To begin, I would like to say that my great uncle (my grandma's brother) has his own country music band and they sometimes give small concerts, play at special events, etc. They don't do it as often as they used to, but they still do it.
Anyway, about a week ago, my grandma was visiting her hometown (which is where my great uncle and his band live) so that she could see a close friend of the family who is really sick, and will probably pass on soon. I'll call him "Ted." While she was there, someone approached her and asked the question: "So, is your brother going to play at Ted's funeral?"
It ticked my grandma off, anyway.
2007-07-27 15:41:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't know where your Grandma comes from, but I've never known of anyone having a band at a funeral.
I would not call the questioner "tactless and rude." I'd say they were just nucking futs!
Doc
2007-07-27 15:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So it ticked her off. Probably lots of things do. I'm probably gramma's age and I get ticked off easily as well. Forget it, the person didn't mean anything bad by it, and probably doesn't think it is wrong to talk of Ted's death, as it seems inevitable. So why cause trouble and have hard feelings because of an innocent little comment? Gramma shouldn't and you shouldn't either; just let is "die", and let the immediate family take care of the funeral.
2007-07-27 16:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely this question was tactless and insensitive. If the person really wanted to know what the funeral arrangements were, they should have asked "Ted" if they really felt their relationship with him was close enough to broach such a subject. Certainly it was incredibly bad taste to ask your Grandma.
2007-07-27 15:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by kimekiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was tactless and rude. Grandma has a right to be ticked off.
2007-07-27 15:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some ppl can be so insensitive!! Nothing like bringing on the grief before it is time. He should be allowing her this time to enjoy his company not morn him. That was extremely rude!!
2007-07-27 15:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by odd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that is pretty rude... Especially if the fella hasn't passed away yet. Hopefully she handled the situation gracefully.
2007-07-27 15:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it is somewhat rude. I would have waited until the person had died before asking such a question. But, curiosity is curiosity.
2007-07-27 17:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by evilchick80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a tad insensitive to mention the plans of one's funeral before they have even passed.
2007-07-27 15:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Be me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems a bit harsh. Sometimes people don't have much of a filter between their brain and their mouth.
2007-07-27 15:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Frances B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes--I'd say it was tactless and rude.
I'd have been ticked off too...
2007-07-27 15:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by Merissa F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋