at the time being, i live with my dad, but when i get to high school in one year, i want to live with my mom. i brought this up with my dad, and he was like "Why? I thought you were going to stay up here. When did you make this decision?" So, now he's making me feel all guilty. should i stay with him, or live with my mom?
2007-07-27 13:32:37 · 18 answers · asked by ashley101-zippedy doo dah! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
btw, my school choices are the same with both parents, my grades are good so i dont need to worry about that, my parents dont have certain visitation rules, and i love my parents equally but i cant stand only seeing my mom twice a week. thank you so much, everyone:)
2007-07-27 15:45:40 · update #1
Do what YOU feel is right. Make a list of reasons to go to your moms, and make a list of reasons to not go to your moms. Also make a list of reasons to stay with your dad. The decision is up to you. Don't let either one of your parents persuade you into doing something you do not want to do. They are your parents, so I would think they will support your decision, whatever it may be, and they will still love you. I think it is magnificent that you have a good enough relationship to live with your dad, and a good relationship to be able to live with your mom. You must be a great child to have! Hope you make a decision that is right for you. Good luck in life and in high school! :)
2007-07-27 13:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Doll Face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends on the reason why. You are old enough to decide, but just remember, it isn't fair to go back and forth between parents like that. so if you want to go live with your mom (have that mother figure), then just visit your dad on visitations.
Your dad might feel a little upset because you are his daughter. It is kinda hard on parents when children go to their other parents place, especially if it is a distance away.
The decision is up to you. But make it the right reasons. cuz parents have to go change custody, child support and visitation rights based on your choice too.
2007-07-27 20:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to stay with your Dad? Why do you want to go live with your Mom?
The best thing to do is make a list of pro's and con's for both of your options and see which one is best. Think long and hard about this because you're going to end up hurting one of your parents.
Also, check into it because not all high schools will accept all your credits when you transfer and you could hurt yourself educationally in the long run.
2007-07-27 20:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not an easy answer for just anybody to give.you have to be very serious about this and sit your father down, then explain to him that you love him and really don't want to leave him! BUT you want to go to live with your mother because you are starting high school and for now you would like to be with your mom.starting high school is a very big step and very scary to a young girl as there are many things racing round your head at the moment.
you also have to ask yourself why you want to leave your father and live with your mother.
make a list of the pros and cons and write down why you want to live with your mother at this time.
THEN
write down why you want to leave your father at this time.BUT
(don't let your father make you feel guilty over this and he as a father should not be doing that anyway, it is very selfish of him).
then think hard about it and figure out where would the best place be while you are doing your high schooling.this is very important because you have to be happy no matter where you go.happiness is a must at all times to gain self worth for a happy future.
it is good that you have the option of staying with both parents,as not many broken families have this option, me included when i was younger.
best of luck with this situation sweety and im sure you will make the right choice ( for you ) bye for now cheers chen.
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2007-07-28 00:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by cheneece13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you can't pleas every one else all the time you've got to stand on your own 2 feet even if other people don't like it. Parents always want there kids to stay with them till they have kids and they never want you to go to far from them but some things you have to do so you can grow up. Live ware you want it's your life you can't live to pleas your dad for the rest of your life. And you only have one life to live so enjoy it well you can
2007-07-27 20:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by Misty H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your dad. Ultimately, the decision is yours. From your father's reaction, he seems to think you're planning to stay for a long time.
Why did you decide to move? Better school? Closer to your friends?
If this is not your mother's suggestion, don't let your father think that your mother coerced you into making the move.
The situation may turn ugly.
2007-07-27 20:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want?-- when your gut, heart and brain agree, its the right thing to do. think about it.
You love both your parents, but think whats best. I'm sure your dad would understand; he'll just miss you. Tell him why and then stick to whatever decision you make. Good Luck!
2007-07-27 20:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by Because I wanna know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay with the one who treats you better but if they both treat you the same then go ahead stay where you think you will the most fun or parent who is less strict on you.
2007-07-27 21:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shame on your Dad for doing that......not sure what the custody arrangements are but with you going to high school you are at an age to have a voice.......do what your heart tells you to do....in the end someone's feelings are going to get hurt, but just by what you are saying about your dad, I would live with mom......
2007-07-27 21:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well high school is tough and if i were separated from my parents then i would chose my mother because she is a girl and knows what high school is like for a teen aged girl
2007-07-27 20:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋