner (which is traditionally only those in the wedding). At the reception, there were 2 tables "for the wedding party" but nobody actually sat at them because everyone in the wedding was too busy with photos, changing clothes, "prepping" the getaway car, greeting and chatting. At our own wedding, I honestly don't know who sat where. I never sat down.
However, whether or not you are in wedding pictures is entirely up to the bride and groom (and whoever is paying the photographer). If you would particularly like a picture with your family and the bride and groom, ask ahead of time if that will be possible. But weddings are expensive, and the bride and groom (and parents) have to draw lines somewhere or no-one would ever recover financially from a wedding.
:) You don't want to be like that guy in the TV show "The Office" who keeps rudely butting into all the photos! :)
Everyone who attends - and everyone IN the wedding - is there FOR the bride and groom. If the bridesmaids can put up with those awful dresses, and the guys with suits or tuxes, you can probably put up with being "behind the scenes" for the day. You will probably get lots of compliments on how cute your son looked (and if your lucky, how well he behaved!). Quit worrying and talk to your husband about the reception seating.
2007-07-27 17:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by scc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that the couple will take pictures with each person in their wedding party - and you should be included in those. If you aren't in the wedding party, though, then you probably won't be included in the large group shots.
Most couples are actually putting families together so I would be quite surprised if you were sitting alone. During the ceremony you will have to sit alone, or you might have to help your son get down the aisle. During the reception, though, you should be sitting with your son and your husband.
2007-07-28 11:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, the only way you will be in the photos is if your husband asks for you to be... or if you are extremely close with either the bride or groom (which it doesn't seem like you are that close since you're not in the wedding party).
I think that if you wanted to not feel "excluded" then you should have been in the wedding party... this is not your wedding.
2007-07-27 16:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by ravens_angel78 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most weddings I have been to have actually had the wedding party and a seat next to them for their guests. My brothers wedding didnt do this but I pulled a chair right up for my bf. I didnt want to sit alone with people I didnt know. If worse comes to worse let them sit together for the pictures, toasts, etc. and then go sit by your hubby while eating.
2007-07-27 16:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to the bride and groom if you are in the wedding party photos. Out of all the weddings I've been to, the spouses/fiances/girlfriends have not been in the official wedding part photos.
You can get photos of you and your husband and you and the bride and groom and you your husband and the bride and groom though, just ask them when its photo times.
2007-07-28 12:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you won't be in the wedding photos, since you are not an attendant. You will have to find someone to sit with at the ceremony, then for the dinner. Once your husband is done with his duties after the meal, the program, then the obligatory dances, he'll be free to be with you for most of the evening.
2007-07-28 01:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually only the wedding party is photographed. You might be asked to get in photos from people at the reception that have brought thier own cameras.
2007-07-27 16:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt you will be sitting with the wedding party at the reception but you will probably be in at least one picture of the family. No official ones though.
2007-07-27 16:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋