how can i cope with this :*(?

Question

hey, thank you first of all for reading my question.

im always nervous around people, and sometimes when im like shopping, i AVOID people! its like they are lions or they will eat me or something. im only 14, and im always insecure about people, and i feel like im being judged. you have no idea how hard this has been for the past 2 years. im always having panic attacks in public, and somehow, people treat me wrong! and i mean it, i guess they just see me over reacting, but they have no idea how this hurts me.

how can i cope with this! i have to be confident in th grade because its my last year. i hate reading infront of crowds and stuff, and i hate and cant stand it when people stare, im not a retard, i have many friends, i just get suvire panic attacks.

how can i cope with this? i want my teachers to be all suprised when i go to my school registration and they will say shes changed.

i tried changing, but how can i gain confidence?
and cope with panic attacks? help!

Answer 1

"im always nervous around people", "i AVOID people", "i feel like im being judged", "i hate reading infront of crowds and stuff"........ All of these sentences you stated say to me that you are not confident and feel inferior to others.

You need to start to BELIEVE in YOU. You are also a good human being, every bit as good as anyone else, if not better in some aspects. (Read this to yourself every day).
Believe and know that what I have said is true and BELIEVE in YOURSELF.
You CAN do anything as good as anyone else can do - You KNOW you can and WILL.

I won't wish you good luck because you won't need it anymore, I KNOW you WILL make it ok ;)

Answer 2

Omigosh! You can't cope!

Sometimes you just have to get angry at yourself and go do it.

Well for a start have you searched this site for an answer because I'm beginning to think that this is everyones problem.

And with so many of you doing exactly the same thing everybody must be staying home out of fear that they will run into somebody.

Meeting people is not a test. It is not going for surgery to have a leg amputated.

Everybody has some fear when meeting other people. Including the person you are meeting.

Here's the answer I just gave someone not two minutes ago.

You are focusing on how you feel rather than listening to what others are saying.

Everybody else is focusing on themselves too! They don't have time to think about how you feel.

They are too busy thinking about what they are going to say next.

They are too busy thinking about what they look like.

They are too busy thinking about when they will be washing their hair next.

Besides, you are only having a casual conversation. It isn't a test or anything like that.

Just smile when they talk and play the game of word association. When she does I colored my nails last night. You say oh nice or neat or whatever. Then , You say what do you think about the color of my shoes. Thern She says I just bought a new pair last week.

You get the idea.

Relax and you'll make lots of friends cause they will think you are a good listener.

Have fun.

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Answer 3

Well, for the reading in front of people, don't look at anything but the page, but if you have to, look over everyone's heads. Always think "I got this. This is easy."


Chances are when you're shopping, a lot (and I do mean A LOT) of people are thinking the same thing. Everyone is a little insecure. All you can do is just not let it get to you. When you go out shopping, take a friend or two, it's always more fun with friends. If all else fails, there's always the classic: Imagine everyone else in their underwear ;). I used to be painfully shy. I got over it eventually. Just find yourself and be comfortable.

Answer 4

I see two questions here. The one about coping with panic attacks needs to be answered by a professional. The one on public speaking, or reading before a group, I can offer a suggestion about. I used to have to instruct at a recruit academy for law enforcement. This meant that I had to get up in front of people, and teach them about the job. My trick was to have a word that I could say to myself, or in a sentence to someone, to get me psyched up for the lecture. My word was "Showtime". I would say something like, "I guess it's showtime." It sounded like a natural comment, but I would respond to the stimulus.

Answer 5

First of all, think this: people are people. Sometimes, people will look at you like you're lower than they are or just be really rude: feel pity for those people because they will never know what it means to really live. Life is about meeting people, sweetie, the only way you meet people is if you talk to them. When you have these panic attacks, think to yourself: no one's looking at me. If I do something weird, no one will care, because we all make mistakes and look like fools sometimes; that's the good thing about humans: we're not perfect and we like that about each other. People are very understanding creatures, you may be surprised to find out, and we, naturally, feel it wrong to judge people; we try to avoid doing it. This is just a matter of trust. Love them and trust them to love you back. Embrace them and trust them to embrace you back.