Well November will make it a year since me and my ex broke up. Un the past couple months I havent talked to him but I have realized that I still miss him. I have been dating and their has been no guy that has made me feel like my ex did. I am sure my ex doesnt want to get back togther but what should i do so i can start talking to him and show him that he means so much to me and that I truly love him. Honestly I have tried ti forget him but I cant. What should I do?
please help. Mature answers pls
2007-07-27 13:12:14 · 22 answers · asked by Kat Von D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if he hasnt come back to you yet he might not want to get back together..
But you never knoww.. he might still love and care about you..but he's just to shy to come to you..Just casually start talking to him...Be like ""Hey! how are youu.. havent talked to you in a while? what have you been up to? "" if you see him around just casually bump into him and start up a conversation..If he is acting weird in any way when you are talkin to him such as...his reaction is like..Oh hey. just real plain...then he probably doesnt want to be with you..but if he is just as excited as you are when you see him then he might still have feelings for you....Just dont stalk him or be too clingy after you see him and talk to him...Just because yall broke up doesnt mean that he just might have some feelings for you still inside. =]
good luck! and i hope this helps!
2007-07-27 13:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Smiley F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's a reason you broke up. If you truly still feel strongly about him, evaluate the reasoning behind your break-up. Then make a list of pros and cons that would be present if you decide to get back together. Ask him to go to lunch with you, if he is up for it, there's a good chance he may have feelings for you too. If not, well then you know he's at a point in his life where he has moved on.
2007-07-27 20:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard it takes double the amount of time to get over someone as you were together (one year relationship, two years to get over it). Sounds like a bit much but I think it really takes a long time to get over relationships.
I think you should stay single until you ENJOY being single. Then it's time to decide if he is the one. You've got to be truly happy alone before you can be truly happy with anyone else.
Who knows? You may have broken up, but it doesn't mean he's not the one. And if he is, all that single time won't mean anything.
However, if you don't think he wants to get back together I suggest you suck it up and leave him alone for a while.
Good luck!
2007-07-27 20:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by loyal_tree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has shown interest in you since the split then I'd say talk to him about a possible reuniting. If he has not, and shows the common signs of avoidance of you or any feelings you may have expressed, and has never said he feels that way at all, then I would cut yourself and get a new hobby. Figure yourself out and stop looking to find what's missing through other people. Look to yourself first.
2007-07-27 20:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More time is needed, but honestly, I think you're just hurt cuz you were regected. I know how that feels. I have a wonderful boyfriend right now, and even though I do, I still have slight feelings for the guy before him. My boyfriend now is ten times better in every way (physical, smarts, attitude), but since I was rejected by the former guy, I still want him. It's all about the game. One day you'll be able to to see that and you'll see that you two weren't meant to be and you'll fall in love with a better guy who will want you.
2007-07-27 20:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked for a mature answer, so I hope you're willing to accept this: Your ex does not want to be with you. If he did, you two would be together right now. There is NOTHING you can do (and you should not even TRY) to start talking to him again with the intent of getting back together. As women, we need to be more mindful of things like this. When men break up with us, instead of moping about it and shedding buckets, we need to accept it and move on. THIS is why guys don't feel they can be honest and upfront with us - because even when they are, we hold on for dear life and won't leave them alone!
2007-07-27 20:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunnie I'm with you on this one..I was like that about to or three weeks ago..only it had been weeks not months that we been split..well he was call in me an everything..Love has many strange ways of working call him up and set up a place to talk and when ya do tel him how ya feel then let him tell you how he feels and if its y'all want together aging then go for it but other than that just understand NO ONE can take your first love and know that any man you may love aging will never have the same love as you have for the Ex of yours
LONG STORY SHORT CALL HIM AND JUST LET THE HEART DO THE TALKING!
2007-07-27 20:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a relationship ends and is now history, one must learn to put them in the past, however, cheerish the good that you once shared and learn from the bad that ended the relationship....being able to learn from the mistakes that we all make, and appreciate the good times shared can allow one to look forward to better days ahead, to know what will work for you in the next relationship so those good times are back again...and having learn from the bad you can enjoy the good times so much longer without repeating that which originally ended them before.
2007-07-27 20:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and he feel like patching things up, and you've resolved any reasons why you broke up in the first place, I don't see why you shouldn't get back together with him.
But just remember: If you forgive someone before they realize they've made a mistake, you are not showing compassion, you are enabling. So fix what went wrong. If it can't be fixed, I would advise you to find another man.
2007-07-27 20:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell ur ex how u feel u will feel a lot better if u let it all out if u cant b together than u guys can at least be friends but dont let it get to u that much try and 4 get the past and think of the future
2007-07-27 20:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋