My 10 yr old grandson may need some emotional help?

Question

About a year ago my grandson developed some type of emotional anger.He throws outbursts sometimes that scares us.My daughter also has 3 girls ages4,7,8 from her husband. She had my grandson when she was 17 yrs.old with a boy from school. The other grandparents are active in my grandsons life and are aware of his behavior but not as much as we are. Since they have no children in their home, my grandson gets what he wants over there. These are my only 4 grandkids. But he tends to get very upset/jealous at times with his sisters, especially my oldest granddaughter. He threatens to kill them/us when he gets really upset. He has threatened to burn our house or even kill his mother when she is asleep. He yells loud when he gets upset and claims no one cares about him, does anything 4 him ,or respects him, only his other grandparents. He has been spanked, punished from tv/computer, etc.He is treated equal to my other grandkids.He's been to a psychiatrist, who said he would outgrow his anger.

I am catholic and have had him read from a catechism book to make him better understand since the words are simple for him. I know these words from his mouth are not normal for a child. He gets plenty attention from everyone but I know something is wrong. all your advice would be very helpful!

Answer 1

Please get that child to a different doctor, because he sure doesnt know what he is talking about. My 10 y/o grand-daughter has ODD, oppostional defiant disorder. Look it up and see if he fits the profile.

God Bless all of you. Dont give up until you get an answer

Answer 2

Your grandson's behavior is not 'normal.' Threatening to harm or kill others is not a rational reaction to anger. Take the boy to another therapist. Try the school system or see if your county has mental health specialists. Take him to different ones until you find one who can work with the boy. He may need medication, he may just need therapy, or he may be having an allergic reaction to a food. Each therapist will have a different idea. Keep trying until you find one that works. Don't give up on the boy, he needs you very much.

Answer 3

Ask him WHY he is doing this. Usually when there are drastic changes in behavior there are also drastic changes in the child's life.

Honestly I would get another psychiatrist. This is not something I would let go and let him "out grow". Some of it may be a part of hormones, but there is defiantly more going on there.

He needs help, if he says these things at school they legally have to take action (usually involves the police to some extent).

Answer 4

I would consider a different psychiatrist. Someone that is very reputable, preferably associated with a children's hospital. At the age of 10, that kind of behavior is totally unacceptable. Even if he just needs to learn a better way to deal with anger and sharing the limelight, he, and everyone else in his family, will be happier in the long run.

Answer 5

As many others have said, consider finding a different pshychiatrist, someone that specializes in children. I don't think his behavior is very normal, or that he will grow out of it. There are children that tend to misbehave, to a certain extent, and grow out of it, but him threatening to kill his own mother and saying how he would do it, or his sisters, or burning the house down, is just totally out of norm.
I know he's your grandson, and it hurts to hear this things, but his not normal, he needs lots of help, and fast befor he does something.
God bless you and your family, I truly hope he can get the help required and come out of this. I don't know if you are religious, but have you tried taking him to church?

Answer 6

I know this sounds crazy and I would of thought so to until a couple of hrs ago my friend called and told me her six yr old has a brain lesion. The reason I am telling you this is because he behaved the same way they found it b/c he started having grand maul seizurs her doc thinks that it may be a link to his angery out burst.so maybe talk to a doctor .or maybe he just feels like an out cast b/c they have their dad in the home that was an issue for my oldest although she was that violent b/c of it .

Answer 7

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Answer 8

He sounds like he may have bi polar disorder. I have the same disorder and when I am out of my medication I have terrible mood swings. I would have him tested for this along with ADD and autism. Is he learning well in school or is the mood swings his only problem. It could be he is ued to having his way at his other grandparents, but to me it sounds like more than that.

Answer 9

Ahhh spanking...DUH that's where he gets his anger from. He has learned physical violence in the home, his family taught him well obviously. STOP HITTING HIM. Obviously if his parents are hitting him they don't care about him. Anyone who would want to physically harm their child doesn't care about that child.
Hitting a child is only showing proof that the parents don't have the intelligence to parent effectively without resorting to physical violence. Apes hit their offspring. Humans are SUPPOSED to be more intelligent than apes...I guess some still haven't "evoloved". And I suppose it never occured to anyone in the family that he might be going through puberty (if anyone cared they might realize this)

Answer 10

I would be looking at taking hime to another psychiatrist. One who deals in anger managment. He will not grow out of it he needs to learn to control it. He cannot do this by himself. Seek more help