Okay, as most know I am openly lesbian. I've NEVER had a girlfriend who was in any way willing to introduce me to their family, or include me in ANY family event. Example: For the last 5 years of my last relationship, I spent every singled Christmas holiday alone. I was not allowed to spend it with my 'girlfriend'. She left me at home and spent the day with her parents & siblings. She's not the only one to do that! Every single girl I've ever dated does that. Why?
I really don't see how I could be an embarassment. I'm an accomplished & professional singer, a world championship athlete, and now am a law student. I feel like I'm just not good enough for anyone, but looking at my credentials....it doesn't make sense. What's the deal?
2007-07-27 11:43:34 · 6 answers · asked by cyanne2ak 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is never possible that their family doesn't know. I refuse to date women who are "in the closet".
for the "as everyone knows", I've been a part of this Answers Community for a very long time.
2007-07-27 11:52:09 · update #1
There family either doesn't know they're a lesbian, or they aren't comfortable with the fact that they are, and don't want her 'partner' around.
Probably doesn't have anything to do with you personally, more of their families problem with it.
2007-07-27 11:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a) Even if your partners are not in the closet, would it be possible that they only partially went out and made the fact known, say, to friends and workmates, but not to family?
b) Remember that family events are a fairly special and ultra traditional thing. Even if you personally are not an embarrassment, it might still feel incredibly awkward to bring a same-sex partner to a gathering reserved for blood family and spouses. In my own clan, you could not bring your b/f or g/f (I have no gay people there, though) unless you were formally betrothed or living together common law style.
Crossing the threshold of telling family that your gay partner is to be treated as a spouse is one big step, that is still hard to take in our society.
2007-07-28 03:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by Svartalf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should tell you something. None of them was right for you, they were ashamed. My rule would be one Christmas alone, after that if you don't show me off then good-bye to you.
Doesn't matter straight or gay, keep me hidden and you should be ashamed, not me.
Roberta
2007-07-28 23:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"as most know" ... what are you? The Queen of all lesbians or something?
Ask this in the LGBT category.
2007-07-27 18:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they haven't told their that they was a lesibian.Also her family not be open minded when it comes to boyfriend&boyfriend relationship or girlfriend&girlfriend relationship.
2007-07-27 19:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
is it possible that they were ashamed of being lesbian? or their family didn't know about it/didn't accept it?
2007-07-27 18:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by pieninja 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋