I am a wedding coordinator and a gratuity was mailed to me from a mother of the bride. The wedding was last weekend, but I can't find any advice on whether or not to write a thank you note back to her for her thank you note... any idea what you would do?
2007-07-27 15:50:58 · 13 answers · asked by Graham Q 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
you should respond back because she didn't have to do that. there are so many people out here that are selffish and ungrateful and you don't want to be one of them.
2007-07-31 15:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a Thank You Card in the mail tomorrow and apologize for being tardy in your response.
She already has a good opinion of your services or she'd not have mailed you the gratuity. A thank you note will make her talk about you to even more people. It is good business to send thank you cards.
doc
2007-07-27 15:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not be common to write a thank you for a gratuity, but it would seem its an event that doesn't occur often for you. I would at least send her a card for being a considerate client (I'd imagine you've had your share of stressed out bridezillas and family drama) and making your job enjoyable.
2007-07-31 14:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by i_have_cheese_dreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should write to let her know you received it. Yes, we tip waiters at the table and don't expect thank you's but if we mailed their tips weeks later, we'd wonder if they got them!
Here's what I'd write:
Dear Mrs. [Mother-of-Bride] ,
Just wanted to let you know I received your kind note and generous gratuity. It was a pleasure working with you and your family. Best wishes to you all!
Sincerely,
2007-07-29 11:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by ka_singer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider a gratuity a "thank you" and you should not formally thank someone for a thank you gift. (Because it could go round and round that way.)
I'm in the same boat...I'm a wedding planner for a catering company. People tip me separately from the staff sometimes, and I do not write them in return.
2007-07-27 16:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by EventPro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would most certainly write a simple thank you note... That is always nice to know number one you received the money and number two you are appreciative of what you were given... This may bring you more business in the future... God bless****
2007-07-27 16:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure, it's better to err on the side of good manners and send a thank you note to let her know you appreciate her generosity. You could include a business card and ask her for referral business if you feel comfortable that you did a really good job.
2007-07-27 16:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by kimekiwi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
technically it is a gift and you need to treat it as such by sending a thank you note. you were hired by the bride, right?
if she was just thanking you, you would have received a card only.
2007-07-28 15:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
You provided a service and they tipped you as a thank you. You do not send a "thank you" for a thank you.
(Imagine giving $5 to a waiter as a thank you for good service and then he gives you $1 back. It does not make sense.)
2007-07-27 20:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A thank you note is "always appropriate". It's also a nice way to get further references. I would send one, no doubt in my mind.
2007-07-27 16:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A nice card is appropriate, and could bring in referals.
Its a professional thing, and not out of place to do.
2007-07-27 15:57:50 · answer #11 · answered by hangarrat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋