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i wanted to know if it actually says in the bible that the order goes god,then spouse, then child and if you can give me the actual scripture please? i am a christian i am just not good with finding scriptures. my parents love to throw this out at us. for example my stepdad said today hed rather take my mom on cruises and buy her jewlery then buy stuff for his kids. dont get me wrong we arent lacking in clothes and such i was just curious if this is true... if it is they certainly follow it. always putting themselves above us to make us feel inferior not in age but as human beings. and im not some whiney brat, i am 17 and work hard and buy a lot of my own stuff.. just curious. thanks for the help
i accidently asked this in fashion and beauty earlier. whoops.
2007-07-27 13:47:54 · 10 answers · asked by rita 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The man and his wife are one flesh. You are 17 and work and buy a lot of your own things so don't begrudge your parents their time to enjoy each other.
2007-07-27 13:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by djmantx 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Actually not a specific scripture, God first: Matthew 19:29 talks about forsaking everything for God. Spouse: Genesis 2:24 mention cleaving unto your wife (spouse can be substituted here) and Ephesians 5:25 talks about loving your wife as Christ loved the church. Nothing about having children last but there is Matthew 18:6 if you want to look it up. What that belief really means is that if there is a conflict that forces you to choose between God and your spouse you should choose God and if there is a conflict between your spouse and your children you should go with your spouse. It sounds to me like your father is something of a cruel man that enjoys putting others down, lavishing your wife while telling your kids they are not as important is not Christ's way.
2007-07-27 21:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by The U.P. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God should be first over family or anything else, however, let me tell you- God placed you with your parents who are to help you grow into healthy adults- This is just my opinion, but I cannot imagine wanting to look out for my interest and my hubby's over my two kids. I have an 18 year old and a 15 year old. We are pretty financially strapped, but I will tell you, the kids come first- if they need something for school, or whatever they will get it before my husband and I go out and enjoy life. I don't want to be judgmental with your parents- however we are to care for our children. We are to love our spouses, I believe more than our children, so that our children learn what it means to love someone- however buying stuff for each others, over our kids needs is wrong I believe. I pray that your parents are not treating you like an inferior human, because God is not pleased with that. Know one thing, God loves you and you are worth it. email if you want to talk more,
2007-07-27 20:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first it is all to God, but 1peter 5:5 say likewise ye younger respect your elders, So as a Child you are to put God first,then your parents. This means if God ACTUALLY tells you to do something do not let anyone stop you. As a spouse, God is to come first, then your FAMILY. Your Father sounds like a poor roledmodel if he actually told you that. He is to have an equal relationship and respect. The reason he says that is because He is more worried about getting layed, instead of being responsible and loving his kids.
2007-07-27 20:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Justin S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I have read the Bible, cover to cover, and I never came across that. The only reasons he's supposed to that is he's either A) Not sparing the rod or B) teaching you not to live like a princess (Jews + rich people= Not pretty picture). That must be his list of important stuff (be glad your on number three and not farther down). Sorry, but I don't even have a scripture reading to back me up. Don't get in a fury just because of me.
2007-07-27 20:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by dreamer18@att.net 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The relationship between parent and child is important, but it's not as fundamental as the relationship between a husband and a wife:
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." - Genesis 2:24
2007-07-27 20:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by Judy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don`t pay any credence to the scriptures because there false. The bible is filled with lies you see and it is written so different people can distort the different lies to their liking. Have you ever noticed that the Bible is written very vagely. Yeah? Well the people that wrote where rather intelligent this is a ploy so you can make of it what you want to. This is how your stepdad feels, if you try to take a scripture that says otherwise I assure you he could find one that proves his point. Thats the manipulation of the whole book don`t take it serioulsy PLEASE.
2007-07-27 20:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Future 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
In my opinion your stepfather is behaving poorly. When a man marries a woman with children he not only has the responsibility to provide for their basics, but to treat them with respect.
The Bible says that we are to put no one above God. It tells fathers not to exasperate their children. We are to treat our children with respect and love. I am sorry that he isn't treating you that way. You sound like a wonderful young lady.
Pastor John
2007-07-27 20:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by pastorjohn59 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i reckon u shld get them to show you where it says that in the bible, they're just havin' ya on, they can't be serious.
2007-07-27 20:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by do ya! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not a specific verse. It must be interpreted from scripture.
See http://www.gotquestions.org/family-priorities.html
2007-07-27 22:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by farmasis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋