Does anyone else think E-Harmony is a total racket??

Question

I signed up for the test drive, the matches they gave me, even though I said anywhere was fine, were all within 20 miles of me and just reading their profiles they were all TOTALLY wrong, we have absolutely nothing in common whatsoever!

Then when I tried to actually communicate with one of them, I had to pony up a ton of money or forget it... so much for the free trial... pffft! What crap! Has anyone else had such bad luck with this service? All those damn questions and all they did was give me the first 6 guys off the top of the list that lived in my town, I swear that's what happened.

I was honest filling out my questions, and they matched me with 3 60+ retired guys who want to ride their boats and travel... I'm a working mom who runs her own company, you think that's a good match for me???? LOL

Answer 1

I took a human sexuality class in my college from a woman who was (and still is) a licensed sex therapist.

According to the world of human sexuality psychologists and researchers, e-harmony is a load of crap. It claims to have some twenty odd "proven" dimentions of compatibility.... it doesn't have any. In fact, there is no such thing as a proven dimention of compatability. Its total shite.

I'm glad you didn't waste your money.

Answer 2

Your speaking of the supposed "angel" of the internet dating sites and yes I dont see that much "thought" is being put into it; anymore than what you would think on your own. American culture tries to force the notion that everything can be bought and sold. But meeting people is YOUR work and even if eharmony was useing a very well respected personality test, it would still be such a huge array of variable/factors that would make you and the guy you go out with click, it boggles the mind. What we really seem to want of course is a way to meet people and then go out with them. Forget e-communication for getting to know someone, just meet on a simple cheap thing like Match or Yahoo personals and make sure that you are insistant to ACTUALLY GO OUT and meet at a public place. We may think we are really TRYING OUT people by looking at some damn profile but the real person will be hard enough to figure out even if you see them a lot! The only way to know people is to make sure that you are around them IN PERSON. AGAIN WARNING, be safe and meet in a public place. If someone doesn't have what it takes to keep your attention in a public place than they just aren't good enough. That's how it works in Europe and it ensures that most of the time, except for the very rare stray serial killer, you'll know at least some genuine deep aspect about he person at the end of the date instead of staring at a screen. No shortcut for getting to know someone, just getting the OPPORTUNITY to and how you go about creating those opportunities. Its the same thing you would do if this was video dating. I would actually imagine that the dating agencies would do a better job beacuse I think all possible dates are from people who have at least come to see them for screening and so they can pass on a more honest assessment of the person.

Answer 3

They are not setup for your benefit except to the extent that it helps them make money. Almost all Internet sites with continuing service are the same. They require a credit card that they can charge month after month. They will not allow you to sign up for a month. They will claim that you can cancel but they make it difficult to almost impossible to cancel. While signing up is easy and on every page, canceling is hidden and then you may have to cancel by phoning a number that is busy or places you on hold for hours.

Other times they lie. Maybe they are technically telling the truth but they use misleading or hidden language on pages you never look at. They will claim to give you a free service for a few days. However, it requires your credit card. Then, on page 93 that is very difficult to get to and that you never see they make some statement that you must cancel or you have agreed to pay for the service. In other words, contrary to law as it should be, where to buy something you must take positive action, they claim you buy their service if you do nothing. That is like getting an offer to buy something in the mail and if you throw the letter away since you didn't deny you wanted it, that you bought it.

Even Yahoo Personals which is one of the best makes it very difficult to cancle a profile. Well, not difficult to cancle, but very difficult to find how to cancle so most people never cancle their profile. Instead, since they are not paying, they just stop using it.

Answer 4

Yes I was a member for 3 months and it was pretty bad all my matches were like 60 to 100 miles from me. And all the crap u had to go through just to get to know someone was crazy and then you find out you have nothing in common with them lol. And it seemed like the guys that did answer only wanted one thing lol. I wouldnt ever recommend it to anyone.....

Answer 5

Sorry about your bad experience, but I did like eHarmony--I found my husband there. We do have a lot in common and that really helps, opposites might attract but they will fight when together long enough.

Another person at this site thought they are super expensive, but a lot of the singles internet sites are too. Are you sure you are being totally honest when filling out your profile? You should find some people who have a lot of common interests.
I think eHarmony is the best singles site.

Answer 6

That site sucks big time and its a rip off, just like all the others just like it. You are better off going to a grocery and look in the produce section!!!!

Answer 7

Total rip off.

Answer 8

Yes, it's a complete ripoff!! I hate eHarmony.