what has greater power of healing forgiveness or revenge? Why?

Question

I want your true opinion. I don't do thumbs-down!!!!!!Nor do I judge!

Answer 1

Forgiveness for sure. Revenge leaves you in an ongoing relationship with the person who has done you wrong. That person then exacts his/her form of revenge on YOU and then YOU have to respond in kind. It leads you to an endless spiral of hate that can leave you feeling worse than before.

Forgiveness on the other hand allows you to just "let go" of the whole thing and forget it. That doesn't mean that you have to continue to like or spend time with the one that you've forgiven. It just means that you are no longer going to let that person's behavior have any further influence on your life. I know it sounds easier to say than to actually DO, but once you get used to the idea of forgiving without forgetting, it DOES get easier to just forgive and let go.

Raji

Answer 2

I'm guessing deep down you already know the answer, but here are some quotations on the topic to share where I stand...

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.
— Buddha

"An eye for an eye" makes the world blind.
— Mohandas Gandhi

An eye for an eye only leads to more blindness.
— Margaret Atwood

Blood cannot be washed out with blood.
— Afghan proverb

Anger is a wind which blows out the lamp of the mind.
— Robert Ingersoll

There is no passion so much transports the sincerity of judgment as doth anger
— Michel de Montaigne

If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will avoid one hundred days of sorrow.
— Chinese Proverb

The greatest remedy for anger is delay.
Seneca

When anger rises, think of the consequences.
— Confucius

Forget injuries, never forget kindnesses.
— Confucius

Forgiveness means letting go of the past.
— Gerald Jampolsky quotes

Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.
— William Arthur Ward

Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation
— Roberto Assagioli

Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge.
— Isaac Friedmann quotes

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
— Mahatma Gandhi

We achieve inner health only through forgiveness - the forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves
— Joshua Loth Liebman

Answer 3

Forgiveness. Revenge is anger-based. Unlike fighting fire with fire, when you throw anger at anger, it merely fuels that emotion and makes it more inflamed. Anger is based on judgments; it represents unfilled expectations.

Forgiveness is not as easy as it might sound, because it must come first from within. If we are angry at someone for hurting us in some way, we must forgive ourselves for encouraging the behavior in the first place. We all must take responsibility for our actions to ourselves and others. Once we forgive ourselves, then we can truly forgive others, letting the anger go completely, and not just on the surface.

Answer 4

I saw a show, where a father was confronting the man who murdered his son during a robbery. There was no reason for the robber to kill, yet he did none the less and it was caught on video.

The father told this killer that he loved his son very much and even though he was in pain by his loss, he was conforted knowing his son was a born again believer and is now with Christ.

He asked the man, why he felt he had to kill. The man did not have an answer.

He then told the man, that he forgives him.

The man was in tears, along with myself and the entire audience.

The the father did something that boggled the minds of all.

He told this man, that since he robbed him of his son, that he now had to take the place of his son. And that he demanded the respect from this killer as a son to father.

He then told him that he would visit him in prison, since now, his new son is in prison.

It was one of the most loving show of compassion, of forgiveness I had ever witnessed.

So the answer to your question. Forgiveness. For to forgive is to be forgiven.

Answer 5

Forgiveness.

Answer 6

the greatest healing power is forgiveness. the reason that i believe that is forgiveness is a positive force in nature whereas revenge is a negative force. anything negative is destructive and i can't see anything negative as doing something good.

Answer 7

great question - in my case I have to walk away from something for a while - because I have a tendency to be vindictive if I am being hurt! so when I walk away from a situation and let time go by I am more forgiving ,and just move on! my theory is that ppl know they are doing wrong ,and when I kill them with kindness after something that happened I am above them and they cant do jack a bout it! I win ,they loose!

Answer 8

There is no power of healing with revenge. "Vengence is mine"saith the Lord The only people ya hurt seeking revenge is YOU and the people that ya care for most in life. It's just not worth it.............PERIOD end of story. Have a GREAT WEEK-END!

Answer 9

Forgiveness. Revenge doesn't do anything but make you feel better temporarily. Forgiveness releases you of your anger and hurt forever.

Answer 10

Forgiveness is the key to all healing...revenge can never heal anything.